Why are men afraid of others getting turned on by their partner and wanting to have sex with them?

It is super insecure but most men are afraid of other men seeing their girl naked or in a sexual way because they get turned on but that. Why are they worried about people getting turned on by their partner

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  • They shouldn’t be afraid of other men being attracted to their partner.


    Because why wouldn’t other men be attracted to their partner?


    If their partner is remotely attractive, a guy should expect their partner to attract attention.


    It’s unavoidable.


    Now, posting naked (or nearly naked) pictures of themselves? That’s a different story. That sounds like their partner is going out of their way to attract attention.


    In that case, this isn’t an unavoidable situation anymore.


    They’re putting themselves out there, intentionally attracting male attention. (Pervy-male-attention at that.)


    That comes off as very validation-seeking and insecure to me.


    Unless that’s their job to post content like that, it would be a turn off to me.


    If it was their job, then it wouldn’t be a turn off per se.


    But, I’d rather them have a different profession before considering a serious relationship with them.


    If they don’t want to switch professions, that’s fine by me. It would just mean we’re incompatible, but they may be very compatible with someone else.

    • It’s less about how other men view your woman and more about how your woman is handling that male attention. Are they acting loyal? Or is she feeding into that attention and trying to sexually entice men to give her more validation? Like if a man flirts with her, is she going to put that to a full stop, or is she going to flirt back? Etc.

    • If it is unavoidable, men shouldn't be afraid of other men and as intelligent animals we should trust our partners to be responsible

    • @bigboy133 Having an attractive partner that is attractive to other men, not just yourself, is unavoidable. Unless you are with a partner that nobody but you are attracted to. Yes, men should trust their partners to be responsible. That would also imply that their partners don’t dangle meat in front of a pack of hungry wolves, which is just asking for trouble. Flirting with other men or posting pictures of oneself naked would be dangling meat in front of wolves.

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  • aside from what you refer is being cuckery.

    this girl is mine either by blood relation (who would want their female family members to be eye fucked?) or mate bonding.

    i as a male, don't share my females, we instinctivly don't want other males bloodline to spread and especially not with our partners, so much that we don't even want our partners to be looked and fantasized in that way.

    also insecure? i'm seriously starting to get sick of this jealousy equals insecurity shit, no it doesn't, even non-monogamous animals doesn't want any other male in the same terriotory as their female and i seriously doubt a tiger can feel insecurity (asuming he has such a feeling inside him anyway)

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  • A lot of guys want less attractive women cause the odds of the less attractive women cheating is lower then the odds of a very good looking women cheating on them. If you’re a 9 and your girlfriend is a 7, she won’t cheat on you.

    • It's true but for me it is crazy that so many people are afraid their partner will cheat

    • That doesn't really make a lot of sense either, someone can cheat regardless of what they look like, is that the same for men? I had a ex who was like the ugliest guy ever lol but at the start of our relationship I chose his "personality" together 8 years he went onto some dating site while we were together met up with someone else and had sex with them so full cheated. so looks doesn't matter!

  • The men should be proud and want to show off their woman if she's a turn on to other men. There is no reason to hide your woman away unless you feel threatened that other men might be better than you and steal her.

    • I would have to think it's a slight ego bump, if a significant other receives a compliment from an individual other than their partner. I'm not talking about lewd conduct, just a simple, classy compliment.

    • I agree it should be a ego boost

    • I totally agree with this. I always want my wife a flaunt herself when she's out.

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  • My guy is totally OK with other guys checking me out, he knows I'm ALL his all the time. It helps that he's 6'7" and very athletic and strong, keeps the other guys honest, lol!

  • It turns me on to see my partner can be a tease there's nothing to fear. I know my partner won't cheat. If my partner wants to be with someone else we will do it together and have fun doing it. It's just sex but at the end of the day we love eachother and love is love and the bond just get stronger knowing that we have eachother regardless of who we persu for some fun. We perfer males and couples that are open minded and do restrictions.

    • Damn, that's hot...

  • A question I had for a while, this was helpful to learn. I’d hope when I put effort and time to looked nice for my person, they would be proud, feel lucky, cherish me abit more, and maybe show me off who they have~ but I have been on this receiving end as well…

  • The real question here is why are other men seeing your girl naked or in a sexual way in the first place? To the women out there, would you be “insecure” if your man could be seen naked or in a sexual way by other women who are turned on by him?

    • I asked a similar question before but it seems most women are not worried about their man being seen naked

  • I think it's easy to be concerned about losing your partner early in a relationship/dating. It's not something I ever really worried about, but it is likely that others will find your significant other attractive. I think it's very apparent that infidelity is quite common in the world today, so having that insecure moment is going to happen from time to time if you are worried about losing her.

