Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why don't guys want to make me cum and what can I do about it?
Anonymous
this is a problem fo rme.. im a pretty girl, beautiful hot sexy gorgeous.. the guys I end up getting with are yes from the internet.. but they're guys.. everytime a guy goes down on me.. he does NOT want to make me cum.. EVER. usually its our first time doing anything... and they go down on me.. im very horny and multiorgasmic.. its crazy how they will not make me cum. They want to prolong this CUM.. for even an hour, worse they will beat up my pussy.. its very sadistic. I would say 99% of males do this to me. I can't predict who's going to do it... I have to go through it before I kick the guy out. its not right or fair... one guy did it on purpose saying to me "well there are women who can't orgasm at all" as if I should be lucky I can even orgasm. he'd purposely not let me orgasm. for me this is suffering badly.. they are using my body just to satisfy their desires.. and purposely not making me cum.. im also repressed sexually b/c of this.. worse, these weirdos who won't make me cum, once they hit my sweet spot, they'll start beating up my pussy messing up the cum... then they'll ask ME to go down on them before they even made me cum at all.. its sickening its like theyre saying.. i won't make u cum u mak eme cum first.. or tit for tat... are they just selfish? I've realized I can't expect them to make me cum.. theyre just using me cruelly.. and badly.. this last guy.. raved on how gorgeous I am.. beautiful.. he said he watned to please me then began this bullsh*t charade.. after 30 mins of beating my pussy up and suppressing my cums I got mad and got up.. why are they doing this to me? I can't let a guy give me oral anymore b/c this is what he does.. worse if they do make me cum its just ONCE that's it.. never again. its really evil what they're doing... its not right.. do I need to go for a 5 minute rule here.. i can cum VERY EASILY... its better they just never touch my pussy if their goal is to NOT let me cum at all..
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the weird thing is.. they'll say they want to please me but they don't.. im already terrified of men b/c of this and of sex.. and it happens every single time. to know that males just don't want me to cum is hard to deal with. im nice and pretty and hot body.. im letting them do things with me and they abuse it.. this last guy beat up my pussy.. he rubbed his whiskers all over it.. it HURT.. i kept asying.. stop doing that it hurts.. he just wanted to injure my pussy!! that's all they want to do
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they want to injure my pussy... they want to suppress my cum injure my pussy and make me suffer.. im trying to get the psychology behind this.. im hot beautiful sexy.. any reason for this.. underlying psychological reason. for this reason I can't let men do anything to me anymore.. it all turns down to--them NOT letting me cum suppressing me and hurting my vagina. im a horny girl in my prime who can cum 20 times.. it is the worst thing.. in the end they want to cause PAIN to me not pleasure
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What Girls & Guys Said
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You have the wrong guys. You need to meet a man that likes pleasing you, outside of the bedroom. If he likes pleasing you outside the bedroom. He will want to please you in the bedroom
Your getting gay guys obviously... I am all about making her have multiple orgasms.
I am very good at getting girls off and I love it my only problem is when they get off they stop me from licking them more as they are too sensitive and this pisses me off a bunch as I am a pussy licking monster I even posted a question about is it weird to want to lick ass and pussy for like 12 hours!
It sounds like you just happen to meet all the assholes!
Are you kidding? I'll make you cum for free, no charge.
you are picking selfish guys who are shit in bed
You are missing love :) when somebody loves you, he enjoys you cumming and he will try to make you orgasm hard.
Quit meeting these idiots from the internet for one as those guys are just there for their enjoyment and not yours no matter what they tell you beforehand.
I think most dudes just don't know how to take care of a girl... Tbh I used to be like that until a girl showed me the way lol now I literally take care of every girl I am with, normally ends with them squirting then I start with sex. So find a guy you like, drink some wine with him, show him what you like and things will be better from there
Strange... If every guy does this to you, are you sure your not the issue? If I where with you, it would be my aim to make you cum as many time as I can before i do... I don't know any guys that don't want to make their or any girl cum... Unless your are a submissive with a knack of piking Dom's I can't see the reason why guys won't make you cum... Even if your a bitch, I can't see guys not wanting to make you cum, its part of what gets us off... well. some of us anyway.. Be it oral, fingers, grinding, toys... I'll utilize anything needed to make you cum... its a must.
I don’t get that. It’s really my only goal to make someone cum. Ill worry about me after.
They don't know how to please a girl, they think they are doing it right. Most good don't take the time to learn a girl. I do... I always made it a point. I have never left a girl with less than 2 orgasms and usually would be 3-6 and they'd squirt but I put in the effort to learn their body and what they wanted. I made it a priority over my pleasure
Just find a better man, maybe someone not from the internet. Watch how someone treats their friends because that may signal how they'll treat you...
All you have to do is let me make you cum
Seriously I don't understand... Are u on pills?
They cum before u n leave u... Ask them about it... !!!
I feel bad about myself if the girl doesn't cum. I am more than happy to let her cum during oral. I like a girl to have more than one if I can do that for her.
I don't understand guys like that. If I'm doing the right things that make a girl cum I want to give her as many orgasms as possible
You should try with submissive guys like me.
My biggest turn on is to make girls happy and not to care about myslf
Even better if he is small down there, because he will try to make you cum with his tongue because he is aware he can't satisfy you with his penis.
A lot of guys when they get horny forget about everything else. Also, don't be afraid to vocal in saying what's working for you and what's not.
I am willing to make you orgasm if you are interested