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Women faking the big O: Guys, how do you feel about this? Ladies, why do you do this?
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It is a fact. A lot of women cannot have orgasm just by intercourse alone. Although there are alternatives. Girl on top works all the time ;)
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77 201If she can fake it convincingly (some younger women I've been with were obviously faking), it can add to the guy's pleasure at the moment, but she should tell him at a calmer moment that she faked it and what he can do to increase the chances of an orgasm for her.
Annoyed because it means that's she is essentially encouraging me to do something that is not working then she is going to gradually start being turned off by sex then turn around and blame me for it when in fact its because she was to much of a coward to speak up and just communicate. In the end she loses out because she is encouraging me to do something that is not working for her and I lose out twice because she will be less inclined towards sex and she will turn around and blame me for it when in fact its entirely on her for not communicating. I don't have a vagina, its not my body so I have nothing but her reactions and what she says to guide me on what she does and does not like. Its really annoying and frustrating, not to mention inefficient. I see absolutely no benefit what so ever to do it.
I do not understand why women dislike this comment - I think your on to sth.
@philipph I have no idea, you would think that a guy wanting a woman to communicate with him and to show him how to make her feel good would be a good thing?
As far as both can express themselves this way yes. However one ingredient is always to make sure, that the other person feels fully accepted - otherwise it is foolishness to expect openness i guess
@philipph Well if your doing a one night stand I suppose one would feel that way but then if your doing a one night stand and getting nothing out of it why would you bother with them to begin with?
i’ve faked it before bc it wasn’t good & i wanted to get it over with
with my current boyfriend i never had to fake it :)
I'd rather she tell me I'm not doing it for her so I can get better. Or even better, tell me what feels good for her to get her there. But I love eating pussy and playing with pussy, so I don't depend on my intercourse skills to get a woman to orgasm.
I think a lot of women fake it because they are too shy to tell a guy or they don't want to hurt his feelings.
Also some guys cannot take it. When I was in my early 20's I was dating a guy (late 20's) who literally freaked out when I told him that I wasn't getting there. I wasn't rude about it. Didn't be all "You're awful!" and totally blaming and crap. Just said I was having some trouble and explained it can be difficult for some chicks to orgasm. I told him that certain things he did didn't work for me. Made suggestions. He pretty much threw a temper tantrum and was like "Every girl I've been with has gotten off with me!" And there were some issues with my first serious boyfriend when we first starting having sex (I was a virgin before so it was new territory) and although he was a bit hurt at first he was less of a child about it than the other guy and after a short spazz he decided to actually listen to me. So things got a lot better. But yeah sometimes we get scared off communicating our needs because of idiots like my ex.
Sounds legit - hope you find a men with whom you can communicate really deeply... I think thats more important than sex
@philipph Oh yeah my guy now is pretty great.
My feelings would be hurt far more to find out you've been faking it.
@GingerGuy I've never faked it.
Scripted fake Os sounds are a turn off. Every woman that I was with had very odd unique special sometimes really cute O sounds so anything faked is an instant limp dick for me.
It's pointless. If you are training your man to think he did a good enough job when he did not, how do you ever expect to be satisfied?
Exactly. It hurts both individuals to fake an orgasm. If a woman wants to feel satisfied then she really needs to communicate. So... if women think they're doing a service by lying then they are horribly mistaken.
Doesn't want him to feel bad if he could not give me one, but it is rare for me
If you want a higher chance of orgasm then you should communicate about what you like or do not like.
Guys know when women fake. . but we appreciate the effort. I've faked as well... some women just don't do it good, they got that sad pussy that can't handle a real D***
Omg does girl on top work! In like 90 seconds sometimes. Lol.
#nofake
yes all the time yeeehhaaa :D it makes you take charge of him. Him underneath helpless and stuff. He loves it
Haha, I just like to be able to adjust the speed, angle and where it hits me. I know if he wants out he could toss me like a rag doll.
