What would you do if you found out that your spouse didn't enjoy having sex with you?
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How would you react and what would you do if you found out that your spouse didn't actually enjoy having sex with you and basically just does it to make you happy.
How are our lines of communication? Can we actually talk about this and be productive. If we can’t then sounds like the other person is being bitter instead of us trying to fix it… and I ain’t got time for that. So I’m going to nut one more time for effect as I see myself out that relationshit.
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ChiPaPaGuru
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Then we should not have gotten married. That situation would infuriate me.
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MorgadorXper 6
+1 y
Sit down and talk about it. Maybe there is something wrong, she might be sick. There could be a number of reasons. Communication is everything
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Hispanic-Cool-GuyMaster
+1 y
Ask her how can I make it better? 🤷♂️
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MangospachoGuru
+1 y
If you don’t enjoy sex with your spouse, you should discuss it with him.
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TallAnonMaster
+1 y
Have a chat on how to make it better.
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IHateBeingaManYoda
+1 y
is that what you are currently going through? also, didn't you say your height is over 6 foot? just asking because, i find tall women very gorgeous
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Asker
+1 y
Lol for me no, yes I am 6ft
IHateBeingaMan
+1 y
how often do you have sex with your spouse?
Asker
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That is a very personal and intrusive question.
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IHateBeingaMan
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i apologize
HanrejYoda
+1 y
I'd just shrugg. Doesn't matter to me.
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LegendaryIconYoda
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not sure
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notwokeXper 7
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umm, this is the condition of 95% of 50 yr old married men. Hate to tell you, but I don't know a single man my age at work who is not in this pickle and I work in a building with 1600 people
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OnTheLevelYoda
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I'd ask her what she would like me to do differently
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bigpaulyExplorer
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Try to find out a way to make it more enjoyable for her
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Shy_SteveYoda
+1 y
I would probably wonder why she is with me and if I could improve.
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NeilbudXper 6
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Oooof... I would wonder if she does it cause she likes me or for other reasons.
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Neilbud
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In hind site , I just read a post from a girl that goes through this and she is proud of it. I don't think it's not necessarily a bad thing, but something that needs to be talked through and figured out.
PillarofhellXper 4
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women dont enjoy sex as much as they enjoy seducing tons of guys. truth be told, the happiest life a woman can live is that of a mistress. not a wife.
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Pillarofhell
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I wouldn't be surprised or care
Asker
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Yeah that is bullshit but I am not surprised that you feel that way
Pillarofhell
+1 y
look at the actions of females
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Pillarofhell
+1 y
onlyfans wouldn't exist if it wasn't somewhere in the female psyche to enjoy that type of work
Pillarofhell
+1 y
cheating wouldn't be a thing if it weren't somewhere in the female psyche to take someone else's dude
Asker
+1 y
Only fans and porn wouldn't exist if adult film wasn't such a lucrative industry. Men are the main consumers of porn by a staggering amount. Are you familiar with the concept of supply and demand? If there was no demand, there would be no supply. As for cheating, people are responsible for their own actions. It takes two to tango buddy.
Pillarofhell
+1 y
rape is illegal
Pillarofhell
+1 y
prostitution was illegal. females still opted for it instead of getting with a beta on their lvl
Asker
+1 y
And men still payed for it.. you'd sell your body too if you had no other choice.
Pillarofhell
+1 y
What I would do is irrelevant to what females do because they like doing it
Asker
+1 y
Shocker.. people like sex who would have imagined
Pillarofhell
+1 y
ok so we've proven that marriage is a lifestyle of mutual submission. now all you gotta do is recognize that submission doesn't create more happiness in itself
Asker
+1 y
No shit, no one actually believes that. Marriage is a contract, a legal contract. If you can't take that seriously and honor it, then don't get married or pay the consequences of breaking that contract. It's that simple.
Pillarofhell
+1 y
right so please tell me how that is going to be happier than doing whatever you want especially as an unmarried female with plenty of options
Asker
+1 y
well you're never going to be happy in a relationship with an attitude like. For me I am happy living and loving my best friend, working together as team, raising our son and watching him grow into a little person. It's cuddled up on the couch together on a rainy Saturday morning in front of the fire together. Having someone you can count on no matter what. Long story short I am doing what I want, and I am happy. Though clearly you are not.
Pillarofhell
+1 y
yeah i bet you're happy to eat whatever you like and if he cheats you'll just get half his shit
Pillarofhell
+1 y
materialism and gluttony under the guise of virtue
Asker
+1 y
Half of what? The house I helped buy? Honey at this point you’re grasping at straws. Let me know when you’re ready to have an intellectual conversation like a grown up.
Pillarofhell
+1 y
ok. ill keep enjoying using women for what they offer and not for what they can do long term
Asker
+1 y
I wouldn’t expect any better from you
Pillarofhell
+1 y
logical behavior hurts doesn't it
Asker
+1 y
Actually logical is the last word that comes to mind every time you say something hahahaha you think that learned behaviors can be passed down through genetics lol
Pillarofhell
+1 y
yeah because I look at reality I dont look at dictionaries and call semantics science
Asker
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Lol do you even know what science is?
Pillarofhell
+1 y
observations tested with experiments that deduce the truth
Asker
+1 y
the intellectual and practical activity encompassing the systematic study of the structure and behaviour of the physical and natural world through observation and experiment. The key words being intellectual and systematic study, from what I’ve seen you aren’t capable of either
Pillarofhell
+1 y
long ass way to call my schizophrenic
Asker
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No I wasn’t implying that, I was implying that your are too blinded by your own pride and ego to be able to think about things logically, that and you’re a shitty person who uses people
Pillarofhell
+1 y
I recognize women are in a bad spot of having period after period and being incredibly horny... maybe hornier than men nowadays. but that's their choice. If they don't want to get pregnant then I don't want to stick around. I'd be there for the kid not her
JouthExplorer
+1 y
My only choice would obviously be to go oof off a roof.
