Why do some guys have fetishes for rough/bloody sex?

[Anonymous]

Was looking up stuff, but it was a broad category, and so saw some pics that were... they made my heart go into my throat. I see terrible porn all the time, and have seen this before, but never really looked at it closely.

Now I did, and I just... like why would you want to make someone bleed from pain from one of the most sensitive parts of their body? Like I've always thought in the back of my mind, no one would want to go this far, like it was impossible IRL almost.

I can understand the virginity loss fantasies, but this porn was not that. And the guy was grinning as he did it and you could tell it really hurt her... what do they get from sex like this? What's the fetish about?

And she was tied and gagged... like you already have someone reduced to being trapped and helpless, what makes you want to fuck them as hard as you can, and then even get some blood? Why no... like mercy or anything?

[Anonymous]

Without seeing what you're referencing, I can't judge. I can only answer my tastes.

I have, to my own shock, grown into enjoying some hard sadism in porn. Including blood, though that is more a consequence of what happens than what I actually want to see. So, why do I like to see it?

For two reasons.

1) When you see the same actress in successive shoots, and she looks fine and ready for each, you realize that no permanent harm is done. Nothing done is something that won't heal. So the fact that there is no harm makes me more open to the act, because I know things are ok.

2) she agreed to it, AND enjoys it. Both are important. Lack of agreeing makes it rape. Her enjoyment makes it worth watching. I got into it when I saw that they were actually, to my shock, enjoying it. I get off to women in pleasure and getting off. That is what I like. So seeing weird, extreme things, that despite their obvious pain seem to make her more aroused, which leads to her getting off, is very appealing to me. It is just the appeal of sensation play.

So that is it for me. I like it because I enjoy seeing the women get off do to extreme stimulus. I am OK with it because they consented and no harm is done.

If they don't get off, I am not interested. If they didn't consent, it is rape and abhorrent. If lasting harm is done it is much more than I wish to attempt to stomach, no matter how much she likes it.

[Asker]

Agree! If she's turned on then who cares.

[dolemite68]

I think its almost like a control/power think like guys that rape, that is such a creepy fetish that maybe appeals to 1% of guys. I like really rough sex pounding hard, spanking, hair pulling, tossing her around a bit the most I would wanna make a girl is sore but in that good sort of way. I cringe at that thought of actually hurting her tho.

[Asker]

Power how? If she's tied and helpless, what's powerful about him?

[dolemite68]

power over her, haven't event you ever heard psychologists explain that rapists don't get off on the sex they get off the power over her?

[Asker]

It's fake power so why's it satisfying

[dolemite68]

who knows

[kaylaS91]

They don't feel guilty or like they should stop because, assuming that we're talking about the majority of guys who are into doing this kind of shit with their girlfriend. it's done with the girl's full consent. Some women do enjoy giving their boyfriend 'control', trusting that he will still play within her limits.

[Anonymous]

misogyny. they want to brutally fuck the rejections they got out of her... . plus lower instincts are a downward spiral.

[Asker]

Oh! This could be 1 reason. How does fucking help them feel better about rejections?

[Opinion Owner]

they have concentrated bitterness/resentment towards women. the threads between love/ admiration/ lust, with hatred and insanity are very fine. many of them could have been once the super pedestalising, super romantic, poet kind of guys, and with time and rejections their love was transformed in perverse brutality.

[Opinion Owner]

like the ex-betas that turn in womanizing redpill players. many if not most men have gathered resentment, distrust and fear towards women. some times not completely ungrounded, but usually a product of being too much in theiir heads.

[Asker]

This does make sense! But, whatever happened... how does sex help? They like causing her pain then. Even if someone hurt you, that's got nothing to do with who you're fucking now... but they like letting the aggression go.

[Asker]

I wonder if they even really see her lying there or tied up, or they just like explode inside and live the fantasy more than anything.

[Opinion Owner]

its basic psychology girl. projection. the current "X" girl embodies/personifies the whole female gender, and all the women that caused embi tterment in his life. if he can cause pain to her, he indirectly causes pain to them (in his subconscious), and in essense practices a form of catharsis for his troubled past. and as i said perversion is progressive. they usually begin from more softcore stuff to end up there. each time the fallen psyche needs stronger and more shocking stimuli.

[Asker]

Totally makes sense and great answer. It makes me feel better, that he's not really seeing her. It's still a shame this happens, but it's all selfish, not really about her.

[Opinion Owner]

and also lets not forget that some humans are just emotionless psychos. in these sadism communities there is certainly plenty of them as well. not all began as white knights. some where vile from the start.

[Asker]

There are those too. Do you agree with my last comment?

[Opinion Owner]

well it could be "about her" as well. in the sense that there are also perverse women who seek brutal treatment and immensely get off from it. it also has to do with primal instincts of femininity and masculinity, sense of property, and subordination.

