Why men are extremely obsessed with sex, like there’s nothing else they think of but sex?

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  • Scientists estimate that there are currently about 8.7 million different species here on Earth right now - but estimate that over 4-5 billion have existed in Earth's history. It's hard to wrap your brain around that number, but think of it this way: for every species that currently exists, 500 others existed at one time and died out. The species that have survived are the super species - those that were able to adapt to changing conditions quickly enough and, most importantly, those that evolved to SURVIVE and REPRODUCE successfully.

    If men didn't greatly desire sex, then a lot less sex would happen, and thus a lot fewer children would have happened, and the species would likely have gone extinct long ago, because that's exactly what happened to billions of other species that failed to reproduce aggressively.

    If we're talking about humans specifically, most of human history is the story of there being a shortage of men. Why? Because men were overwhelmingly the ones who did the most dangerous and life-shortening things, whether that was hunting, exploring, farming (which is dangerous, for those who grew up in the city!), mining, construction, sailing, trading, and of course, the military. In a tribe/village of 100 people, 70-80 might be female, and the males would range from children to old men, so you might have 15-20 males between 16-40 (with an average lifespan of about 45). An "elder" would be a man of 50.

    But the world was also a cruel place, and outside of a handful of major cities, women generally couldn't survive on their own, as tough as many of them were. This is why polygamy was common - men having multiple wives. This wasn't because men were Hugh Hefner-type players, but rather because those women, and their children, would otherwise literally be left for dead. And as an adult, your only "retirement plan" - the only way you could survive old age, assuming you lived long enough to have one - is to have children to take care of you. Children were NOT considered to be optional, but NECESSARY, and so were spouses.

    In the bible - Deuteronomy 25:5 - it's mentioned that if there is a family with more than one brother, and one brother dies before having a son with his wife, then his brother should marry the widow and ensure she has a son, so that she will be protected and provided for in old age. This wasn't some weird incestual kink, but rather very practical rules, because without a husband and son, that widow would almost certainly not be able to survive. Up until the Industrial Revolution, single women could not survive outside of a major city that had real infrastructure and some kind of law enforcement to protect her, and even then, it was often extremely difficult.

    If men didn't have such a strong desire for women, then women would have been left to die on their own - something that still happened occasionally. Also, men would have had far less motivation to take on horrific work (soldiering, mining, farming) that allowed whole families to survive. If you think about it, nearly everything that men have done - ever - was ultimately to raise his status and thereby impress a woman, directly or indirectly, because he desired her. Get rid of that desire, and you get rid of most human progress.

  • Our hard wiring.
    We are programmed to be drawn to femininity to respond to the beauty and sexiness of the female form. Women are everywhere... we are always being stimulated by women.

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  • I think, porn has kinda fucked it up for the boys. They literally grow up watching it so much and so often, that their idea of sex mostly comes from what they have seen online, without realising it’s all paid and practically not possible in real life or maybe possible but it takes two to tango and and not just the guy who in between having sex forgets that his partner’s body could be fragile as compared to his and he needs to be little patient with how the vagina feels in that moment.
    When my boyfriend and I had sex for the first, making out with him is fun but he was so focused on entering full on that he couldn’t even care less that my hymen was broken and I was bleeding and having a burning sensation bcz of all the friction and barely enjoying it bcz he just had to do it. It can be super annoying sometimes so much so I don’t feel like dating anyone at all because sooner or later I know it becomes all about sex! No dates, no dinners, no birthday celebration, just sex for every celebratory occasions. All my hot outfits tossed in the cupboard. 🥲🥱

  • I feel this way about guys. Even my boyfriend. When we are in it sometimes it feels like I’m not human like he’s so focused on my body and the task. I have to tell him while he’s enjoying it it’s sometimes nice if he checks in like gives me a whisper or a kiss so I know he’s still there because he’s just another person completely when we are naked

    • I totally understand what you mean and yeah it’s extremely frustrating as you kinda feel like you’re worthless.

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  • Very young men are fairly singleminded about sex. It's just the biological imperative of young guys. This might be why women marry men a few years older than themselves. They're out of the horndog stage.

    BUT, however, there are some people who are extremes. Just veer to the right of the horndogs, or seek guys who are a few years older and calmer. Personality has something to do with it too. Takes a while to sort out the wheat from the chaff. Good luck.

  • Because they have a penosand their primary instinct is to reproduce. Their using in their prime in their 20's but so pre occupied with getting straight to it they forget about warming up the oven lol. And they don't know women hit the prime at 40!