Fake it till you make it
I will do it so he doesn't feel bad and I will also discretely finish myself off when he is asleep. Occasionally it may not be his fault and my head is in the wrong place, again I will fake it so he doesn't feel bad. On the whole this does happen very often.
I don't understand why a woman would fake an orgasm. I'm quite capable of following directions, if she tells me what she needs in order to actually orgasm, I will do it!
Sometimes it's just not you. There are many other complicated reasons why. Some girls get off oral after intercourse. That's fine.
I haven’t had sex but what I plan to do is to keep going after I come since I always stay hard after I finish? I also take 0.5mg of cabergoline twice per week which eliminates the refractory period so I would just keep going to be safe. Wow I’m such a fkn dweeb what has my life come to
I know every guy wants to believe their woman has never faked it but they have. But that doesn't mean it's because you weren't enough. Sometimes our bodies just won't respond whether it's stress, being tired, etc... And I would think a lot of woman who are getting to tired to let you go on don't want to ruin it for you or want you to think it's your fault. Now some do do it because their guy is not doing the right things but that's the woman's fault for not communicating. And if she does communicate then yes you're not listening or don't care. Gotta love the ones who only care about themselves. Point is you could be a porn star and have a woman fake it. And I guess even if it's not you we could be honest but in my experience guys don't believe you and think they did something wrong.
Amen!
I never could get one while having sex (except once) that’s the reason I fake it
Anything different about that one time you did? With the sex, or with life or with masturbation frequency?
Or meds, even notice anything different about how rested you were or stressed or at ease?
I think the guy was very into sex he was more interested in what I like and let me take the control, but it wasn’t just sex it was like ecstasy..
No never took meds, I just never had an orgasm with any of my partners except that one guy
Did he just happen to be into what you like or did he ask?
Men don’t ask well some but no he didn’t he just thought well why don’t she show me what she likes and I’ll just roll with it, it worked for both I was shaking when I was done and he got off in three mins
It only took you three min the one time you did have one? Or was that just the, ehem, penetration part. Lol. Could be how long it takes, i cum easier quicker, if i hold out it takes a lot longer though is stronger.
No he came three mins and we actually had sex four times that night but he’s an Aquarius so he does the disappearing act 🙄
@b0g101 You nosy fucker
Probably wonder why he couldn’t make his lady friend orgasm Leave him alone😩😩 lol
@handsomeguy. Lol. Guess I've gotten used to having a place to talk openly about this stuff. Usually we talk about relationship and issues related but sex comes up a lot. I hoped i could help. It gets easier, but talking about this stuff is pretty weird... in person especially. Even in relationships for most people. Its funny, but many european countries think Americans prudes and weird because of our attitudes towards sex and relationships. Were obsesses with it for the most part but dont honestly talk about it with peopke, beyond boasting or whatever.
I’ll talk about sex to anyone on here or even outside sex is a beautiful thing and if someone needs advice I’ll be the one to give it
I only have when I've had sex with the guy when I've been super drunk. If I'm plastered I get whiskey clit bad, and all of my inhibitions go out the window so in the past I have just so I could go to sleep. I don't do it anymore though lol. This was a while ago.
If she fakes it (but I hope she never does/ or feel the need to).
I would want her to tell me the truth, weather I want to hear it or not, rather than feel lied to and feel like a completely shitty fucker in genral, and unhappy and disappointed with my own preformence.
I want to know/ make her satisfied sexually.
I would want her to tell me how she wants me to do it/ what to do, and I will, or try to at least, otherwise ima keep trying till I found a way to 'hit the spot' so to speak.
Always willing to give as well as recieve.
And I'm also open to try new things/ experiences.
But I doubt my chances, cause no one wants a guy who's almost 20 and still a virgin... sooo... yeah. I have bad luck with females I guess...
your life is just beginning
Because I’ve never been able to do it lol and I feel bad because they always ask me if I did so I lie lol
Sometimes it just ain't happening. Nothing personal.