Will he still like me if I don’t give him a blow job?

There’s a guy that I really like and he’s gotten blow jobs in the past and I’ve never given one and I don’t know if I ever will. It’s something that’s very hard for me. Will he still like me if I don’t give him one? Will he try to find it somewhere else? How do I get over my fear?
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  • If he won't like you just for that then he's not the man for you. I would NEVER reject a woman over that. Especially since there are so many different ways a woman can help a man get an orgasm that does not include oral.

    Now, as to your fear, I don't know if that will ever happen but I can offer some ideas. First, make it part of the ritual to clean it for him. Soap and water and rinse it off at least that will help with any bad taste. Know that if you are afraid of him urinating while you are sucking him it is virtually impossible for a man to urinate while engaging in sexual activity. The only time a guy can usually urinate during an erection is when they first wake up. If you are afraid he will lose control and try to force it down your throat to hurt you then suggest a game where you tie him up then he can't do that. Know that you don't have to take it all in your mouth for him to have really good orgasm You can just suck on the end and then with one hand either hold it or jerk him off. If you are concerned with the taste of his cum you can change that a little by making sure he does not eat any spicy food or drink any alcohol for 24 hours in advance. If he hesitates over the alcohol tell him you read someplace where going without alcohol makes a man's orgasm stronger (true). I hope some of these things will help you and if you still just don't want to do it then know that any man who bases a relationship on blowjobs is not a man you want to be with.

Most Helpful Guy

  • The answer to your question is completely dependent on the guy's personality, which we know almost nothing about from the question.

    However, if he is the kind of guy that will try to find it somewhere else if you don't give him one, he's clearly not the right one for you. We live in a big world, and while it may seem smaller at times when we have feelings for special people, it stays that way nonetheless. Lots of people have different convictions, and if you look, you will almost certainly eventually meet someone who you like and who will have similar feelings as you. Never yield because you have to.

    That's a trap that lots of people fall into all the time, and it never leads anywhere good.

    And overall, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to give blowjobs, even if they're common these days. Some people think they're demeaning, and I can completely understand that. I myself never want to receive one—and while it's an uncommon stance, I'm not alone in that.

    Stay true to yourself—you're the only one you've got to live with at the end of the day. Best wishes.

Most Helpful Girls

  • What are you, a wuss? You have to give a guy a BJ or he won't like you? Have you no self respect or positive self image of yourself woman? If you feel you have to do this to get yourself a boyfriend then you are looking at the wrong guys. Any guy worth shit is not going to demand it. And if they do tell them to not let the door hit them on the ass on the way out and then kick the door shut on their lame ass.

    Will he still like me if I don’t give him a blow job?
  • Why are you so scared to give a blow job? You could tell him you’ve never given one and ask him what he likes. I enjoy giving blow jobs.

    • But not all girls do any more than all guys like giving cunnilingus.

    • It’s true. But you are missing out on a connection with your partner if you don’t.

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  • Only do what you are comfortable with, and a guy who genuinely likes you will be fine with that.

    Not all guys want or enjoy blow jobs, personally I am not a fan. Only do what you enjoy or feel comfortable with.

  • I'm not sure just how you get over your fear, but it's a big mistake to give a guy a blow job, in order to keep him. That puts you in a submissive, inferior position in the relationship. Those types of relationships don't go well, and don't end well for the girl. If you have to give a guy a blow job or sex to keep him, let him go. It will only make things worse in the long run, if you bribe him with blow jobs or sex.

  • Don't do it if you aren't ready for sex.

    When you are, there's nothing to be afraid of. Just keep your teeth out of it. And don't let him force it by pushing your head down. If he does tell him to relax and let you do it. If he cares for you he'll be thrilled that you are doing it at all.

    If he doesn't climax, it's not because you are bad at it, some guys (like me) just don't. Good luck.

  • Practice makes perfect and as Nike says "Just do it!"

  • If he only likes you because he thinks you'll eventually give him a blowjob/if he stops liking you when he realizes you won't give him a blowjob, then he never actually liked you in the first place.
    Don't do anything you don't want to do because you're worried about what he might think

  • First, do not do anything you are not comfortable with just to please him.
    If you want to do it, take it slow and ask him what he likes etc. You want to be able to enjoy the experience as well.

  • As long as you are eager to please him sexually in some way I wouldn't worry.

    I had one girlfriend who would only give hjs but I remember her fondly.

  • Men love getting blowjobs so he will probably find someone else if you don't suck him off 🤣🤣

  • he will find someone else eventually

  • If he doesn't, than that's his loss. But you can get over your fear by facing it and not being afraid of it. Dicks don't bite ya know.

  • proabably will think u dont like him and ur not attracted to him, which will make him sad and dump you, then he will go look for agirlfriend who is attracted to him and wants to blowhim

  • Why not? Is it intimidating to you?

  • If you are ready to give him one tell him you're new at giving blowjobs. If he really likes you he's willing to wait until you're ready to start being sexual.

  • No... He’ll find someone who does !
    100% Fact ! I bet you love him to eat you!

  • Dont be afraid just suck on it and stroke it very easy and feels amazing you can't screw it up

  • Probably not

  • Nope

  • Probably find some one else but if so let him leave he's not worth it

  • You should try it out at least maybe you would en up liking it. I don't think he'll like to never get a blowjob

  • I think he will like you

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