[Asker]

Why do you think women can want this? love your comments.

[Opinion Owner]

alcoholic brutal father, some rapist relative or whatever. as a defense mechanism the psyche internalised the painful experience and perversed it as a joyous/lustful memory to protect the victim. thus she later seeks of it. its the common type of girl that jiggles to brutal insults and despises sweet guy behavior. or when women are nymphomaniacs they tend to need more than standard stimuli to "completely get off"... .

[Opinion Owner]

other times its protest against overly strict religious parents, a ruthless pastor dad etc. she takes revenge on her dad with each "sin" she commits. also it doesn t have to be physical abuse. it could be emotional abuse that she internalised... .

[Asker]

Yeah, internalized pain. Guess that's true for the guy and the girl. I do think it's amazing, how some psychos use other people to vent instead of just totally internalizing it like how others do.

[Opinion Owner]

also in the guys' case that want to be crushed by dominas etc, it could be because they grew up in a matriarchical/ female dominated household, where the father was a pussy/pushover and the woman was actually in charge. so he internalised the goddess/amazoness archetype and tried to seek that in all his future relationships. some come to think that they are so lowly creatures compared to the women/goddesses that the only form of attention they deserve from them is a sesion of torture. it might seem very humble but it hides ample reverse narcissism in it. so depending on the idiosyncrancy of the guy he can turn in the masochistic or the sadistic side. some have them both.

[rock56229]

Guys like that are very twisted^
I can't even explain that. Just stay away from them!

[AequitasEquitas]

Different strokes for different folks :)

[Mesonfielde]

Some people are insane, and some porn caters for the insane.

For example, literally anything involving hurting or choking the other person.

[Chico_brah]

Mm... baha. I love that stuff. It's so primal. Turns me the fck on.

[Asker]

hurting her is primal?

[Chico_brah]

Getting pissed off. Her slap[ping me then me slapping her harder. Primal instincts kick in. I don't know about the blood. You make it sound like the blood was intentional. A broken lip or something has happened though.

[Asker]

Why do you want to slap her harder? The porn was way worse, it was intentional blood from the pussy.

[Asker]

I'm not getting why guys would want to hurt her more.

[Chico_brah]

Oh that's weird as fuck dude lol. I didn't read the whole thing.

[Asker]

But even with rough sex, like if he's so attracted to me, why would he want to hurt me? he doesn't want to impress why...

[Chico_brah]

Like I said it's primal. Vanilla sex can be really boring. I've always been aggressive. My girlfriend and I both mutually enjoy it but we both enjoy sex in much different ways. My girlfriend loves that I'm aggressive. You know that euphoria that you get when you get in a fight (if you've ever been) or if you played competitive sports and you're getting ready for say.. a wrestling match (in my case) ? It's an intense rush that that takes over everything. Nothing else matters anymore.. Like all your outside surroundings are completely irrelevant and won't even cross your head anymore. If you know how to combine that with sexual pleasure.. it's fucking amazing. But to each their own.. I understand that people have different views on sex and different values/life experiences. This is just how my girlfriend and I enjoy sex.

[Asker]

Oh I get it. It';s not personal... does she get aggressive too? Like how does she feel the high if she doesn't? That does sound like it could be cool.

[Chico_brah]

Oh yeah lol. She does exactly what I told you before. She will slap me as hard as she fucking can because she knows my instant reaction will be to put her in her fucking place real quick. Which she loves.

[Asker]

Why does she love you being rougher than her? Like i'ts desire for her?

[Chico_brah]

Well a lot of girls like the thought of a physically domineering guy in the sac. I don't know the exact psychology behind it but my girlfriend has a lot of control in her real life. She has guys hit on her on the daily. She is in charge in most situations and most people look to her for advice etc. She comes across as a bitch to a lot of people. She has so much control in her real life but she is still a woman and likes to feel sexy and feminine.. or submissive. It's probably a good feeling for her to just completely let go and let someone take charge for a change. A lot of girls say they really like rough sex and all that but it's all just fantasy. You can't do the shit that me and my girlfriend do with a one night stand. I've scared the shit out of a girl before trying that lol. That's why I think sex in a relationship is 10x better. You really learn each other. Build trust.. etc.

[Chico_brah]

I think a girl has to be a little fucked up in the head to genuinely enjoy the sex that I like to have. I like a girl as equally fucked up as me though lol. Crazy can be sexy as fuck sometimes.

[Asker]

Yeah so she lets go in bed. I almost liked porn like this, w/o the blood since it's like the guy must really, really want you to be that aggressive too. The blood and the tied just freaked me out though.

