Why are people so hyper focused on sex especially when your horny?

[SeanshterMonster]

I've seen this all the time and there are so many cases where the other persons S/O pressures them into having sex and its horrible. People get horny and can't control themselves but in this world a woman would be much less likely to get in any trouble for that while a man could be filed for rape. Even then, people go onto websites when their horny to satisfy their selfish desire. Its just so wasteful and time consuming. I'm not just talking about men, i'm talking about women too. I've seen so many times people are so consumed by sex or sexual drive that they let it control them and what they do. They should beadle to control themselves. when your privates makes it seem like you're horny you do what you need to have it satisfied. could be masturbating or sex, if its sex then that's using the other person for your own pleasure and that's selfish. All that being horny is its your brain making the chemicals to tell you that, nothing more. If your in love with someone and you want sex, its not that you want to do it with them. its your brain making those chemicals to drive you to get sex from them to satisfy that desire and probably make babies if no protection is used. Other then selfish satisfaction and procreation there is no other use for sex, masturbation only use is selfish useless satisfaction. So why are people so obsessed with it? its just so primitive.

(before anyone says im a virgin or a troll. im not a troll or a virgin. I hated the sex, she forced me into it and I've had a horrific experience in my childhood, And no, i don't masturbate. at least often. last time i did was around 7 months ago. Dont just say "it feels good")

[lightbulb27]

it's nature, if you watch dogs or cats, you'll get an idea of humans... we aren't much of an improvement. There is no controlling inner hormones, which are what "fires" the emotional circuits. Woman and men are like this, at different times.

It isn't all that much different than needing water... it's the strongest of drives to pro-create. Add to it a very selfish and poorly disciplined generation with degraded values, and we've got a cespool of people mating who aren't producing offspring. exactly what the designers of society want... fewer offspring.

there are people who want love, but once love kicks in, they probably want sex.

[SeanshterMonster]

But people throw a lot of things away for sex. also we are not dogs or cats. our minds are much different. i dont get why people dont have self control. sex doesn't do anything and goes nowhere other then its useless, bland, and usually the same things all the time or their freaks who base their relationship off their sex. I've known people to break up over sexual differences or even their S/O not having self control so they force the other person. its honestly just time consuming and so many more important things to better their bond can be done.

[lightbulb27]

we just do what we are trained to do within the confines of what is acceptable. Give a child free reign in the kitchen without any controls and you'll see the mess they make. Train them for proper behavior and you get a Royal. Movies, music, parents, beliefs, etc.. are all training that define parameters for that person. they can control it, they choose not to. I don't have to eat chocolate cake, but still want to. But if I could... I'd have cake B/L/Dinner. Some people have amazing values and control. I've known some and can be still single. This generation has continued the slide in deevolution in values which is supported in our culture. it's frustrating or dispapoinging to see other humans behaving in ways that are destructive to their own life and health. this is the battle laid out in the Bible. we aren't so diff from other animals if we allow ourselves to function at a lower level. watch the riots and see... we are capable of higher functioning w/ creative minds, but that gets us into a lot of trouble as well.

[lightbulb27]

try to have compassion for those you see are lost as well an open mind to realiz9ng they are often not in control of their themselves and have to let their lives play out. It be easy to shift back to love if that is what the culture pushed, but that drug was removed from society around 60's as church was removed and replaced with sex. sex always been there, it was just minimized... now its maximized. you see that in the young people and wht they think and how active they are at young ages. note there is a chemical component as well... girls mature earlier than in prior decades and well before they are mentally ready.

[SeanshterMonster]

i agree with everything you said. Society is ruined and people dont have morals or value a true relationship or love anymore. open mind about it? maybe a little, i dont want to become them. i won't be friends or in a relationship with someone who lacks morals or self control with immoral things such as sex.

[lightbulb27]

agree with that, hold your values. by open I mean, in accepting they were trained to be this way and at this age, they don't want to change nor do they undestand whether anything is even wrong, other than their continual hurt feelings when that occurs. Have compassion for others, it's not easy.. whats that bible phrase, "to dwell in the world, but not be of it". that's not easy. thus really important to align values. most girls strongly desire sex, Id wonder if there are any who do not throughout life. But at least they have control... those people are out there... challenge is once connection starts it's a slippery slope. it's mating, pair bonding and essential to meet the emotional and physical needs of each. that's big challenge in relationship at any age. enjoy your day!

[SeanshterMonster]

you too

[Sevenpointfive]

other than food water fire and shelter the orgasm is a top 5 essential need. i have no reference for that. it's what i believe

[SeanshterMonster]

I guess that's what you believe. My top essential needs for life are diffrent. 1) Food 2) water 3) warmth 4) shelter 5) Family 6) Love 7) Relationship with someone who cares about me not just about selfish desires 8) Best-Friend 9) Friends 10) education 11) experience 12) Work 13) money (Income) 14) loyalty 15) Honor 16) Committment 17) hard-work 18) Honesty 19) Co-workers 20) self-care I dont put sex or anything like that on the list cause people dont need it. It's a social construct to believe you need it when really its just someone a long time ago said you need it and everone agreed just because it felt good when you dont acually need it. It's just peer pressure to do it.

[Sevenpointfive]

you only have 5 spaces not 20

[Anonymous]

What do ya do when ya horny? Cut ya dick off?

[SeanshterMonster]

no. just ignore it. simple as that, continue on with your day. You shouldn't let something that small affect your entire day.

[Opinion Owner]

Small but tough to control desire i would say. U need fucking patience and determination for that which most of the humans lack but some don't (exceptionally). It's easy to quit smoking that this, ig plus its natural so can't just blame people for being horny.

[SeanshterMonster]

I kinda can. Saying you dont have the patience or self control is extremely irresponsible and immature. Its just pulling excuses out of the void to excuse the social construct people say they need sex. When really in the end it's your selfish desires to use someone's body for yourself and extremely perverted. Its basically peer pressure over generations.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok..

[Anonymous]

Because we are horny and want sex.

[SeanshterMonster]

That's not even a valid point. So you just bend over and let selfish chemical hormones take you by control and become a selfish self satisfaction human and when its over you don't care.

[Opinion Owner]

Didn't say couldn't control it. Just saying that it's something that has strong forces with.

[SeanshterMonster]

yes, so why don't people just control it and just don't do it. Do something better with their time.

[Opinion Owner]

Not everyone has that control.

[SeanshterMonster]

i dont get why not. There are people out there lacking self control so when they get horny they will force their partners to have sex with them even if they dont want it?