Women fake because culturally, no one is taught the actual mechanisms of female orgasm, and a lot of men get really mad (some women too) when you tell them how the anatomy actually works. You like your boyfriend, but you know, he's never going to be willing to give your orgasm the same priority he gives his own, he (and you maybe) thinks you're broken for not orgasming the way they do it in porn, you may not even know what you like, and everywhere you turn for answers you hear wives tails, factual errors, people are too vague or the illustrations are even labeled wrong. We have a HUGE problem in Western society with this essential conspiracy to rob women of pleasure, but still huge pressure to "say" we are pleasured, because when we say that we aren't, it usually starts more fights than it's worth. A lot of men just simply are not at all prepared for the truth, and really don't want it in many cases, and we may not even have the vocabulary and knowledge of sex techniques and anatomy to even help the poor guy pleasure us if we could tell the truth.
Women who know what they want and how to get it in bed are often shamed as whores, sluts, persecuted for being feminist or even just sounding a little feminist, called liars even when we can produce the scientific data... you name it.
So, really, why on God's green Earth would you expect women NOT to fake? Our sex-obsessed yet ultra uptight culture virtually guarantees it.
And no, I don't blame men for being bummed when it happens and they find out.
The whole phenomena is sick, sex-negative, and hurtful to relationships.
Best response on this thread. It pretty much sums up every reason why a woman fakes it 👌👌
Typical feminist playing the victim, as always.
@HandsomeGuy500 He he he. You just proved my point.
I did it at the very start of our sexual relationship. We were both 16, we were both virgins, neither of us had any real experience with that kind of stuff and we were both awkward. I had never really masturbated either so I wasn't even actually sure I could cum, I knew that a lot of women said they couldn't. So, the first couple of times, I was upset but unsurprising that I wasn't having orgasms, I assumed that either I couldn't, or I was doing something wrong. I didn't want to tell him that I wasn't because obviously it was all new to him too and it was still enjoyable and I didn't want to damage his confidence or make him feel bad. So I faked it, partly out of fear something was wrong with me, resignation that it just wasn't gonna work and reluctance to say something to hurt him. I felt that they were pretty good reasons at the time. Obviously, then he actually did make me cum, like on the third time or something and I was like 'holy shit' and had to admit to him that I'd been lying, he was pissed 'cause obviously lying about that is stupid, it's way better to just be honest and constructive and then things improve rapidly, as I found out. So yeah, I know now that faking it is dumb as balls but, back then, I felt that I had a good number of reasons as to why I should and I assume they're similar reasons for other women.
I don't do it because I've never felt the need to - if I'm not 100% into it or if I feel it won't happen, I'll let him know. Either it happens or it doesn't. I'd rather be honest and let him know so that he won't keep doing things that obviously do nothing for me. Because that's the sort of hole you're digging for yourself if you fake it, your man will think certain things feel good to you even though they don't. So he won't feel the need to do anything different because he thinks you're already happy with what you're getting.
From what I can tell, girls fake because:
- They don't want to hurt their partner's feelings by telling them they're doing something wrong. (But in the long run this is only harmful to the relationship... and if your partner can't take some criticism in bed then their ego is wayyyy too fragile)
- They're shy about their sexuality and would rather pretend everything is good than have an open discussion about what works and what doesn't (totally understandable since girls get shamed for their sexuality all. the. time.)
- Sometimes the sex is ok but not like mind-blowingly good so they'd rather get it over with than have a whole discussion about their sex life.
- Maybe they're used to having bad sex and think that that's just what it's supposed to be like.
I usually don't do that. Like.. 99.9% of the time, my orgasms are completely legit.
Once in a blue moon I might act more into the session than I truly am that particular time because I know my boyfriend is super keen to get me off at least once each time. Even if I let him know that I just don't think it'll happen (because of stress/fatigue and whatnot), he insists on continuing to try and make it happen. So.. I don't feign orgasm but will pretend like I'm closer to climax than I really am. &hey, sometimes an actual orgasm will catch me by surprise, too.
It's the age old issue. Females will just try to give us the excuse that they don't want to "hurt our ego" and all that, but no man ever feels that faking does his ego any service. Then they try to say guts get mad if you tell them they're doing it wrong. I doubt most men get upset if you take his hand and show him and say, "Like this."
