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Sexual Health Guys, why are some men scared to throatfuck even when the girl asks you to do it?
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Why do guys either refuse or are gentle when you ask them to throatfuck you? Are they scared of hurting me?
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(79)Most men fantasize about throught fucking and start it with there vanilla girlfriend. And then we have to be gentle if we want to do it again
I think most guys are wired to not hurts girls or to be gentle with them
Absolutely a fear of injury. He just needs to warm up. Learn the lay of the land and/or take it for a test drive. That's the only way to learn the limits. Every girl is different.
Well "throatfuck" has so many different potential meanings. Do you just want a casual slow throatfuck, or rough throatfuck where you are gagging. Do you want them to throatfuck you till you feel like you are going to suffocate or not. Do you have experience with being throatfucked cause no one wants to get thrown up on if they don't have to.
I wouldn't be afraid plus I have a fun size cock not too big or not too small just right
Contrary to what feminists think, most men have an instinctive aversion towards harming women. It's like telling a guy to drop a baby on purpose, he couldn't do it even if you insisted. That said, I think most guys realise on some level that many women enjoy rough sex, but it just takes some time for us to really feel where a girl's pain threshold lies. Maybe he thinks he's going 8 or 9 out of 10 on the "rough scale", but for you it's only a 4 or 5. Guys underestimate women's pain threshold because we're taught to see women as more "delicate". If you wanna explore more BDSM/ rough play in the bedroom then you need to be patient and gradually encourage him to extend his own subjective sense of your pain threshold/ tolerance to rough handling.
Think of the analogy of boiling a frog. If you throw the frog into boiling water it will leap out. But if you place it in cold water and gradually increase the heat, the frog won't notice and will stay even when the water boils. Getting men to play rough (who aren't used to playing rough) is very much the same. Make a game of trying to convince him to be just a little bit rougher each time. Have him turn up the dial gradually, so over time he can reorient his perceptions of what you can comfortably receive.
am not a fan of throating at all. often winds up involving vomit and thats a show stopper. the overly thick saliva and/or snot very likely would end it too.
Sometimes girls think they know how to suppress gag reflex but are unable to when the real live performance starts and that can be scary. You don't want to asphxisiate anyone who is nice enough to be giving you a blowjob.
yes that would be scary
cause it doesn't really seems like something that would feel good xD
It doesn’t but that’s the fun of it ;)
That and the gauging and chocking sound does not help.
are you a masochist? xD
Very much so
well there you go xD most men aren't sadists. that's why.