Why are most women shamed for having sex with multiple guys?

Why is that? What is wrong with it that woman are shamed for that and I see a lot of woman like that on twitter and tik tok.
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  • Men and women value different things in a partner. This used to be widely understood, but it isn't anymore, because Feminists have done their best to teach women to BECOME the man she really wants to be with. This is why women are far less happy today - they've been taught to go against their nature.

    Anyway, generally, woman want a man who is strong (why so many women today want a TALL man), who is well-educated, who is financially successful, and who has high status (I didn't mention looks because everyone likes beauty). Why do women want these things in a man? Because these traits are strongly correlated with successful long-term relationships and families.

    Men DO NOT SHARE these desires in their female partners - mostly because they already have these things to some degree or other. Instead, men value women who are young (fertile), innocent/inexperienced, feminine, cooperative, family-oriented, and peaceful. Why? Because these traits are strongly correlated with successful long-term relationships and families.

    Women are hypergamous - they are inherently drawn to find the "best" man they can get. This was a survival strategy. But this also means that women are constantly comparing every man they've been with against the guy they're currently with, and if the current guy doesn't match up to any of their past men in any area, it's going to bother her. Her hypergamy means she wants to "level up" in every area every time - despite how unrealistic that is in reality. She can be with a fantastic guy who she knows is great - but maybe he doesn't have as high a degree as a guy from her past, or isn't as good a dancer, or doesn't make as much money, or isn't as tall, or whatever. Even if he's better than the past guys in 90 different ways, the 1 way that he's not will bother her, and over time, it will make her unsatisfied. She'll complain to her friends about it, and they'll tell her to "dump that bum and take him to the cleaners" and likely, she will. Just look at girls here on GaG - anytime a girl complains about her relationship, tons of other girls - who may only know 1 minor thing about the relationship - tell her to dump his ass.

    Men understand this, and they understand that the more people a woman has dated, much less slept with, the harder it will be for her to be satisfied with any man in the future. And since men tend to have much more to lose, given that courts STRONGLY favor women, men see women with more men in their past as being of lower value.

    What does THAT mean? For some men, it means that they'll just show no interest in her and stay away, or keep her at arm's length and never get too close to her (keep her as an acquaintance rather than a friend). For other men, they simply see her as "only good for sex" - meaning they'll give her attention as long as she gives him casual sex, but he'll never seriously consider her for a relationship. The thing is, most women don't realize that he's made that decision - she'll tell herself that he sees her as a relationship partner, when he only sees her as a chick to bang for a while.

    Like it or not, you'll never change what men value in women, just like men can't change what women value in men. We have very good reasons for valuing the things we do. And, yes, there are going to be exceptions to every rule, but exceptions are just that: rare anomalies. The vast majority of people are "the rule", and the rule will apply to them.

    • Always words of gold with ya

    • What a bunch of baloney honestly. I am not "Hypergamous"! In fact, I'd dated a lot of MEN that were like this, including my last one! He broke up with me because he thought I wasn't good enough for him! He wanted someoe/something better or whatever I believe. I also went out with a HOMELSS man with drug issues in the past so hypergamy really? ? ! Only EVIL people of both genders do that! And people need to WORK to make a living, it's not because they WANT to really! Your 4 upvotes is telling me a lot of about the mentality of the people here sadly. "Anyway, generally, woman want a man who is strong (why so many women today want a TALL man), who is well-educated, who is financially successful, and who has high status (I didn't mention looks because everyone likes beauty). Why do women want these things in a man? Because these traits are strongly correlated with successful long-term relationships and families." Strong is good yeah, for protection, but why is that needed when you're armed? ? ! Also, not all young women are Peaceful. Have you seen the women that are out there these days? ? ! Lol, LGBTQ type of women, etc.

    • and what makes you think men aren't hypergamous when they are always trying to date women 20 years younger?

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  • Bottom line is dudes are insecure. If they think it’s “gross” or whatever, I don’t understand why it’s any less so for a guy who gets around.

    A lot of people struggle with the idea of their partner being with somebody else, even before they met them. I don’t like to think about it either, but I don’t let it eat me alive, and I wasn’t living in a monastery either, so who would I even be to object? After your teenage years, you aren’t going to be planting any flags in new territory, so just don’t fuckin’ worry about it, lmao.

    I think with dudes there’s an added pressure in sex for us in that we’re doing a lot of the delivery, so how good or bad the sex is depends pretty heavily on us. A woman, to some extent, sort of just “be there” and it’s still adequate. Guys have to get hard, stay hard, most positions constitute exercise for us even before you get into to rythym and all that, and all the while most of us seem to have some crippling complex that the guys before us were bigger or better or whatever. We know women are hot commodities and they can be stolen away in an instant by a superior competitor, and that freaks men the fuck out, I think.

