Women lead sex is the best for mutual pleasure?

[Anonymous]

In terms of the both parties achieving an o

[AustinMan]

Not in my experience. I have found that if I do a few things to help us along that we both cum all we want or can, whichever cums first, so to speak. An example is that if we're having penatrative vag sex, when she's getting close, I slow down to a little faster than one stroke per second. That's the normal orgasmic rhythm for women. It lets her come much more easily. Also, I feel like most men think that when she likes it, going harder and/or faster makes it better and that's not necessarily true. Women are more cumulative animals in terms of orgasmic energy so just feed the beast as you are and you'll get there.

[Asker]

Fair point and pretty similar to what I'm saying in terms setting a rhythm, a lot of guys have raced to the point and I wasn't even stimulated.

[AustinMan]

Shame on them. When she squirts, it's just heaven for me. That's undeniable evidence that she's cum, hard.

[Asker]

Glad some people get it😂

[Reaperbot666]

so long as we both get to feel pleasure from each other and both get to orgasm at least once. I am fine with the girl taking the lead during sex once in a while. it's nice to be able to switch back and forth now and then. as to who as more control during sex.

[Asker]

That's the aim! It's less about control and more setting a rhythm so we both get pleasure

[Reaperbot666]

I'm willing and available

[Anonymous]

Sexual compatibility is best for mutual sexual pleasure.

[ashish804]

yeahh... true... but see women getting fucked themselves by us is utmost satisfying

[Asker]

I agree that's what I'm aiming at

[ashish804]

yeahhh... it would be fucking sexyyyy seeing u lead

[ashish804]

and feeling the same

[Opinion Owner]

@LastQueenOfScotlamd nice 👍

[Asker]

Thanks

[JackSmy]

Maybe it works, at your age, with what things you like. Later, you might have different experiences, realizing being the control freak isn't so good. . .

[Asker]

Less about control more about understanding one another rhythm

[JackSmy]

@lastqueenofscotland Tell me more, please. . . Your choice, openly or private chat.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Probably?
I've stopped having sex with her so I couldn't say for sure. Never enjoyed it that much.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Bad or good, I still make a point to avoid any form of sex with her.

[pierre7i]

I certainly find that when the girl is totally involved - and creative - in both the foreplay and actual sexual lovemaking it makes it so much more pleasurable for us both and often leads to more than one intensely beautiful orgasm for each of us

[ManOnFire]

I guess that depends on what those two people like. I take the lead and am dominant and she likes that, and I always make sure she orgasms.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

dominant women are the best!

[bowenw]

Almost any kind of sex will lead to an orgasm for most guys. It can be more complex for women, so letting the woman lead or share in the control is more likely to lead to mutual satisfaction.

[Ripper_E]

Maybe you are just naturally dominant when it comes to sex or dominant when it comes to those men.

[Asker]

Less about being dominant more about both enjoying the experience

[RHK36]

Give women control? Nah I'm good lol. I'll pretend at first then I'm taking over.

[ashish804]

yeah... its fucking sexy to seee u getting fucked urself with ur effort with mine inside u is kinda satisfying

[Asker]

Sure

[Jakelatter2020]

I'd say the woman needs to lead once, so her man can learn, but after that he should be serving and performing what you want, when you want. Sex is best when both sides are comfortable enough to completely let go and be all the way raw.

[_Troian_]

I don't think so, I believe real man is the one who takes the controll and dominates his woman.

[Asker]

Again not about dominance, about understanding someone else's rhythm and not just your own

[_Troian_]

I care about the woman I fuck tho and I like to make her feel satisfied, however she should also satisfy me with giving me the ropes.

[Asker]

You should really understand that we sometimes fake being satisfied

[_Troian_]

But u can't fake orgasms when you cum ; )

[Asker]

It's something like 25% of women cum during vaginal sex

[_Troian_]

Wow.. I guess I was lucky one then to make them cum lol

[Cowboy6666]

mutual understanding is the best for better sexual pleasure
I agree try to fulfil each others need

[bamesjond0069]

I think the opposite, when a woman has no control. When a man bigger stronger and forcible it triggers a womans rape response and she can't help but be highly aroused. in my opinion this is the best sex for both parties.

[Asker]

Joking?