[Chico_brah]

Yeah that's really strange dude. I mean blood happens.. Like I said a broken lip.. something like that. It wouldn't bother me too much. I have a lot of scar tissue under my eyes so if I get hit in the right area then I'll start bleeding like crazy. It's happened during sex before. I ended it right there lmao. It was too much and was messing up the carpet and getting all over the bed sheets. It doesn't hurt at all but it looks brutal from someone seeing it happen. Cutting someones genitalia is most likely associated with some severe mental illness. That's beyond disgusting. That's not the kind of crazy I'm referring to by any means.

[Asker]

IKR most porn isn't like this thank god

[Chico_brah]

Aha that sounds like illegal porn you are watching. Stay safe brah.

[TadCurious]

I don't know the answer 'cause that kind of stuff turns me off.

[BoySittingOnTheMoon]

I don't know, I've seen these out of curiousity, and honestly it was a total turn off.

[heartsobig]

I consider myself a sexually adventurous person but this repulses me. I cannot condone blatantly hurting another human being.

[Bananaman177]

I think they're just psychos who got into porn. Nothing to write home about.

But don't you dare forget that there's PLENTY of girls who like it rough, who want their boyfriend to come in and "rape" them, who get into all kinds of perverted torture. It's not like Men are these demonic creatures, okay?

Psychos come in both genders, believe me. Plenty of women enjoy hurting men. Plenty men love getting hurt by women. I seen a dominatrix crush a dude's balls, all the way, completely destroyed. He paid for it! He wanted it.

[Asker]

Nope didn't say that. Women can ask for that and rape play and more. They even demand rough sex a lot. Or like being dom too. This porn just really creeped me out.

[Asker]

The ball crushing sounds terrible. And he paid for it. Yeah there are some pervs.

[Bananaman177]

Perverted nothing, he was a eunuch after that. . .

[Intraluminal]

This type of porn is directed toward a very small percentage of people, many of whom would not dream of doing it IRL. Remember, porn is a fantasy, not RL.

[Asker]

Not dream because they don't want to, or because it's impossible for her to let him? A very small percentage, I'm sure it is.

[Jager66]

I don't know, it seems kinda fucked up to me. I'm betting there is some serious corruption/abuse/lawbreaking going on in some of those porn shoots.

[jman46241]

Not something I'm into..

[cth96190]

What I should point out is that there is no shortage of women who WANT to be treated in that way, because it excites them sexually to the point that they lose their minds and their perception of pain changes.
You might be horrified by what some women have wanted me to do to them.

[levantine99]

50 shades of gay became a global phenomenon for a reason. a fucked up one but a reason.

[levantine99]

but if you got "plenty" of them personally, you either have gone with endless amounts of women or you attract... very peculiar types... .

[cth96190]

@levantine99 My life is way too complicated to explain in 1000 characters. :-) It occurred to me also that the potential error in my data sample was that I might have tended to attract women who wanted to be tied up, tortured and play out their rape fantasies. What I found was that about one in four of the women with whom I have shared a bed wanted me to do that sort of thing to them. In my capacity as a journalist, I have also done feature articles on groups such as the Hellfire Club, the membership of which (in my experience) was overwhelmingly female. Visit any BDSM group and you will find that most of the people there are female submissives who crave that sort of treatment.

[Guitarwizard7]

There are fetishes for everything it's just how they are wired. There's even a fetish for getting run over by a car.

[Asker]

Srs about the car fetish?

[Guitarwizard7]

Yep I saw a video on YouTube about it one time

[Decentguy]

oh i love rough bloody sex
i love it when im fucking her hard by pinching her to a wall and she scratching my back soo roughly with her nails that i bleed

[unknownpoet]

yes I've. I'm very dominant and have done all that sort of things. why?

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

None, is actually is porn addiction that they made them create this sort of thing so guys/girls wouldn't be bored.
Secondly there are few guys close to those thing but they must have a realyy masculine personality or else it's no more than a fantasy.
That my personal oppion but again you should avoid watching porn because it hurt you emotionally and mentally, at least that type.

Viginity loss or any type of sex could it made with tender or force.

[Asker]

Really masculine means what?

[Ovidiu-Nicolae]

Masculine traits like he don't gives a shit, he acts tough, he's authoritatively, like overconfident nothing will bring him down, no feelings of caring, love, affection, tender, etc

[maxwell527]

I had a really sweet woman I was very attracted to tell me she wanted me to hit and choke her. I was not down with that. I don't understand that stuff. Nothing with wrong with rough sex but actually physically hurting them.. no wtf

[PeachesAndYoghurt]

Link for educational purposes? I genuinely want to see what the fuck you're seeing

[Anonymous]

as u said it is just a fetish i don't think fetishes have logical explanations

[Anonymous]

I'd never have a fetish like that mine are feet, legs, and pantyhose