Would you be OK if your partner wants to make you cum but doesn't want to cum?

Would you be OK if your partner wants to make you cum, gives you oral etc. but doesn't want to cum in return, pleasures you completely just for you and doesn't want to be pleasured back and refuses to be pleasured?
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  • For a while, sure. If it's an "I'm not ready for that yet" thing, I'd probably be more inclined to just wait until she was more comfortable, although I suppose if she thought it'd help ("let me get used to the idea of this", or what have you), we could go one-way for a bit. And of course, an "I'm injured/sick/otherwise unable" I'll accept. And once you get to the point where you're really together, and stop keeping track, well, I'm not keeping track.

    But over the long term? I doubt I'd be happy with an entirely one-way thing in either direction. Sex is a mutual thing; if you don't like penetration, we can go oral or digital; if you don't like someone else touching you sexually at all, there's always mutual masturbation. And I have to admit that if it was anorgasmia, it'd take effort to not take that as a personal affront (to the condition, I mean; not the woman). But nothing at all...

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  • A little odd, but not that unheard of. When I was with a particularly hot girlfriend (we were in 20's) I could not get enough of eating her, all of her orifices, but if I shot my wad first, I lost interest in her pussy and ass et al.
    I told her that I could jack-off anytime, and that sometimes for me to 'relive' eating her out when I jacked -off later was even better than her sucking me off or jacking me off, because I could take my time and lay there and replay what I did to her while I jacked off, and when I did shoot my wad, it was twice as hard and more volume. The brain plays such a big part in fucking. I would not 'REFUSE to let her eat me or jack me off or fuck me. I wasn't stupid, but just really enjoyed reliving my tongue in all of her holes and listening to her while I beat my meat.

    • Glad it was not TMI, nor too graphic, but thanks for giving me the MHO I always try to answer directly and graphically

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  • I actually was that partner for a long time. I didn't want others touching me, I would just help get her off and then that was it.

  • I'd be okay with that. Although i dont see that happening in my case any time soon

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  • My opinion on this topic is that if one isn't sexual/doesn't like sex themselves they have no right to expect sexual exclusivity.
    If, allegedly, sex isn't that by which you define a romantic relationship, you have no ground on which to base any expectations that would pertain to it.
    You can't enforce limitations on something you are not offering.
    That's simply called having your cake and eating it too.

    I would be ok with dating someone who isn't sexual yes, if I get to have sex with others.
    In any other scenario? No.

  • That bothers me a little. What would she get out of it?

    That said, I could go for something like that right now.

    Can I ask why you are asking this question?
    If you want to PM me with the answer, that is fine.
    I am very intrigued as to why you asked it and may want to ask you a follow up question about it.

    • I have 2 female friends who aren't very sexual and don't enjoy sex themselves but they like to pleasure their partners so I got curious what people might think of these kind of relationships.

    • "Partners" - are these partners male or female? Why do they not like sex? Did they say why they like to pleasure their partners?

    • Both girls have male partners and claim to be in happy romantic relationships. Their reasoning for why they like to pleasure them is because they love them. They simply don't like sex however. Both of them claim that they don't masturbate and that they simply can't orgasm no matter what. Their partners have wanted to reciprocate but both of them aren't really interested. One of them said that she likes sex because of the intimacy and loves to make her partner cum even though she doesn't like cumming herself.

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  • I would wonder if her enthusiasm was fake but if I saw no signs of it waning I would probably get used to it,

  • I would be disappointed but accept it. I'd do what I could to change that.

  • I don't think so. It would make me feel selfish. I'm fine with the situation being reversed, making my partner cum but not finishing myself

  • It is OK. Sometimes it is good just doing it without finishing.

  • i had a girlfriend that didn't like to receive oral, wouldn't even let me try. i felt like i wasn't able to participate fully and that one of my best features in bed were being ignored. I kind of felt like i spent 3 months being taught by a pair of lesbians for nothing.

  • Doesn’t sound terrible

  • I'm fine with it, though I'd be a little concerned about why she doesn't want any pleasure back.

  • Oh, it's okay :D

  • I mean, I guess... It would be kind of weird, though. It would be taking away half the fun.

  • I would be perfectly fine with that. There will be a time when the roles would be reversed.

  • I'm good with it but the women I had in relationships weren't.

  • No, I get where that desire is coming from but it's not at all for me.

  • It happens occasionally and I understand.

  • That is difficult to understand. When my partner cums or is close cumming, I feel the urge to cum myself.

  • no, i couldnt accept that

  • Most Imp thing would be whatever makes her happy and satisfied if thats what she wants then its all Good Then next time it's a double or triple session for her till she explodes with satisfaction :)

  • It's okay but I would feel bad for her.
    Something bad probably happened and if she's is not in the mood we don't do it.

  • Sure it does happen now and again lol

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