    Men seem much more solely driven by sex than women, yet the sex comes harder to us and it comes easily to women, if they want it. It’s a scarcity of resources reaction in some aspect. It’s why men fight over women….”if she fucks YOU then who am I gonna fuck?”, that’s what it boils down to. It’s relatively hard to find the next one, at least one that meets your personal standards. So you hold on for dead life when you get one (yet we fuck it up the second we have options🤦‍♂️😂).

    Guys are just perpetually sexually insecure, despite outwardly projecting confidence. You ever meet the white guys who don’t want women who have been with black guys? What do you think that’s about? What stereotypes are they operating off of?🤔😂 But you can’t look outwardly insecure, that looks weak, and in male circles, just about the worst possible thing you can be is weak. So our brains do gymnastics and we learn to blame others’ behaviors and attitudes rather than our own because it’s psychologically easier to handle. If I break up with my girlfriend, I might go on a dry spell. She’s on a new dick the next weekend, if she wants. It’s at-will, and we guys HATE that, both due to insecurity and jealousy.

    So that’s all going on internally, and it just manifests itself as the standard slut-shaming you see in the world. But some wild shit is going on beneath the surface on the way to that action, haha

    • I don't think it has anything to do with sex really.. because if a man only wants sex he doesn't care if she's been with 10,000 dudes. As long as she doesn't have some horrible disease to give him. Now when it comes to taking a woman seriously that's a different story. You'd be a fool to take someone seriously if you don't or cannot trust them to be loyal. So it boils down to the question of if she behaves like someone who isn't loyal, can she be loyal? Now, of course, women who want to sleep around a lot don't want guys to notice/care about that behavior. It's like a hardcore gambling/drug addict getting upset because you don't want to give them money when they claim it's to feed their kid.

    • Couldn't agree more. Well said brother!

    • @hahahmm well, I mean…promiscuity when single and ability to be loyal when committed aren’t the same thing, though, so I’m not ready to just assume someone who lived life and slept around at one point is unable to shut that off and get hopefully the same amount, if not MORE sex, with just one person. If you sleep with a hundred people one time each, or you sleep with one person a hundred times, that’s still the same volume of sex. So you’re replacing the sex 1-for-1 in that aspect if it’s a frequency issue. STDs are real and there’s for sure a health component to consider, but if everyone can submit a clean STD test, it was all no harm, no foul. If you want to wonder about sexual expression being a result of past psychological trauma, we can have that discussion, but I look at that problem (if it is one) with compassion for the person and the root cause, not disdain for the result.

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  • High Value is a Key Word

    1. Women who can't say "No" are viewed weak. Some men lose respect once they think a woman's been with too many men, even themselves included. Biologically... some members here mentioned about this already. Yes I agree. (Though from what I've learned so far there's a reason why male and female bodies were designed as we are now.) And to me it's not like men can have multiple partners either. High value men to me means they have standards as well. Everybody has the right to choose. On the other hand, we all would like to be the special one. Right?

    2. This behavior also implies that women's ability to evaluate potential risks is low. How come they can trust men they don't get to know long enough to be intimate with? If it's purely because of instant gratification, it's impossible to be seen as a good long term partner. If they don't learn from the past and still repeat the pattern... (insert your interpretion here.)

    I've been reading most of these comments. Thanks to you guys for more references.

  • Monogamy was created by men, so the less physically fit men would have a chance to reproduce too. Now men look down on monogamy, not realizing it’s something they created and imposed on women…

    Men don’t like the thought of women possibly conceiving from other men.

    Which historically a lot of women have done.

    Men know that the type of women they are physically attracted to, are also attractive to the vast majority of other men.

    So, a woman can literally pick anyone she wants.

    Man has only one thing left - To make you feel ashamed, looked down…

    And it works…

    I am monogamous, possibly because my ancestor females were too.

    • Monogamy had to be practiced by women because they needed the biggest and strongest man to protect and feed them. It was not however practiced by men which is why you've likely heard the term 'bastard' where a married man had a kid with some other woman. Resultingly, nothing would happen to the man, the married woman, though upset, wouldn't leave because she was still under his protection, and the other woman recieved no protection, and was pretty much regarded as a leper

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  • It is the opposite. When you look at this photo, they're actually trying to touch her. But their fingers are too short. #sizematters

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    • @bean2k25_ wtf? I made it definitely more than 2 thousand characters long and still 2 nerds actually wrote longer opinions? Nooooo I am losing MHO.

    • People underestimate the importance of long fingers for inflicting punishment on slaves.

    • @bean2K25_ your other opinion on Rachel's cuckoldry quest... I don't know if you saw my post it was pretty fucking hilarious. "Why not make a trolling video of yourself screaming "INSERT YOUR MOM'S NAME HERE" each time the guy cummers? You'll be the next big online troll sensation, and I'll be there in the comments section, cheering you on, all the way from my mom's basement. Trust me, it's the perfect life for a troll like me.

