Would a guy care that I’m still a virgin?

Question

Long story short - something happened to me when I was younger that I don’t want to get into, but it freaked me about about sex and dating for my teenage years. Then at university I was so conscious that I was so inexperienced that I was too afraid to date anyone. By the time I realised that most people in their first year of university are inexperienced, I was in my final year and felt even more embarrassed. Then the pandemic hit and no one was dating for two years.

I want to have sex, its not like I’m religious or waiting until marriage or anything. It just hasn’t happened - I wasn’t ready, I was too shy, the guys I liked didn’t like me/I didn’t like the guys who liked me, pandemic, blah blah blah. It wasn’t a choice, I’m just not a one night stand kind of girl - otherwise I would have gotten it out of the way a long time ago.

But, though I really want to have sex - it is pretty much all I think about and I feel like I’m going crazy - I’m terrified of how a guy will react when he finds out that I am a 25 year old virgin. It’s embarrassing!

I get asked out/approached/flirted with by guys, but am too nervous to go out with any of them, just incase I end up liking them and have to deal with the whole sex thing.

Am I being stupid? Would it freak a guy out or would they not really care?

Pasiton5 · Accepted Answer

Okay like this okay it's your version you're rare and if a guy do not appreciate cherish a door and love the hell out of you and he's an idiot and you don't need to be with him any guy that complains cuz you're a virgin just turn around and walk away okay because he's not a man he's not ready for you don't ever feel pressured into giving up your virginity until you are ready to okay and make sure it's someone who's worthy of you who will appreciate you I will love you be gentle and cherish you and be true to you don't just give it away you know in the heat of passion with some bozo we just want to stick his dick in you and run afterwards no take your time don't feel pressured don't let anyone pressure you rush you until you're ready and let it be with someone who's worthy of you okay that's real don't feel guilty don't feel anyway hold your head up and be proud you are one to admire I mean that

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

Most guys won't care. Most of those who do care won't care much. And most of those do care a lot will see it as a big plus.

Pretty much the only downsides to having sex with a virgin are: 1. they don't know as much about what they like, or how to please others- not a big deal, so long you're willing and able to learn; it may be a bigger obstacle to a ONS-type situation, though. 2. they're more likely to have mistaken ideas about the realities of sex. Not everyone takes being disabused of such notions well. 3. Confronting angry unicorns. It's PROBABLY not a real possibility, but I mention it just in case.

Jessica405 · Accepted Answer

Like my guy did with me, he was so pleased he was my first and only. I was 22 when I gave him my v-card.

Don't be embarrassed! Be proud that you kept it intact for someone special. It sure makes a relationship better.

Nagahime · Accepted Answer

You're smart, if anything. You're just waiting for the right person to give it to and that is completely alright. You do you.

Berethor · Answer

You a girl, not a guy, so you not likely to be virgin-shamed.

DonkeyDan · Answer

It really wouldn't phase me at all, at least if I knew I could do all I can to make sure your first experience was as good as it can be.

Dargil · Answer

No, you aren't. If I were intimate with you, I would prefer knowing, not for some negative reason but to make your first experience pleasant and memorable. Many virgins need a soft hand and baby steps. Especially where you had a traumatic experience as a teen.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Personally, it'd be a kind of trophy to find a girl that was still a virgin. I think most guys would be thrilled to find one.
Before it comes down you having sex with a guy, pose a question to him a if you're asking about a friend of yous that he's never met and probably never will. Make one up, if you want! Let's say he tells you of something funny a friend of his did and you laugh at it and then say you've got a friend that did that once, too but she's this way or that way, in fact, she's still a virgin and is afraid to date anyone because she fears guys will not like the fact that she's a virgin! If he doesn't exactly give his feeling on that, ask him what he thinks of someone like her. If he's not cool with "her", you know you shouldn't bother going out with him anymore. Finish the date and consider going with someone else the next time you want to go on a date and do the same thing with him.

exitseven · Answer

Find a guy you like, get to know each other and when you are both are ready do it. He will not care if it is your first time. Do not overthink it nd just enjoy it.

4afriend · Answer

I think its sexy. And remember other women your age have experiences, but doesn't mean they were good ones. Find trust with a guy. And work up to the main event. Foreplay then sex. Dosent have to be all at once. And if a guy doesn't appreciate that you are a virgin, it his loss

ravagesavage · Answer

Lmao you're 29 and still a virgin? Saaaaad! 😂

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

No. I don't think that most would Some men desire that. Personally, for me anyway if a woman were to choose me for her time it would be something i would take very seriously and feel very honored to be that man.