Why do men assume most women participate in hookup culture and demean them for it when that isn't true and they're the ones pushing for it?

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Most women especially attractive women do not engage in hookup culture. Men go online and look at videos of specific locations to prove their confirmation bias but in reality it's not true. Almost all the women I've met want long standing relationships but men only seem to want casual hookups or to keep their options open so they reject those men and then men complain women’s standards are too high. Hookup culture only helps men but men claim women want it, why?

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

Men nowadays are extremely wary of women and their morals. There is soooo much negative media that women themselves represent as dumb and easy. It is perpetuated in places like college for "exploration and the college experience". A lot of women engage in at least briefly a phase where a small amount of men can possibly do that and they resent that fact.

Ironically a lot of the men who degrade women the most are the ones sleeping with them the most. That stupid key to a lock metaphor. Male culture also praises the degeneracy of being a player, so while you create the wh**** you simultaneously mock them. The culture in my opinion is completely out of whack on both sides. Both men and women are at blame for this problem/culture but feminism (not first wave) and the sexual revolution are also a big reason why men attack it so easily. It's low hanging fruit.

That's why I've disengaged and want to wait until marriage. I realized I was contributing to the issue by participating at all. At a minimum I think sex should only be in a mutually monogamous relationship for the overall betterment of each sex.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Not sure if  most  women do it, but definitely a lot of them. And yes, it is true. "Ho culture" did not become popular for no reason.  Sex and the City  and  Grey's Anatomy  were not popular for nothing. I find it ironic that women of today try to deny their sexual activities when literally 15 to 20 years ago women themselves were outright telling people how they hook up and even talking about why it works for them and why guys fail at it. But nowadays they're saying it's not true just because guys talk about it, when they're saying nothing different than the women did all those years ago.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It could be area based, depending where you are geographically it might be more prevalent or just based on the people you surround yourself with. I know for me personally I never participated in hookup culture. Some of my friends did when they were younger but most of them didn’t. I’ve had plenty of guys try to hookup with me,  especially  when I was younger/single, but I wanted a relationship not a fling. So then they’d try to date me instead lol. I honestly don’t think anyone that does participate has any right to judge or demean someone else that does the same thing, and if you don’t do that don’t go for someone that does

RoseySarah · Accepted Answer

So agree but sadly the small percent of women who do the hookup and friends with benefits...

Ruin it for all of us. Men get rejected 100 times but only remember the one girl who said yes.

Also they just are creeps behind a keyboard! Free to do what ever while we suffer!

Hookup culture needs to end! Cancel it!

Lliam · Answer

"Almost all the women I've met want long standing relationships but men only seem to want casual hookups or to keep their options open so they reject those men and then men complain women’s standards are too high." Well said. And the number of disingenuous men make a lot of women gun shy toward men in general.

And then you have the guys who call women whores if they have ever been a relationship. They think if a woman isn't a virgin, she's a whore.

When I hear men on GAG bitching about women, they never seem to be aware of how men's attitudes have effected the dating scene.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think you are overgeneralizing about what men think. If you listen to the men who make the most noise, you can rest assured that they ARE not speaking for the majority of men.

Yes, some men have that belief. And, yes, some women participate in hookup culture.

But it really doesn't matter what most men think or what most men do. Just worry about the guy who is there with you.

Billlewis · Answer

Thts one of the ironies of the dating scene.

normalice · Answer

Projection. Men would participate in hookup culture if they could and women can so they assume women are.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

It is very much not the case that men only want casual hookups or that women only want relationships. Most of the casual hookups I've had have been initiated by the woman. Most of the casual hookups I've been offered I've turned down. I'm in a female rich environment between work and hobbies, and it's not uncommon for 2-4 women a week to approach me. Only half of those are indicating a desire to actually go on a date, the other half just want to swap sweat because they're "too busy to date." All these men who are casually sleeping with women are doing it because there's a woman who wants it as well, not because they're all hiring prostitutes.

tzdc21 · Answer

Just because those are the women YOU have met, doesn't mean that is the case for all women. Many women are engaging in hookup culture, so it's not just guys that are pushing for it, it's women too. Now make no mistake, I hate hookup culture. I will never engage in it and I think it does more harm than good, no correction... I KNOW it does more harm than good. I'm just telling you it's not just one sex that pushes for it.

Katebfun · Answer

Ignorance. Social media and Hollywood. Their brain washed. Some women believ it or not don't drink and party.

Cody2004 · Answer

I think you're hooking up with the wrong people lol

Dargil · Answer

Men accept the Hookup Culture because it is a safer way to have female social contact and get laid (maybe). Too may risks with modern middle class women for accusations of rape and abuse. They have become misandrist land mines. One lie can destroy your career and your life. Why I wear a police style body cam tie tack when I am in a public setting. I avoid elevators when its me and one (any) female. And similar settings at work or even church. Women have become woke Jihadists. They can strike at any time for any reason. But hooking up weakens any possible case. And player girls ruin the predation for Karens.

JacobJordan · Answer

Stats say you lying. 51% of women engage in hookup culture compared to 42% of men. 60-80% of all college students engage in hookup culture. 57.1% of women have a friends with benefit and 57.9% of men have a friends with benefit. 46.67% of women prefer traditional relationships. Compared to 45.07% of men.

Tim2nice · Answer

There’s just as many women wanting hook ups as men. It takes 2 to tango.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'm not sure as to why or the percentage, yet I for one don't mind OnlyFans and PornHub and I've paid for OF in the past and PH is usually free. Power to empowered women these days, prominently it's women in their 20s (my age, like 1990s born) or maybe a year older, I'm 29. Anyways, groovy peace yo y'all groovy vibes, as good ol' Austin upbeat vibes says ☮️✌🏻😈👀😋

Nikki1989 · Answer

That comes from men that are failures with women. They have to blame it on something.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Hookup culture is an always has been niche, most people want a lifelong monogomous relationship.

LiamS95 · Answer

I don't but most of the women that contact me just want to hook up which I'm not interested in. l

Posithink · Answer

In order to have a positive view on things, everything must be justified. What you described justifies us calling all women "sluts" like our ancestors used to. Now I feel good that our ancestors weren't wrong. You're welcome and spread the love!!! 🦵❤

RingOfFire · Answer

Good question! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

DextroShade · Answer

Hookup culture only benefits a small minority of Chads and Tyrones to the detriment of all women and the majority of men who want relationships, marriage, and family. The women lose because they get pumped and dumped until they become ran-through and unable to pair-bond with the man who should have been her husband who also loses. Ultimately this was caused by feminism and elites in the media promoting degenerate lifestyles, and the only people who benefit from it are a few men. If women wanted, they could end hookup culture tomorrow by refusing to hookup with Chad and Tyrone and only having sex with decent average men who they are in serious relationships with.