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  • Because they are Hoes maybe? How many "multiple" guys are you talking about? Going through the whole senior class or just a few in a year? A virtuous woman is highly praised while a skank isn't.

    Why are most women shamed for having sex with multiple guys?
  • Double standards. But it’s your body, you do you girl.

  • It's the ageless double standard.

  • Multiple guys at the same time or consequently?

  • Despite the availability of contraceptive prophylactics, Natural inclination is for fertilization and near absolute certainty of 'who's heir's offspring is resulting. Even the staid Hebrews genuinely ONLY trace their parentage via the mother, SINCE only she has the greatest firsthand insight whom she's lain with during her fertile period. Whether out of marital 'duty' or for recreational pleasure... NATURE doesn't care as long as 'conception results. Species continuance is the end game.
    And... Western society places GREAT importance on a girl's FIRST experience (good or ill) some... to their ignorance as 'damaged goods' or 'soiled doves'.

    Consider WHO'S doing the shaming.
    Personally, I'd PREFER to be remembered, as he who brought her most pleasured intimacy and THAT factors MANY aspects, including arousing HER enthusiastic participatory concupiscence!

    Regale me NOT, with HOW MANY you've bedded; that's circumstantial 'salesmanship'. INSTEAD, boast of how many bid you return yet AGAIN another day; ...

    Why are most women shamed for having sex with multiple guys?

    THAT is skill & 'craftsmanship'!

  • Well lots modern women are actually “proud“ of promiscuity nowadays. Since college (which was a long time ago for me) I can count the times on one hand I’ve heard a man call a woman a “whore, slut, etc.”. In fact I more often hear women openly shaming other women over promiscuity vs men openly shaming women (we often judge silently)

    However I personally go back and forth on this. I often get pissed off at lot of unchecked societal double standards modern women enjoy (and refuse to acknowledge). But I also get the point on this particular double standard young men get to enjoy or at least used to.

    Years ago it was true to that younger men are praised for sexual promiscuity (especially if the women they getting are attractive) and women were shamed for it. But on the flip side if a young man was not good with women he often got teased, shamed and bullied for it (which only double downed on his insecurities). However all a young woman has to do to stay pure was say no. She wouldn’t be judged harshly if she never had a boyfriend and/or was a virgin the same way a young man would.

    Anyway here are a few pointers to consider:

    • Women are still the gatekeepers of sex. Even in the “modern” world it’s still guys who are expected to approach women and stick their necks out to make something happen. Yes more women are approaching but it’s nowhere near 50/50 (probably never will be). This takes: looks, courage, risk taking, game, timing, luck, money, time, etc. Women just have to look good, not be completely insane and say “yes” or “no” to being propositioned. If they are at least semi attractive then men will always approach them.
    • Men who get lots of female action are judged as “in demand” and valuable. There are psychological studies where two control groups of women were shown random pictures of men. One group saw men in pictures by themselves. The other group saw pictures of men next to attractive women. The guys who were standing next to hot women were overall rated as more attractive by women (no surprise). They did the same study for men rating attractiveness in women by themselves or alongside men. The woman being alone or with somebody had zero impact on the man’s judgement of how attractive the woman was.
    • The female body is not built for promiscuity. This is simple biology but one man can get multiple women pregnant in one night. Obviously a woman can get only get pregnant by one man. That’s not “sexist” that is simple hard coded biology.

    Now men do have a hypocritical role in pressuring women to hook up but at the same time judging women who do so (with other men besides themselves). I’m aware of that paradox.

    However I can also tell you that as men age they get less and less “respect” for being promiscuous. There comes a day when a man is looked at as no better then a promiscuous women at a certain age. The creep factor goes up.

    Anyway if you asked this same question 20 to 30 years ago it would be more relevant. But from my observations the “slut shaming” coming from men is not what it once was.

  • Because men don't want women like that in a serious relationship. We don't want the woman who is getting seed from other dudes in her pretending to be pregnant with our baby or kissing us with some other dude's seed all over her. Well, not those of us who are actually normal/healthy. Women are free to shame men for sleeping with lots of women but they don't. Men & women don't have the same ideas/concepts about the opposite gender.

    Also women aren't really shamed these days compared to say 30+ years ago. You have what feminists always wanted: sexual freedom. It's just that you will be held accountable for your life choices by men who aren't interested in that kind of women. Feminists were wrong when they thought they had the power to ignore/silence men's opinions, thinking that meant they took a man's power. They did not.

  • Because BIOLOGICALLY women aren’t built to screw multiple men. They get attached easily. And if a woman isn’t able to get attached easily to one male after sex.

    Chances are something is wrong with her psychologically. Like trauma. Or childhood r—pe..