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dolemite89Yoda
+1 y
dump her
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SouthcoastradwolfXper 4
+1 y
Guys. Truth be told, you know that your sex with your wife of over 10years is as stale as fuck. You shag in the same two positions as every one else. She only does it to keep you off her back for another few days.
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Asker
+1 y
Then you should maybe put some effort in man… I’m just a thought
Southcoastradwolf
+1 y
It’s not me that doesn’t put the effort in. My wife just isn’t that interested in sexual gratification. My girlfriend on the other hand is all over it. My wife knows this so it works for us.
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5 42I’d be deveststed
How are our lines of communication? Can we actually talk about this and be productive. If we can’t then sounds like the other person is being bitter instead of us trying to fix it… and I ain’t got time for that. So I’m going to nut one more time for effect as I see myself out that relationshit.
Then we should not have gotten married. That situation would infuriate me.
Sit down and talk about it. Maybe there is something wrong, she might be sick. There could be a number of reasons. Communication is everything
Ask her how can I make it better? 🤷♂️
If you don’t enjoy sex with your spouse, you should discuss it with him.
Have a chat on how to make it better.
is that what you are currently going through? also, didn't you say your height is over 6 foot? just asking because, i find tall women very gorgeous
Lol for me no, yes I am 6ft
how often do you have sex with your spouse?
That is a very personal and intrusive question.
i apologize
I'd just shrugg. Doesn't matter to me.
not sure
umm, this is the condition of 95% of 50 yr old married men. Hate to tell you, but I don't know a single man my age at work who is not in this pickle and I work in a building with 1600 people
I'd ask her what she would like me to do differently
Try to find out a way to make it more enjoyable for her
I would probably wonder why she is with me and if I could improve.
Oooof... I would wonder if she does it cause she likes me or for other reasons.
In hind site , I just read a post from a girl that goes through this and she is proud of it. I don't think it's not necessarily a bad thing, but something that needs to be talked through and figured out.
women dont enjoy sex as much as they enjoy seducing tons of guys. truth be told, the happiest life a woman can live is that of a mistress. not a wife.
I wouldn't be surprised or care
Yeah that is bullshit but I am not surprised that you feel that way
look at the actions of females
onlyfans wouldn't exist if it wasn't somewhere in the female psyche to enjoy that type of work
cheating wouldn't be a thing if it weren't somewhere in the female psyche to take someone else's dude
Only fans and porn wouldn't exist if adult film wasn't such a lucrative industry. Men are the main consumers of porn by a staggering amount. Are you familiar with the concept of supply and demand? If there was no demand, there would be no supply. As for cheating, people are responsible for their own actions. It takes two to tango buddy.
rape is illegal
prostitution was illegal. females still opted for it instead of getting with a beta on their lvl
And men still payed for it.. you'd sell your body too if you had no other choice.
What I would do is irrelevant to what females do because they like doing it
Shocker.. people like sex who would have imagined
ok so we've proven that marriage is a lifestyle of mutual submission. now all you gotta do is recognize that submission doesn't create more happiness in itself
No shit, no one actually believes that. Marriage is a contract, a legal contract. If you can't take that seriously and honor it, then don't get married or pay the consequences of breaking that contract. It's that simple.
right so please tell me how that is going to be happier than doing whatever you want especially as an unmarried female with plenty of options
well you're never going to be happy in a relationship with an attitude like. For me I am happy living and loving my best friend, working together as team, raising our son and watching him grow into a little person. It's cuddled up on the couch together on a rainy Saturday morning in front of the fire together. Having someone you can count on no matter what. Long story short I am doing what I want, and I am happy. Though clearly you are not.
yeah i bet you're happy to eat whatever you like and if he cheats you'll just get half his shit
materialism and gluttony under the guise of virtue
Half of what? The house I helped buy? Honey at this point you’re grasping at straws. Let me know when you’re ready to have an intellectual conversation like a grown up.
ok. ill keep enjoying using women for what they offer and not for what they can do long term
I wouldn’t expect any better from you
logical behavior hurts doesn't it
Actually logical is the last word that comes to mind every time you say something hahahaha you think that learned behaviors can be passed down through genetics lol
yeah because I look at reality I dont look at dictionaries and call semantics science
Lol do you even know what science is?
observations tested with experiments that deduce the truth
the intellectual and practical activity encompassing the systematic study of the structure and behaviour of the physical and natural world through observation and experiment. The key words being intellectual and systematic study, from what I’ve seen you aren’t capable of either
long ass way to call my schizophrenic
No I wasn’t implying that, I was implying that your are too blinded by your own pride and ego to be able to think about things logically, that and you’re a shitty person who uses people
I recognize women are in a bad spot of having period after period and being incredibly horny... maybe hornier than men nowadays. but that's their choice. If they don't want to get pregnant then I don't want to stick around. I'd be there for the kid not her
My only choice would obviously be to go oof off a roof.
dump her
Guys. Truth be told, you know that your sex with your wife of over 10years is as stale as fuck. You shag in the same two positions as every one else.
She only does it to keep you off her back for another few days.
Then you should maybe put some effort in man… I’m just a thought
It’s not me that doesn’t put the effort in. My wife just isn’t that interested in sexual gratification. My girlfriend on the other hand is all over it. My wife knows this so it works for us.
I would definitley feel shitty.