  • Pragmatically, males in MANY species, serve Nature's plan for distribution and randomizing of species DNA above ALL else.

    In several species in common, AFTER fertilization EVEN ONCE, the male's role completed,
    die off soon after. If you've ever heard of... or played the cultural classic "Six Degrees of Separation of Kevin Bacon" its posited that EVERY THING or ACTION can be traced to relate to just ONE root motivator.

    Laying aside One's preconceptions and prejudices... humans are a 'troop' extended-family tribal primate species. Literally EVERYTHING we 'primates'... as NOT the regional 'alpha' predator, FIXATES on BOTH the 'perpetuation' of species in general... AND OUR personal hereditary DNA genome in particular.

    There is not ONE non-sexual human behavior which cannot be rationally 'kevin bacon'd posited to lead toward an opportunity for physical intimacies. We share 98% the SAME genetics as our nearest non-human relative the 'Bonobo' chimpanzee... the MOST sexually-driven primate.

    That is NOT to say, that there exist NO human communities who exist in isolation, espousing celibacy... to AVOID 'temptation' (natural predisposition) and concupiscent 'sin'. History is replete with 'cloistered' communities usually all of one gender (which pragmatically clandestinely encourages homosexuality to dull the innate urge to pseudo-copulate or scissor among females and oral sex & sodomy among males)

    Myopically, they eschew the biblical passage of Isiah 45:7 "I AM the Lord, thy GOD... I create the darkness and the light. Icreate all that is good AND ALL THAT IS EVIL, for I AM the LORD thy GOD"

    And, now One must ask themself, IF You ARE BOTH 'Omnipotent' AND 'Omniscient' ... why would You... who can do LITERALLY ANYTHING... call into existence ANYTHING that you theoretically KNEW ('omniscience' remember!) would PISS YOU OFF?
    Or, as in the case of Lucifer, ... not simply 'UN-create' him?
    ... Masochist?

  • Because of hormones like testosterone and natural reproductive instinct. It's in our biology.

    • Why women weren’t created that way then lol

    • Because then they wouldn't be women. Evolution just didn't pan out that way for humans, though there are some creatures, like frogs, which can change their sex, as the need arises. Switch between male and female.

    • Like I mean why men were biologically meant to be hornier than women?

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  • Your idea is very wrong
    Some men are not even interested in sex
    Like me I don't watch porn don't mastubate and all females are banned from my life.
    Also all the monks they go full life without sex the sadhus from India still the same so your analysis of men is wrong

  • That’s not fair.

    We think about food and booze sometimes...

  • biology

  • I rarely ever come across a "sex obsessed" guy. Most just have normal sexual urges just like females do

    • Are you sex obsessed?

    • @RK42018 maybe for a girl

    • Whats your biggest fantasy?

  • Yeah, we think about beer and pizza too 😂

  • You're very young, so I assume the men you are around are also young, I've found that the big brain kicks in late 20s prior to that it's pretty well little brain focused, in saying that, not all men are like it...

  • That's true for all sexually reproducing species.

  • if that were true there would be no wars... i do understand though that at your age most guys around you will be horn dogs

  • Because we are more visual than women when it comes to sexual attraction and we have higher testosterone than women.

  • I dont and its not the first thing on my mind. You can ask my girlfriend. Ask her who brought up sex in the relationship first. The first thing I want from a woman is her arms around me, caressing me, running her fingers through my hair, cuddling, letting me rest my head in her lap. The ultimate power of a woman is not her vagina, it's her touch. A woman's touch is so powerful that sonnets, poems, and books are written on it. Sex can please a man but a woman's touch moves a man. That's the truth. Ladies have a special power over men and they're losing it over time because they aren't being taught how to apply it anymore.

  • They’re horny lol

    • Ironically, They are 24/7 horny though lol.

    • They are!!!

  • Sounds like you are involved with a lot of stupid or shallow, simple men. Maybe the only reason men talk to you is to have sex with you. Wow that was hard to figure out wasn't it?

  • That’s not always true, but sex is a major part of a man’s life. I guess that this is how we all got here. Sometimes it is a big pain in the ass to always want sex with a woman. It gives women too much power over you as a man.

  • It's the way we're wired! same reason most women don't seem to want anything to do with sex!

  • I think about lots of other things aside from sex.

    the idea that men only think about sex is more myth then reality.

    tgat being said yes we think about sex a lot but it’s far from the only thing on our minds.

    Also so it’s not our fault just a product of our design. If you want to blame anything blame testosterone. It’s what gives us our sex drive.

  • Just how they're wired

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