  • It's biologically driven, women select and men pursue, which is why that hasn't changed despite "equality". Women will chase "high value" men, usually players/chads in their youth, and then they get bored when they try to settle down because they've made their sex life into something like a drug addiction. It's actually difficult for a man to sleep with very many women unless he's good looking or high value in some way; poor men, especially those born into poverty with single mothers who slept around, usually can't even get a date until they've sorted out their psychological problems (single mothers don't know how to raise boys, and just because that boy praises her up like a pet emotional tampon most single mothers think they're great), built their working lives up, and quite frankly in a poor economy a good chunk of men just die alone. The dynamics are not the same AT ALL. People are valued for achieving difficult things, not for just showing up and being given things, and women can mostly just show up...

  • Because when body count hits a certain level , she is considered just an ultra Slut , and thats probably what she is.

    • But the question was, why are women considered "ultra sluts" and not men?

    • Because its easy to run up massive numbers , so of course the woman will always be considered the ultra ultra slut ! Vastly different for a man , not even remotely the same.

    • It is remotely the same though.. Body counts are still body counts regardless of if its a man or woman

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  • Becaaause we shame them. And they're too weak or dumb to justify it.

  • I'll keep this short. People like to point fingers and make fun of others, because they are immature and seek to direct attention away from themselves and their behaviors. A woman who has lower self-esteem partially due to others ridiculing her behaviors will continue to be target for ridicule , as well as a girl who might be easier to get in bed.

  • historically men hold the power and provide the resources. women raise the children.

    which of the males is the father, and which of the fathers is going to stay around and support the woman for the next 30 years raising her offspring and supporting her when she's vulnerable?

    If you'vechangedthe world where you (woman) have the power, you've got a harem of men (ior a man) you control to care for your offspring, then so be it.

    If you have more than one offspring by different' men (baby daddies)... I just don't see evidence that works very well in society or the world.

    So do that... you've got a complicated mess on your hands. Emotionally it won't work, phsyically it will cause suffering for her and the offspring.

    It's much easier to keep things "sane" and stable and constent, for the betterment of all parties.

    It's just how things are structured in nature. you want to be creative... it's your life and choice... don't blame me when problems occur and there is suffering. The only value to doing what you do is to get pregant... but it has the risks noted... lack of support.

  • Women like sex just as much as men and are still shamed for it. It doesn't make any sense. I wish women could be free to be who they want to be, but it's going to take decades of reprogramming. But hopefully we will get there one day.

  • Women in general are forced by society to repress our sexual urges. If we don't do that it's shamed. I say it's best to ignore anyone that's shaming for this. If a woman wants multiple partners that's her choice. We are acutally made to have sex with multiple men. That's why we can go all day having sex and men can't. The men shaming for this are just jealous of our sexual power that they don't have

    • Not true the longest I've ever had sex was 4 hours and she tapped out

    • @EstevanMadrid898 maybe she was tired or bored. Most women can easily go non stop

    • She was tired and sore but I meant guys could last a really long time 4 hours is not a amateur in any way

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  • Double standard. Freedom for me and none for thee. Do as I say not as I do. It's a way of controlling people. You'll see societies throughout history and cultures that make certain people follow rules that are not being followed by those that are keeping other's below them. It's not just shaming women and sex it's other things as well. Look at the rules some Arabic nations have for their women that yhe men don't have to follow.

    It's stupid considering humans like sex. Both men and women. But women aren't supposed to enjoy sex as much as men. Horseshit. Tells me that a lot of men don't and will never truly understand women and don't care to. They want women to be their ideal version and not for us to be who we actually are. It's about control. Always will be.

    Just have fun, be safe but have fun. Don't even pay attention to people trying to shame you for an act that we all enjoy and do.

    • @mandyfire98 it's not just societal. there's biological differences. the difference between how male and female dogs react when you fondle them

    • We aren't dogs. These biological differences in humans nowhere does it mean that men and women should be held to different sexual standards. That's bullshit. If you are saying that women can't enjoy sex as much as men on a biological level then you're lying. 100 percent. There is no biological reason that backs up that men should be able to have sex with different partners without shame but women should be shamed for the same thing. You are just making up fake shit to be able to get away with doing something that you don't want another group doing. Bullshit loopholes is all it is. "It's easier for women so men should be praised for it" shut up with that nonsense. That's how a 3rd grader tries to argue to get what they want. Same level of reasoning. It's bullshit and it's stretching so hard muscles are being pulled. Get that redpill nonsense out of here. If men think that both men and women shouldn't have body counts then that's at least a better argument. But to pull the double standard of men should but women shouldn't. That's just literally, I want to but I don't want you to. And that's just a form of population control. "I can but you can't"

    • You out here fondling dogs? 🤢 What in the absolute fuck?

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  • Because a woman that have sex with multiple men is a ho.

  • I think that egregious practice is just about over now.

  • Seems kind of old fashioned.

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