Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health When's the right time to ask about a new person's sexual history?
Anonymous
This is assuming you're dating a new person with the intention of a serious relationship. When would you ask if they're virgins, past partners, stds, preferences, religious factors, etc...
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It's pretty interesting that there are so many comments saying never while the poll leans quite heavily toward 2-5 dates. I imagine those who want to hide their history want to justify it the most
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What Girls & Guys Said
13 30First contact
When she /he is ready to tell you...
It is one of those things that are personal. To one person having 10sexual encounters, it seems ok. But some having 2can be two many. Or are you going to judge someone else with your sexual history, or orientation...
Never
I ask if they're a virgin early on, because that determines how long it will take before I am willing to have sex with them.
A would say not important, only once ave had a girl ask me to get std checks
Its easy... dont ask... ask about stds yeah but dont bother asking anything else because for 1 she's gonna lie and 2 its none of your business
First date
It is not important to ask that.
It should be done when you are both comfortable with each other, if you are ashamed then you probably don't trust them enough and shouldn't be doing it
How about never? I just want to bone the bitch, not listen to her life story.
I'd say don't ask about that unless you plan on getting married/ CMR. I wouldn't get married though, cus the laws suck, but for CMR I wouldn't stay with a woman with a bc over 1. CMR is committed monogamous relationship (basically married but not married)
Why wait. Ask when you feel
Being a virgin should only later if. You are one asking about past relationships can lead to negative feelings on both parties should ask about she's before having sex
Just let it come you don't have to force it
Gotta love the "Never" comments. Relationships are a major investment of time, money, and emotion... If you are willing to invest that much into someone you have zero history of... I have some stock I will also sell you since the history of the investment doesn't seem important to you. I mean what do you have to lose right.
The only people who have issue giving out their history are the ones with shady pasts.
There are also seemingly some people who have been raised to believe that judging others is wrong, even though they'll end up doing it anyway.
Why do you want to know their sexual history? What isthe poinr of this?
@kim45456 For the same reason you'd want to know if your partner was a criminal, a pedophile, a drug user, etc. It shows their character and if you are investing your time, emotion, and energy in someone you want to know they are morally and physically not garbage.
What? I dont understand why you need to know with whom your future sleep aroundor what she does in her bed
@kim45456 Like I said, usually it's the women who have had lascivious past who believe this shouldn't be a thing. Would you want to know if the person you were planning to spend your life with was of value or not? A relationship if a massive investment and we put more care and expect more quality when buying a car than we do a life partner? That doesn't seem logical. If your partner had a past which showed they had no morals, quality, class, or basic respect for themselves... why should someone who does be expected to accept them as a life partner now that they decided they want to pretend it shouldn't matter? Should child rapist, murderers, and other garbage humans get to say... well that was the old me, I don't wanna talk about it... therefore it shouldn't matter. NO.
I prefere virgin men but i know that is stupid of me
"Should child rapist, murderers, and other garbage humans get to say... well that was the old me, I don't wanna talk about it... therefore it shouldn't matter. NO." - oh ok i get it now
Wow. I am literally shocked to see so many open minded, nice, humble and not judgy male opinions.
Never
Beyond STD's, do we really have to know someone's sexual history? Just curious as to what you think.
I wouldn’t. That’s not something I want to know.