Why do I need dick so bad but he doesn’t need pussy?

[kareenakapur]

My boyfriend and I been together for 5 years, have been “saving ourself for marriage” but I’m horny aF I’m ready to fuck. But he’s not.

Not for religious reasons per say but he is scared of getting me pregnant mostly and like the cultural aspect of child out of wedlock.

like I’m the girl why do I need dick so bad and he’s fine not having pussy?

[MrOracle]

You have chosen a man with a very low libido, and also a man who clearly isn't very interested in getting married or starting a family. 5 years is an incredibly long time, and I would bet that you still don't have a ring or a wedding date planned. Meanwhile, your most precious value - your youth and fertility - are ticking away every day, and you can never get them back.

in my opinion, you need to REALLY re-evaluate what you are doing, or "tomorrow" you'll wake up and you'll be 35 and still "engaged" to this man and your youth and fertility will be gone, and your ability to attract a better man will likewise be gone.

Average SMV, by age and sex

Your Social Market Value (SMV) has already peaked, though it's still extremely high for now, which means if you act quickly, you still have opportunities to find very desirable men who want a wife and family - but make no mistake: your ability to attract great men isn't going to last but a few more years, and after that, while you'll still be able to attract men, they won't be the ones you can get today, and you'll have to start lowering your expectations - and the more you wait, the lower they'll have to go.

That's just how life works, and you either take advantage of your power while you have it, or you'll be forced to lower your expectations or remain single once its gone.

[CalogeroValledolmo]

You are a charlatan and a sociopath, and happily, the younger generations are not turning out this way and do not think like this.

[MrOracle]

@CalogeroValledolmo The hell they aren't! Just because they might be young still and haven't gotten to the "consequences" yet, that doesn't mean that they won't arrive. Nothing I wrote is new or unusual - it's well-established information, and plenty of women in their mid-30s and 40s will tell you that it's true.

[Minahh]

Yeah man stop this nonsense. Let people live the way they wanna live. Not everybody cares about youth, fertility, starting a family and blah blah blah. Besides that a lot of men are into older women fyi. Maybe your ego is just weak because young women are not interested in you 🤷‍♀️

[kareenakapur]

I’ve heard it before like 30 year old men will just want 20 year olds but I’m chilling I’m young right now

[MrOracle]

@Minahh Plenty of men will BANG an older woman - I'm talking about committed relationships here. The 'net is full of articles and videos of middle-aged women complaining that they can't find a man - but it's not that they can't find ANY man - rather, they can't find a man that they WANT who wants them. They expected to be wanted in their 30s and 40s like they were wanted in their 20s, and it's sobering realization when they figure out that time has passed for them. This isn't anything I made up.

www.theguardian.com/.../plankton-older-women-bottom-of-sexual-food-chain

https://theswaddle.com/feeling-invisible-to-men/

WOMEN wrote these articles - I didn't. You can ignore what I say or blame me for the content, but it won't change how the world works. None of this has anything to do with me - I'm just the messenger here.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"your youth and fertility - are ticking away every day, and you can never get them back." Technically thats not true at all, aging is reversable/preventable in most cases, and not everyone finds fertility or youth as the highest value traits. I for example don't find fertility valuable at all, it's actually infertility thats valuable, since I don't want any kids. I also know how to look 14 at 50, so youth is relative.

[MrOracle]

@TheSpaceGnome No one looks 14 at 50, or anything remotely close. And while you may be a rare exception to the rule, that just means your views are significantly less relevant than the majority.

Here's a chart showing the results of a massive survey of men and women of different ages, who were asked what age the find the opposite sex the most attractive:



If both men and women found people their own age the most attractive, then the results would be more-or-less a perfect diagonal line - much like the women's chart. But look at the men's chart.

Here's another chart showing the age of women that men send messages to on OK Cupid, based on their age. Look at where the green is in the chart:



This data is generated from hundreds of thousands of users - what you and I think is irrelevant; this is what actually happens in the world.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@MrOracle Sorry dude but you're wrong, posting graphs or links does not change how aging works. People tend to age at rates that are drastically so varied, that no rate is common, and your data on who's attracted to who is also wrong. I've seen enough online profiles and people in person to verify the contrary, most people in general, male or female, prefer people within 2-15 years of their own age, with the higher numbers usually associated with 40s and up. And pretty much everyone is incapable of telling a person's age by looks. So even then, they are comparing it to what they think x age is supposed to look like, even though it's not supposed to look like anything.

[MrOracle]

@TheSpaceGnome You're talking about a few exceptions as if they are the rule. This data comes from surveys where HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of people's information was tracked - and the results were NOT what the researchers expected, so it's not that they altered the results to fit their bias. This sample size is far more than is statistically needed to make a reliable model, and it corresponds to similar studies done in the UK, Australia, and the Netherlands, on the populations there. Besides, YOU are talking about who people end up with, I'm talking about what people WANT. You may drive a Honda but WANT a Ferrari - which is why the value of a Ferrari is far higher than your Honda: it's much more rare and much more desirable by far more people.

