Why does no one respect or like virgins anymore?

Not just virgins, but all girls who may not have a lot of sexual experience regardless of age. Girls who doesn’t have sex very easily, but prefer to wait and get to know the person first. And girls who don’t want to hook up. I feel like we live in a world now (the west at least) where these girls are not only not preferred but even frowned upon and made fun of. In real life, on tv everywhere. Why? I don’t want to live in a world where girls who DO have a lot of sex or DO hook up aren’t respected, that’s not what I mean. I think it’s great that we’re not judging people that way now as much as in the old days. But why has it flipped 180 degrees? Like, why aren’t we all treated the same? And I see this mostly from guys actually. In my experience it’s mostly guys who treat virgins like this, who see them as unwanted etc. whyyyyyyy? Could it be because they make people feel bad about themselves? And their own choices? Or because sex is the main thing that gives a woman value nowadays? Or what? I’m truly confused.
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Oh and just look at Instagram. Look at guys on there and the Instagram “models”, the nude ones. Guys end relationships for them. Me and my friends have talked about it. Those girls are the only ones who get appreciation from guys nowadays. Is this how it is now? Should we either become sluts or we’re doomed to be alone forever? It’s an honest question and I’d like some guidance because I’m exhausted.
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  • Let's ease your head first; the type of man to leave because you didn't give it up immediately, isn't the type of man you would have wanted to keep around long-term anyway. That man supports his masculinity through sex, so when he's denied it, he pushes the blame on her to keep himself from feeling emasculated, that he is still a great man, she's just a prude.

    I think for women it's a bit more simple. Some women exist where every woman is competition, and in that competition, sex is a mature thing to do, so those who do are, and those who don't. That woman uses sex to define herself as more important and the woman who doesn't as less important.

  • There are many men who respect women who decided to hold out cashing in their v-card. I'm not sure what kind of bubble you're insulated in, but what you're saying simply isn't the reality.

    The only way what you're saying holds any weight is if you're talking about very specific men that you're interested in who aren't looking to settle down.

    • I’ve been dating for a few years and this is the only thing I’ve seen. Then guys say stuff like what you’re saying but then they don’t act like it. They say they respect virgins but their actions say otherwise.

    • As you've said, you don't go by what people say, you go by what they do. Many guys who don't really respect virgins won't say so. This is partially because many women will make exceptions to their own rules, so men will often just say what he thinks the woman wants to hear. I've seen countless women 'hold out' on sex, only to change her mind and sleep with a guy who she was willing to break rules for. Additionally, if you're referring to men who aren't virgins themselves who are expressing their respect, it doesn't mean that they don't respect virgins. It just means that even if they respect you, they would rather scratch that biological itch and sleep with someone rather than waiting on only the possibility of being with you, and only you. Your own personal experience with men isn't indicative of all men.

    • Ok all that makes a lot of sense. But what is a girl like me supposed to do when it comes to starting a relationship? Because almost every relationship I see around me, my friends etc, they all started out with sex. They had a friends with benefits or a hook up etc and then it turned into something more. And the guys in these relationships are good guys, great even. Real catches. So what is a girl like me supposed to do? Do what I don’t feel right doing to have a chance at a relationship with a good guy? Or wait for someone equally good who’ll wait? Thing is, I’ve done the latter and those guys are extremely rare. Whenever I date someone and we get to the point where I tell them about my lack of experience all the excitement in them and attraction goes away. But they salivate over girls who make them think they’ll give them sex, even if that particular girl treats them badly. In the end they end up in a relationship with her rather than me. What goes on in your minds? I’d give anything to know

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  • A lot of dudes only look for virgins. I've seen more lean that way than those that don't care for a girls sexual past.

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  • I have seen other people disrespect girls for not having sex and I hate witnessing it. I don't mind waiting and hate that girls are insulted for that. It's also not just girls, guys are often made fun of for not having sex. I hope that stigma disappears.

  • I don't care if someone is a virgin or not, but I see no reason why a virgin deserves respect over a non-virgin

    • I specifically said that there should be no difference in respect for both girls. But nowadays there is definitely a difference. Meaning, non-virgins are appreciated and valued much more than virgins. By guys

    • So are you salty because you feel that you deserve appreciate, admiration, attention and respect for being a virgin?

    • Not all guys are the same. You're making sweeping generalisations

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  • because that's archaic. you're not a better human than everybody else just cause you never fucked xD

    • What are you talking about? Where did I say or imply that I’m better for not having sex? What is with some of you? Read the question; I’m simply asking why we cannot all be respected and appreciated THE SAME? Why are virgins respected less and even made fun of and even humiliated? On tv as well. No one said anything about being better for crying out loud..

    • So wait, you’re saying that it’s ok to not respect virgins so they won’t think they’re better than everyone else?

    • no what i am saying is that you don't deserve additional respect for being a virgin. i don't see any reason for your claim that virgins are less respected to be true.

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  • I agree with you. I will not enter into a serious relationship with a girl who's not a virgin... The only people who do not respect female virgins are sluts and arrested-development, NPC, "fuck boys". Who gives a shit about those types anyway? They do not understand monogamy, loyalty, or love and they will lead sad, desolate, meaningless lives.

  • There are plenty of man who have no issues with an inexperienced woman, if she is open minded and willing to learn, I say bring them on!