Why does masturbation feel so much better than sex?

I don’t know why but the orgasm when I’m masturbating just with my hand feel sooo overwhelmingly good and makes my whole body feel electrified.

with sex when I do cum rarely it feels great and the intimacy with another person is nice but it doesn’t even compare physically to masturbation orgasms. Is it just me?

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  • For those who prioritize the physical release, masturbation is better, as it puts you totally in control. For those who prioritize an emotional connection, the shared experience will always be more meaningful, fulfilling, and the results will linger longer. The added dimensions of an emotional connection gives a depth that can't be achieved alone. As an example of the added dimensions, compare tickling yourself to being tickled by someone else. There is no way you can duplicate the sensation of being tickled by yourself.

    • It's just the fact that a cock or tongue feels better than my fingers or a vibrator! An orgasm is a release whether it's masturbation or sex. There isn't always an emotional connection.

    • @Samantha36 My concern with vibrators is, once you get used to that intensity, no person can ever match that intensity, so you'll be left unsatisfied with human touch alone. You can create amazing depth with subtleties. As far as a tongue feeling better than your fingers, they may be different, yet each has its pros and cons. The major advantage of your fingers is you know exactly what you want at any moment in time, so you don't have to just wait for your partner to find it. It could just be a preference you believe, so your beliefs become your reality, and you're less likely to experiment with what might be different. Not all orgasms feel the same. Sometimes you just crawl over the edge, while other times you might explode over the edge. This is true whether with a partner or alone. It depends on where your head is at, whether you're with a compatible partner and whether both partners are actively invested in the moment. If you build the arousal slowly over time, it can come out more intensely, than if you rush it. When we take it too slowly, we can actually become numb, and an orgasm may not occur. The emotional connection is within our control when we choose a compatible partner and both are in the moment together. An emotional connection is more likely with people who are truly into their partners pleasure rather than focused primarily on their own pleasure.

    • Also, many kids are indoctrinated with strict taboos (usually religious), so the guilt associated with masturbation is too intense for them to allow themselves to let themselves go and enjoy masturbation. Even for those who stop believing the indoctrination, it can be very challenging for people to completely let go of all that guilt.

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  • I have to agree. I have only had one sex partner when I was in my 20's with who, I masturbated together, and she and I both did it alone. We shared all of those intimate things to do and say when masturbating. Even intercourse followed my eating her to an orgasm, and I showed her how to hold, touch and rub my penis glans and she showed me how to touch her clitoris, how to 'talk dirty' to her etc... I do believe you are right although many will not agree... good for you, ... you found yourself.

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  • You know your own body better than a sexual partner does, so what you’re saying isn’t unusual. You’re guiding your own touch by the sensations that you feel. A partner doesn’t have that advantage sadly. It helps to give your partner instructions regularly and, over time, I find I can teach them to pleasure me better. However, sometimes you still need that alone time because well….. there’s no substitute. You can relax and have an amazing orgasm with no pressure to perform.

  • It's easier to get better orgasms alone since I know exactly how to touch myself to make it feel good. Trying to explain to a partner what to do takes to much time/doesn't feel the same. Sex still feels amazing and everything but I've just accepted that I can only get strong orgasms from myself

    • I agree, although some may not, ... they may just not be in touch with themselves.

    • I think sex is fun because we don't know what is going to happen next and masturbating is fun because we know how to do it well.

    • @bananathunder yess exactly

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  • I'm a guy. Sex is definitely better.

    Perhaps your guys don't know how to pleasure you intimately.

    But I'm quite sure when he knows how to bring you to at least an orgasm every session, you'll become a nympho. 😁

  • you have not been with right partners

    • @devilish-cutie you nailed it.

    • @MasterKS tnx

    • @devilish-cutie thats why experience matters!

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  • I don’t know, I preferred sex.

  • Omg it doesn't. Not even close for me. Nothing beats sex.

    • @samantha36 yes I agree! Nothing beats the real things!

  • That's the first time I ever heard those words together

  • Yes, I agree and when I orgasm it is mind-blowing orgasm

  • It's because you're dtimulating yourself exactly how you need and want it. It can be just as good or better during sex if you and your partner communicate properly.

    • *stimulating

  • You need to find better sex partners.

  • Because us girls know how we want to be fucked

  • It’s because you discovered masturbation and have gotten so used to it, that hardly anything else feels as good as masturbating yourself. You know where to touch, how to touch, how much pressure, how gentle or rough you want to rub your nipples and clitoris, how far to insert your fingers into your vagina, etc 🙂

  • Sounds like you need to find a better partner

  • You know where to touch and what makes you feel good better than the guy you’re with. Try communicating what you like with him.

  • I have only had some sex with two girls and the orgasms were great. I have had far more practice with masturbation (I'm 17) so I guess I am in tune with my body and know what it likes.

  • Do your partners directly stimulate your clitoris?

  • in my opinion an orgasm with a partner you love is the best, they know you, your body, they love you, you love them, and it's perf.

    Masturbating alone are defs better than flings though

  • You know your body. You know what feels good. If you taught your partner what you like I'm sure you'd enjoy sex more. A relationship is all about communicating with each other

  • You feel safer when you're alone.

  • Maybe you've just been with some unsatisfying men? Lol

  • You must be with the wrong guy (s).

  • I think in most cases men and women get stronger orgasms from sex but its understandable that you might get stronger orgasms from masturbating because you know what you like and know what can send you over the edge. You know your body better than anybody.

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