[bamesjond0069]

No. Thats how i am with all the girls i have sex with mostly. And they mostly keep calling me back for more. Im pretty built and i just tackle my friends with benefits and pin her down and she fights but ill slap her around or choke her out and by the time i go to put it in she's super wet. But almost all girls are like this. Its an involuntary response thats not fully studied but they think its biological like if a girl was to be raped the body is going to make it better for the girl. Anyways it turns girls on in a way that regular sex doesn't. It also turns me on in a way regular sex doesn't. Thats why i say its the best.

[Asker]

Maybe rephrase it to rough sex than rape otherwise fair enough

[bamesjond0069]

Well tbh im not sure. She yells no and fights, i wouldn't be able to tell the difference. 😅

[Whtevernever]

I agree if it's a first time or a first few times. I think communication is best but if the ladies got the confidence, knows what she wants and takes charge? That's best.

[Asker]

Rhythm comes naturally with partners who've been together for a while

[Whtevernever]

Agreed.

[Valnac]

Whenever I initiate, the sex is so so.
When she initiates, it doesn’t get hotter than that.

[mrgspoter]

I mean does it matter have to try something new?

[Asker]

What'd you mean?

[mrgspoter]

I make it so it's all new and amazing

[CubaPirate]

I don't see any grounds for arguing with that tbh

[Slim57]

Seemed like when I took the lead it worked best for me and my ex

[Asker]

Maybe that's why she's an ex?😂

[Asker]

Sorry was mean, mean more rhythm setting by listening and feeling where your partner is at

[Slim57]

Maybe not like I would know cause she's a dishonest tramp but yeah I mean I would do that with any partner

[townhouse]

Definitely it is

[Amk40000]

I found it better

[gandolph3]

Yes it is a different approach

[Lonelywolfxl]

Maybe you should try

[Asker]

Hence the post?

[Lonelywolfxl]

Okay

[sandya88]

May be

[Anonymous]

Women lead sex, what does this mean?

[Anonymous]

nah im good

[Anonymous]

Nah, most women would hate that. Most women prefer to be dominated and controlled in bed. There are exceptions, like you, but not many.

[Asker]

Yes and no, I'm not dominant either but I want to actually have my own pleasure.

[Opinion Owner]

There is no reason you can have your own pleasure without "leading" in the bedroom. Just have fingers and clit... just use them. Unless you want a submissive man as a partner... and if you're not dominant, as you say, then I suspect you don't... then your notion that women leading sex is the best for mutual pleasure is going to fail.

[Opinion Owner]

There is no reason you can't*...

[Asker]

Because sex is a 2 way thing hum

[Opinion Owner]

What's your point?

[Asker]

As in it shouldn't just be you who orgasms

[Opinion Owner]

And I never said anything different. Why would have have any bearing on who should "lead" during sex?

[Opinion Owner]

Dominant men are not going to stick around long with a woman who wants to "lead" in the bedroom because it's "best for mutual pleasure". That's totally unsustainable in the real world. But hey, do what's right for you.

[Asker]

Maybe that's why only 20% of women get orgasms 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Do you really believe only 20% of women have orgasms? You poor thing. Regardless, let's think about why some women don't have orgasms. Why would that be? Could it be that they view themselves as completely helpless in the matter because they sit back passively and helplessly hoping their partner will "make them cum"? I think so. I have never had a partner who didn't orgasm every time, at least once, but only after I coached them to take a little ownership for their own pleasure rather than sitting there helplessly hoping I "make them" cum. That isn't to say I don't make them cum often, but my current partner is a great example of how a woman can put in just a little effort and get a hell of a lot more out of sex. Whether I am fucking her pussy or her ass she is almost always diddling herself (or using her little vibe) and as a result she typically cums 2 - 4 times per session. And she doesn't have to have sex with a submissive man to get all that. Open your mind.

[Asker]

Sure thing bud

[Opinion Owner]

You poor thing

[Asker]

How so?

[Anonymous]

Yeah I think its true. Since women find it harder to orgasm generally. Every woman is different. Therefore initially its probably better for the woman to lead the sex. But once the guy is more familiar with her partner then I dont think it's as important since the guy will know how best to pleasure her.

[Asker]

Exactly its familiarity and understanding.