[horatiohornblower]

That's a really long time. Generally when people abstain for the purposes of marriage. They are looking for marriage and going to get married within a couple years.

I'd be worried that
- He is gay
- He is asexual
- He just has an extremely low libido.

If pregnancy was really his only reason. An IUD and a condom would be more than enough protection. Since he isn't religious. There's got to be a deeper issue. Which I think will continue after marriage.

[kareenakapur]

I don’t think he’s gay or asexual. I’ve given him oral and we ft sext a lot. He’s never had issues cumming. im worried about the last one. I’ve asked him like am I just abnormally horny or are you just less horny. He thinks he’s normal and I’m overly horny. Ngl though I thought guys in early 20’s were much hornier.

[horatiohornblower]

People have different levels of libido. If you marry him. It's not going to change. If he currently only wants to do oral, let's say, once a month. He's not going to magically want intercourse five times a week. Also people's drive tends to go down with age. That also depends on the person though. Like with how much the added stresses and such of life affect their drive. Some people do horribly with stress. At five years. You should either be getting married now or breaking up now. That's just way too long to putter around deciding. It doesn't take that long to figure out if you want to marry someone. More like one of the two doesn't really want to get married but doesn't want to break up either. Because they are comfortable enough as is. However, you will be sexually frustrated all your life if you marry him. If he wants it so little now. That he simply never goes for it and is content to go for five years without marriage. So, he can have it. My guess is you'll have some sex the first few years. Just enough to have a kid or two. Then he'll pretty much never want sex again. Maybe a couple of times per year. Until you give up on asking him.

[kareenakapur]

I hope that doesn’t happen. He’s been saying he feels we are not compatible interests wise. I thought he was going to break up with me. I didn’t pressure him and say how I feel so I wanted him to be fully honest. But he was like no I love you just an observation lol. Like what he scared me lol. I would never break up with him he’s my best friend couldn’t imagine not having him. If we broke up, he’d have to do it lol

[Daniela1982]

Five years and not married yet? What are you waiting for, the Red Sea to part? If you can't get married there is always condoms and birth control. If you use them both at the same time your chances of not getting pregnant are very good. If one fails, like a leaky condom, you at least have a back up with being on the pill.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Five years is a long time, especially if you've taken action to prevent pregnancy, BC, IUD's or whatever, so the risk is low. I mean he could wear a condom too.

I'd never stick around with a guy for five years waiting to get married, that is way too long.

[kareenakapur]

The thing is that we started dating in high school. We were young. We finished college together. And now it’s like we are actually at the age that it’s not as weird to be married

[kareenakapur]

And back in high school and the first 2 years of the relationship I was the one who was like I’m saving myself for marriage. I was a little kid I didn’t know how long it’d be till I was married He’s rubbed against my clit before with a condom and I also am on the pill for non contraceptive reasons. I’m high key bad at taking it though. One day when he was rubbed against me the condom ripped and ever since then he was scared aF I even took a pregnancy test like three times to make sure. He literally didn’t even cum on me

[kyleelyn199723]

Why hasn’t he put a ring on it after 5 years?

[Yuuibtony]

Look the dumb slut

[kyleelyn199723]

@Yuuibtony wow how brave of the 27 year old virgin

[Yuuibtony]

I lost my virginity a decade ago

[kyleelyn199723]

Yeah, okay. Lol I doubt that.

[Yuuibtony]

Don't need to argue about stuff I did but ok

[kyleelyn199723]

Didn’t you start the argument? Weirdo

[Yuuibtony]

Because I am a king thats why

[kyleelyn199723]

Actually you look like a fruit cake, but to each their own 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Yuuibtony]

So u don't like pretty boys?

[kareenakapur]

His parents don’t like me for him lol so he’s trying to convince them

[kareenakapur]

I’m literally a perfect person to take home to your parents by the way his parents are crazy. He wants to make them on board. But yeah we started dating in high school so Obv first year of the relationship was not ready to put a ring on it lol.

[Yuuibtony]

Ypu sounds so lame making up lies about me to insult me which I do not feel offended at all especially somebody hiding with no profile pic

[kyleelyn199723]

@Kareebakapur I just feel like most men wouldn’t wait 5 years to put a ring on it when sex comes into play with it. Why don’t his parents like you? Have you discovered a reason?

[kareenakapur]

Im a different religious sect than them. Yeah he wanted to get married in hs Bc I wouldn’t even let him kiss me. We kissed after a whole year.

[kyleelyn199723]

Hmmm your relationship sounds different than most. I really hope it works out and your religions don’t affect your relationship

[Roco69]

😂😂

[katiesmuff]

He likely is in the bathroom wanking away the urge!

[kareenakapur]

He does wank a lot. We ft sext a good amount. Or I’ll go down on him or give him a hj

[Vikkrram]

Might be he is having some sexual problems that he doesn't want to address. You never talked wid him.
And makin u pregnant hey there are lots of things to prevent makin u pregnant.

I think u should chat wid him that what is his problem.