    • Fair enough. But men should surely be able to trust their woman not to procreate with another man?

    • I certainly trust mine. We definitely have close friends who have gone through divorces because of cheating.

    • Your response is hilarious. Women actually cheat on a more massive scale than men do. Not too mention the women that do cheat often get pregnant with the other guys kid, but lies and tells her husband that it's his kid. Being responsible men they raise the kid believing it's theirs. All while the wife knows for a fact that it's not her husbands, stay quite and if possible, takes it too the grave with her. So again please tell me, why should men trust women?

  • For me, it's less about other men giving her attention and more about the attention she returns to her suitors

  • In some relationships, there is insecurity and lack of trust. If a guy knows another guy is interested in his girl, he might wonder if she would prefer the other guy.

  • Sex, sometimes causes a relationship to 'blow up' in your face. Trust me, it happens.

  • Maybe they don't want a low quality slut for a mate that purposely tries to get attention from others.

    by the way, you aren't very convincing that you are actually a man's account.

    • Why do you say this. I am a 41 year old male and I always wondered why fellow males get so protective over their girls

    • Only cowardly, weak "men" allow themselves to be disrespected like that.

  • If you have chosen well. others will be attracted. My home front is much like her. It's flattery, not fear.

    Why are men afraid of others getting turned on by their partner and wanting to have sex with them?
    • How is the photo relevant I don't understand

    • You'll never understand.

  • Inherently we want a sole monopoly of a girl's breeding capacity. We want that because evolution rewarded those men that did with more progeny. Those men who were happy with a girl that would take on the whole male side of the tribe would have had less success.

    It is exactly why we prefer young nubile girls to granny's.

    Being men we know that if we are sexually excited by a girl we want to fuck her.

    I don't see this as complicated.

    • Thanks, this makes it a lot clearer for me

    • You are welcome. Evolutionary biology explains a lot about us and it is well worth reading up on. Both a combination of physical and behavioral patterns help to knock up the girl. If a behavior pattern helps why wouldn't that behavior develop alongside physical characteristics like sticky viscous semen that coagulates around the cervix? In most species, the males know when the female is ovulating from pheromones and visual clues. But the human female has hidden estrus - doesn't give off those ovulation cues. So the best male strategy is to give her a shot a day. In other species the males aren't interested if the female isn't giving ovulation signals but we need to be interested all the time. AND be careful of other males ALL the time. Research into strippers tips showed they get more tips when they were ovulating and concluded men could sense a girl was ovulating. However other research indicates that girls are more flirtatious during ovulation and more inclined to wear tight cleavage tops and short skirts plus feel attraction to bad boys. Obviously human males have more mate guarding to do than other species males!!! An interesting thing to me is the shape of our penis head seems well designed to scrape away the cum of the guy who got in before us. Or to push it away from the girl's cervix. Either should reduce the likelihood of his sperm winning.

  • My wife gets a lot of attention... a lot. She dresses modestly and doesn't like the attention. What I will say is I personally would never be with someone that dresses trashy, or slurry.

  • Well, we are animals and all animals are territorial.

    • Fair enough, fair comment however a lot of people on GAG tell me before that humans are not animals

    • All living species are animals. We are just the most intelligent. But still, part of our brain is animalistic

  • It doesn't really make sense to be afraid of it. Men get turned on easily

    • I agree it doesn't make much sense

    • Thank you

  • You answered your own question. Most men are so insecure, they are always in fear of losing their woman to someone else.

  • Men aren't afraid of people getting turned on by their women.. Most of us just don't care if she wants that extra attention as if it's a way for her to feel validation besides him.. You want your SO to get some attention for you to feel more well pleased with your decision, but if your girl just likes to show off that's a different story.

    • Rather I proud off.
    • I don't mind at all anyone gazing my girlfriend.
    • My love being with exposure outfits in public.
    • Wearing skimpiest bikini on beach.
    • Visit Nude beach.
  • When a man gets jealous that other men are attracted to their woman, it's rarely fear of her cheating on him. The fact he's a man and KNOWS exactly what those other men are thinking and planning. It's more of a disrespect factor. Just calling it insecurity is a cop out. It's akin to a POC calling a white person racist just cuz they don't like their point of view. It's lazy and ignorant.

  • Because maybe I’m old fashioned, but I don’t want every guy around to know what my girl looks like naked. Something’s are supposed to be contained within the limits of a relationship in my opinion

  • Yeah I dont really understand why my boyfriend gets pissed if I even mention it , yet I let him see other girls 🤷🏻‍♀️ talk about double standards

    • Let him see other girls how?

    • @jjj101010 he can do whatever he wants

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