Faking Os is ultimately a woman's lack of courage in communication laced with psychological excuses.
Damn. Well said.
@Pegases I keep it real.
Just go KILL THA FUCKIN BITCH KILL the BITCH and AND walked away don't FO GETS THA evince what u killed HER WITH
I would know a girl faking because when a girl orgasms her vaginal walls swell up immensely around your penis and throb, you can't fake that! Its an involuntary reaction to a real orgasm. So if there is no swell then she's faking. But, its not rocket science dudes, just be a giver and dont expect her to climax as fast as you, you selfish lover... lol
Thats pretty much how i see it as well and besides if she doesn't get off and i do than give me a min and ill make sure u get what u want haha that hasn't happened to me yet but i honestly woulf love it bc then i get off 2 times and usually the girls get to get off multiple times and not us guys
@Mattjb83 yes yes yes
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Sometimes you feel bad about telling your SO it ain't happening. Especially if you are one of those who just cannot no matter what during intercourse and your partner is really trying.
HOWEVER this is not really a excuse. My ex whom was last person I was with knew this and understood my body so I always climaxed before intercourse so there was never expectations which made things much easier. And if I couldnt even climax from foreplay then I would also just say I am not in right headspace. He knew I was just honest so it wasn't a issue but I couldnt help but notice he would look like his ego was hurt when I did say I couldnt.
Your comment sounds so near-reality. I would always wish that the girl gets even more pleasure from sex than me. I guess I have a similar issue and I would need to talk with my (nonexistent) Girl about me feelings, my wishes and so forth to find a way with her to deal with it.
The reason I’ve faked it because it was my last resort. If the guy won’t listen to me about what I like or shit at taking directions, I fake it to be over so I can get the fuck outta there. 😂
to make your man feel better about himself
Women fake it because they're never taught what it's actually supposed to feel like, only what they are supposed to look like when they're "having one." A lot of women aren't really sure they are having one, and this leads to insecurity on both ends.
You know the adage that you're not supposed to tell someone you love them for the first time during/ right after climax (for men)? asking a women "did you orgasm" right after a man climaxes is a similar situation. It would kinda hurt if someone said, well I don't or I know... Honestly, It would most likely kill the guys mood. That's why most girls don't speak up, because silence in this situation is better than outright "rejection." Many guys expect validation when they ask her if she got off, and if they don't get it, they react accordingly. It's a biased scenario, where the only "acceptable" answer is really yes.
If she is honest and says no, its assumed that there's something wrong with the girl , and/or she can be "fixed" in the future. No one likes feeling like their bodies are used to feel like an achievement... that the ability to make her biologically orgasm is more important than focusing on the emotional experience of sex. If men are less concerned with "anatomy" and actual skill and appropriate timing, then they will most likely get genuine feedback. For example, why is the male ego too fragile to handle penis size jokes? Breast size don't make someone better at sex, and neither does penis size. But its completely acceptable for men to prefer certain size breasts but not women to prefer certain size penis?
You're contradicting yourself at the end there. You're saying sizes doesn't matter, but then defending people's right to have bias for size?
Do you prefer certain eye colours/ body types? Everyone has preferences. And I’m not saying people limit their pool to just these preferences. But if a friend was trying to hook you up with someone, they’ll take certain things into account. I’m bisexual and prefer women with smaller boobs and i prefer men with average penis. Obviously the second I can’t know until I’m in bed With him. Heaven forbid, that someone can accept that they’re a “normal” guy and not some great Porno stud. Worse off, if someone is below average and he ask if he’s big, I have found “no” to be followed by huge insecurities that I don’t want to deal with... and I don’t.
I feel you now, well said.
Just plain stupid. TELL me, you're struggling to get there! I want that information. You think you won't cum if I lift you up and play you like a banjo? Alright well challenge accepted, let's find out!
I refuse to believe the orgasm won't come, and I'll be damned if I'll accept defeat in less than 2 hours!!! Just give me time, we'll blow this little kitty up, mark my words see 😏
But, honestly, if it's someone I don't care about? Knock yourself out, I don't care... Once you cum (or fake cum) I'm not stopping until I do, so buckle up
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