[wingattebaby16]

you can fix that easy..

go see your obgyn and get on Birth Control.

i am on pills and an IUD.

my stepdaughters are both on the In The Arm thingie and an IUD.

[Juststrollinagain]

wow you need support. Pshhh

[RobT312]

It’s ok to want to have sex. It’s human nature. While I agree with marriage, it’s something made up by humans to formalize that commitment. It has nothing to do with wanting to have sex. That’s why I could not have waited to have sex until marriage. I also think it’s important to be sexually compatible before a commitment. You sound like you may not be compatible...2 different sex drives.

[kareenakapur]

Yeah I made the decision to wait for marriage when I was really young, in high school. I’m older now and I just want to fuck. I’m scared I’m rushing into let’s get married just to get some dick.

[RobT312]

I respect your decision either way. Given that more people are getting married later in life it’s hard to wait!

[SnakeBoop]

Eww, imagine relying on stereotypes on sexual needs.
Your partner does get there's birth control too?

[TheBootyChest]

forgive me for asking but do you guys play around in the meantime?

[kareenakapur]

Yeah we do somewhat I give him oral/hand jobs qe make out he grabs my boobs butt. I highkey don’t think he knows what to do with my pussy though with his hands lol. I’m insecure about him going down on me I know I shouldn’t be.

[TheBootyChest]

What is making you feel insecure about him going down on you? Can you teach him what you want him to do with his hands down there?

[kareenakapur]

he's bad with his hands lol so I like when he uses his dick on my clit but he hasn’t done that for years. One time the condom ripped and so he’s like nah.

[kareenakapur]

I don't know like what do I taste like am I shaved down there is it perfectly clean I don't know. I know he won’t care but I do

[TheBootyChest]

I can understand where you are coming from. I think you guys should talk about this together and find new ways to play around with each other.

[zaharuh]

That's how I know I couldn't wait for marriage

[Yellovv]

Are you that horny?

[zaharuh]

tbh yeah, I'm a hypersexual person

[Yellovv]

What are you doing than?

[kareenakapur]

Same girl same

[Yellovv]

Than, what you gonna do?

[DonkeyDan]

Oh lets hope the 2 of you are sexually compatible because you're a long time married with someone who doesn't satisfy you in the bedroom.
Regarding his ability to abstain, honest to god I don't know how he has lasted 5 years out without getting it from somewhere.

[slatyb]

Sounds like a match made in hell. My first guess is that he’s gay.

[kareenakapur]

I joke about that but he def doesn’t seem to have a hard time getting hard for me

[slatyb]

So how long are you going to stay in this sexless relationship?

[kareenakapur]

Lol we just do oral that’s some kinda sex I’m just going to sit and hope we get married Bc I need dick

[slatyb]

What makes you think it would change if you got married?

[20yearsolder]

I guess he's never heard of contraception, you could be taking the pill, he could wear a rubber. Evidently he's content with stroking his dick instead of fucking you. It doesn't sound like sex is high on his priority list and guess what, that will probably never change

[kareenakapur]

I take the pill for other non contraceptive reasons but I’m highkey rlly bad at remembering to take it. He’s worn a condom and like rubbed against my clit which was great. It ripped though and ever since then he is freaked out. He didn’t even cum but he was so freaked out he bought me a pregnancy test.

[Somegirl678]

i hate that, when i feel like im hornier than the guy thats annoying

[Maxnanet]

Does that even exist? :p

[Somegirl678]

@Maxnanet sometimes lol

[kareenakapur]

@maxnanet 100 percent always for me

[kareenakapur]

But when he sees me in the mood he’ll get in the mood. Just sucks like wish he was in the mood more often to initiate like making out and stuff like that

[Maxnanet]

I mean , i would love have a girl hornier than me ! Id be then so much horny , hornier even , so then … :p hahah

[Msputiton]

You guys have different sexual appetites

[AviatorTom]

You mentioned why he doesn't want sex now. Take steps to change that. He's afraid of getting you pregnant, so carefully monitor your cycle and let him know exactly what you are doing. Tell him you really want him, and that it's safe, you won't get pregnant.

[Gwenhwyfar]

You will love oral 😍. As for dick, use your hairbrush handle.

[Finchie40]

You should really reconsider marrying this guy honestly , a guy that doesn’t want pussy is a sign that he has very low libido and sadly to say you will not be fufilled

[FunkyMonkee]

You're not fucking the right guy!!

[kareenakapur]

I’m not fucking anyone lmao

[FunkyMonkee]

Neither am I! In about 2 hours, I will have been a born-again virgin for a solid 26 years!

[kareenakapur]

Lol hope it was good

[FunkyMonkee]

I had a blast and gave her one, too!! These days, it's spitting cobwebs and dust!!

[Danny_dan92]

Cause you a hoe and he isn’t. Simple

[kareenakapur]

Lol that’s true I’m just a hoe

[kareenakapur]

A waiting hoe

[Danny_dan92]

Lol at least you’re honest in admitting it

[Subarugirl]

A lack of self control...