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Why did this guy I really liked do this to me?

Okay so I met this guy I actually liked in college. Long story short he told me he was interested in me and took me out for drinks. He was texting me everyday for months. We hung out once and he asked me to blow him I said no and then he said something like we can’t have sex because I don’t have a condom. I did not say yes or no. We didn’t end up doing anything other than kissing. Then I get all of his friends adding me on snap chat trying to sleep with me being really vulgar. He had told people I would get with his friends. So I filed a police report. His friends then continued to harass me online and in public places saying I was on drugs had no job and would sleep with anyone. (I work at corporate). I could understand if he just wanted sex and was playing me or if something really balled but why get all his friends involved? Like did this guy just want me to commit suicide?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You know what thank you for asking this question. Because the guy do you like first of all had no intention of being with you. And of course you're not going to know this until something like this happens. Let me try to explain something when a guy is out on a date with a girl and for me if I really like the girl I'm going to show her and many many ways. And if I had the opportunity to do something sexual with her it would be to make love to her because I want to please her. This is what I want to try to explain any guy that just wants a blowjob on the first date second date whenever. It is all about him that's all he cares about if a guy really loves you he tore likes you and he's going to want to please you so he's going to want to have sex with you. Only a guy that doesn't really care what's a blowjob because he doesn't have to do any work because he's fucking lazy because it's all about him I'm glad you did what you did he goes even further improves it to you by telling all his friends maybe that he fuck you or got a blowjob from you that guy is a punk fucking asshole this is the type of guy I like your fucking smash because he's a little pretty motherfuker did he get what he wanted so who knows what he said about it but for all his friends to start hitting on you that means he said something that probably wasn't true so any girls that are reading this first red flag when you first start going out if the guy just wants a blowjob and doesn't want to make it all about you he's more into himself he's more lazier than anyting pay attention to that I'm sorry that happened to you I think he's a fool I'm looking at your picture and he's an absolutely a big fool

  • You didn’t do anything wrong… good on you for filing the police report… good example for other girls standing up to weirdos…

    Bottom line… the dude has issues… specifically can’t tell you what they are… he needs a psychiatrist eval… but more importantly… the crust of the issue is that he became upset when you refused to give him a b. j.

    He’s obviously very insecure.

    Chalk it up as experience… he probably had a little 🍆 anyway 🥸.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Jesus, I'm so sorry that happened to you. He clearly has no regard for other people, and you should screenshot any conversations with him where he might have acted inappropriately, and definitely the ones where his friends were vulgar.

    Don't let the police ignore you, they might try and play it off like they have better things to worry about but if your scared for your own wellbeing they'll have to take you seriously. Make that clear if it's the case.

    Honestly I would have kicked them in the balls by now, although I'd say refrain from that unless someone puts their hands on you. At that point swing away.

    Good luck, I wish you the best 😣

  • He's a cunt plain and simple

    • He also told me he gets his dog high so he’s not the most upstanding citizen

    • Horrible experience hun but a lucky escape is how i'd choose to look at it

    • I will be scarred for the rest of my life

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  • I obviously don't know the guy, but I suspect that he was just an immature jerk who thought this would be funny. I'm guessing that when you rejected his BJ request, he decided he was done with you, and handled it like a spoiled 6-year-old by trying to make you feel as bad as he felt in that moment. Telling his friends to hit you up for sex was that revenge.

    You didn't do anything wrong (reporting him to the police was probably excessive, but not outright wrong) - you just were unlucky enough to meet a jerk, who presumably was able to hide his "jerkness" until that first date. Don't take it personally, and just move on. Feel free to block his friends.

  • As a Christian, I gladly say he can go to hell. Awful thing to do. Sorry

  • He sounds like a douchebag and good thing you didn’t blow him , He was only after 1 thing from you so the fact he didn’t get it , his immature ass starting making rumors about you , so best thing for you to do is just ignore those losers and block them

  • he sounds like a prick who got upset he didn't get what he wanted... sad really cos if he was a genuine man he would of accepted it and moved on without trying to be a prick

  • Obviously the guy is an entitled jerk. He didn’t have a right to anything from you, let alone a blow job. Is the harassment why you don’t date anymore?

    • That and I have herpes I had found a decent guy but he didn’t want to deal with it

    • Before she and I talked about it, I had decided that if my SO had herpes (1 in 5 have it in the US... not rare) I wanted to continue the relationship. There are never any guarantees but there is always a chance of finding love if you’re open to it.

    • I don't know it was all too bad it might take years

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  • It is a cruel world, Love. People do shitty things because that's who they are. They do it without caring about what the other person thinks.

    Here is the shitty thing I did once.
    A guy told me how he got with a girl and virgin as I was, I wanted to get with her too. So I drew close to her. Became her friend and started wanting to create sexual magic. Turned out, I didn't have the balls to do anything major😉. The brother of said guy was with me, he pounced on her, touched her boobs and kissed her and it all looked like rape to me. After everything I apologised to her for him and myself and explained to her what the Genesis of the story was. We were friends until I changed city. So shitty people do shitty things ☺️

  • Your life is worth more than that guy, I can see straight into him he
    is a player just looking for sexual things and yes that is it, so sad
    my opinion is the guy hasn't grown up and is still attached to momma's
    apron strings also the friends who kept contacting and adding you on
    social media could be him under fake accounts he could be a Catfish
    it's sad that a girl can't go out on a date and not be bugged just for sex
    or sexual favors also remember when you go out for drinks never sit
    your drink down and walk away or go to the restroom cause they
    could slip something in your drinks.. Best wishes :)

  • You hurt his infantile ego by refusing him. He believes having his friends harass you accomplishes something. Obviously you made the right choice when you refused him.

  • Sounds like a grade A asshole that needs his ass whooped.

  • I have no idea why..
    But if so beautiful and innocent girl like you became my girl..
    I would commute to her and show hold her hand and show her off to the world!.

    Not cheat or hurt her.. Sadly All girls like you reject me.. And guys like me..

    And you let the jerks in..
    Remember his friend who wanted to take you out just call him.. And ask him What went wrong.. And he will be honest with you.. Because he liked you..

  • He loves being a n**

  • Sad... be with the guy who respect your point & stop if u r not ready.

  • Sounds like a little boy.

  • Block him and his friends and move on.
    Stop wasting time even thinking about it anymore.

  • No, he's a fucking dickhead. Some men are like that. I'm glad you filed the police report. If it continues sue the bastard.

    • I threatened that

  • Simple answer is:
    a) he's a total loser, psycho bitch
    b) you denied him and hurt his ego
    c) because of "b", and due to "a", he decided to hurt you.

  • He's an absolute sick human being. You did the right thing by going to the police.

  • Just how some petty assholes are. he was figuring you for a slut and when you didn't drop your panties in the first 4 seconds he got scared. He probably likes super slutty or vulnerable women. its his way of having power over you because you're obviously smart confident and strong. He just got butt hurt and did some childish boy shit to try and shame you. you definitely won that war

  • I'm sure he would have a different story and the truth might be inbetween.

    • I would love to know his side

  • That’s super shitty of him. In all honesty he probably meant no harm to you but just wanted to make himself feel better. Anytime I’m with a girl I don’t say a word about it to my friends. That’s just nobody’s business as far as I’m concerned. I don’t know if you can do anything legally but I don’t know shit so who knows. I’m really sorry you had to deal with that. I don’t think many guys do that but I know it’s no unheard of. Really none of my buddies growing up, or even now talk about what happens behind closed doors. Just keep your distance from guys that try to impress people. Again, probably more him trying to impress his buddies rather than hurting you.

    • I get that but what’s with the weird rumors about me from other dudes? How’s that impressive if he supposedly banged a bitch on drugs that has no job and has been with 20 dudes?

    • No shortage of guys looking for something easy….. But I agree with you. That’s not something I have ever done.

    • Guaranteed I was a stoner back in the day. I was never per say on drugs or even really talked to that many guys

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