Would you feel satisfied if a person didn't truly desire you sexually but was being sexual with you for other reasons?

For example, could you be satisfied by paying a sex worker who wouldn't give you the time of day if not for your money? Could you be satisfied with a golddigger who learned to "grin and bear" having sex with you, just so they could drain your bank account?

Personally, if someone doesn't truly want sex with me, then that's a massive turn-off for me. I don't think I could enjoy it. How about you?
Would you feel satisfied if a person didnt truly desire you sexually but was being sexual with you for other reasons?
I have no idea /OR/ I'm asexual
Vote A
I couldn't enjoy sexual relations with someone who didn't truly desire me sexually
Vote B
I could enjoy it in a carnal way, but I wouldn't be emotionally satisfied
Vote C
I would be satisfied both carnally and emotionally, but not as much as I would be if the person truly wanted me
Vote D
I would be just as satisfied in that situation as if the person truly wanted me
Vote E
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  • I’ve been in this position a few times.

    1. I’ve dated women who would drop it not because they liked it, but didn’t want to lose the attention I was giving them. They also had a long game of using me against someone else or looking for financial support.

    These are the second to worse kind of women. The worst are women who play dumb with the friendzone while exploiting me for their own ends.

    2. I have had two women actually like me so much as a “friend” they let me do it just for my own gratification. They didn’t have any ulterior motives.

    In retrospect this was extremely selfless of them. I later very carefully acknowledged what they did and thanked them. I told them they didn’t have to do that but I appreciated them giving me something precious without expectation of anything in return.

    3. I confess I’ve been with a few prostitutes. Judge me all you want. But at these scenarios are the most honest. Nothing is hidden. She knows what I want and I know what she wants. But I felt like shit afterwards. But that decision was on me.

    Bottom line is sex is obviously not as good when you don’t feel wanted.

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  • Hmm. I have thought about this before. ... Look- I know I'm not a 10. The way I see it, if I'm lucky enough to find someone that finds me acceptable enough to marry, even if they're not drooling when they look at my picture, then that is OK with me.

    If she falls in love with me as a person, I don't really mind if she doesn't lust after my body. (She'll probably have to get off from my licking skills anyway.)

    Or even if she doesn't necessarily fall in love with me but just tolerates me loving her, that is okay, too.

    All I ask for is commitment and loyalty.

    • Also, if my wife wasn't feeling necessarily close to me personally, but she wanted to use my body, I would probably still let her. She IS my wife, after all. It wouldn't be very nice to deny her sexual relief.

    • Jamie, hold out for better than that. I think it's out there for you. I see mismatched looking couples ALL THE TIME. Gorgeous men with average looking women and vice versa. To me, this is a clear case of each person brings something to the relationship that satisfies the other and BOTH find each other HOT HOT HOT! If there is a GIANT emotional OR physical attraction gap, the relationship is doomed in the long haul. I knew a woman who LOVED her husband. He gained 100 lbs and she stayed with him for years afterward until she couldn't take it anymore. He didn't even look human! She'd talked it out with him. She wasn't looking for him to look like a teen ager, but to look and be healthy. THey stopped having sex. RED FLAG!!! There was nothing physically wrong with him It was his stressful JOB. Did he try to change jobs and get back into shape. No. She divorced him and became happier and met another person who faced his issues. Another guy loved this gal emotionally and mentally but she wasn't his physical type at all. He liked skinny blondes with giant tits! she had small tits was a brunette and was muscular. Just didn't jell! Finally found his physical type and dumped her unceremoniously. He could have bowed out gracefully and told her she just wasn't his cup of tea.. But he was a wuss. Hurt her feelings worse than if he'd have let her go! You have to have the WHOLE PACKAGE!!! Takes longer, but worth the wait.

    • @Screenwriter That dude was a dumbass. (The guy who dumped the girl.). I personally think he was way too shallow to begin with; but having said that, he shouldn't have gotten into a relationship with someone he wasn't attracted to. As for the dude gaining a bunch of weight: that sounds like a communication problem to me. I think he was probably narcissistic and so he wouldn't listen to her when she begged him to lose weight (assuming she did.). They probably had never learned to truly listen to each other even prior to this becoming an issue. But, alternatively, he could have been facing depression. Maybe he wanted to get in shape but just didn't know how to. For whatever reasons, he wasn't getting the help he needed. (I will add, though, that she shouldn't have divorced him for that. "For better or for worse" and "in sickness and in health" means just that. It's a vow. It's a promise. You don't just give up on your spouse because they're having problems, no matter what it is.)

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Most Helpful Girls

  • I truly believe that a sexual connection is priceless and whilst people may feel sad for the person who is being used for their money... they have something more than the person using them! I feel sad for the person who chooses money and average sex for material items.
    Money can’t but that sex you have when you finally experience it! Sex can be just sex to please someone or to make yourself feel better and for many reasons. But when you have sex with someone you truly let go with and make love (corny I know) it’s something people would wish they could pay for!

  • Those choices don't compute. If you don't KNOW that a person is not attracted to you sexually, how could it possibly matter? If you KNOW that you're paying the person to have sex with you and that's the CONTRACT for the several hours you're with them, then what does THAT matter?
    If you're in a relationship and you somehow find OUT the person isn't attracted to you sexually, then it DOES matter. I'd never want to be with someone who didn't find me stimulating physically and emotionally. Dealbreaker.

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  • I would enjoy it

    Don't buy the bs of guys claiming they wouldn't enjoy it. There is a reason:
    * most prostitutes are women
    * men regularly insist sex is an obliged duty in relationships
    * men are fine guilting women with giving him a chance when dating
    * plying women with drugs, alcohol, or begging insults to shit on her self esteem as tactics to get sex

    The vast majority of men dislike even getting consent because they don't want to run the risk of being told no OR ruining a yes turning her off... that should show how much men are invested in having an engaged sex partner.

  • Obviously anyone who was like this would suck in bed and I wouldn’t waste my time. I can size up and read a guy looking and talking to him to figure out a dud in bed. That’s one skill girls who love sex have we can read into it and shoot that shit down. From vocabulary to the way a guy hold himself sex is a very readable trait lol. You print have that friend who talks to a dozen girls and gets shot down a dozen times that’s why 😂

    • How can you tell by small talk with a guy if he's good in bed?

    • @AffectionKing it’s about interacting with so many people in my life my mind working the way it does. There are just those who get highly uncomfortable or defensive in nature. That’s the biggest give away

    • Oh ok. The ones that are all for it is good in bed and don't mind sharing is what you saying?

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  • I kinda like it when girlfriend can't be bothered but she'll shove her bum my way and throws me lube.. sexual horniness can consume your life , so a release of that with a hooker or a sheep can only be good for your day to day actions

    • Wait... Sheep?

    • What the f-

    • @navyrobin ask no questions , get told no lies

  • Sex with someone who desires you sexually is the ultimate. I've had women make me feel like a sexual god based on how much they desired me. There's nothing like it.

  • lmaoo lowkey a part of a situation im in rn


    no


    love me whole or leave me

  • Not really, no. I don't want to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me. Or least, can't do a good job PRETENDING. I won't get hard. It simply won't happen. I don't want to sleep with someone who has ZERO desire to sleep with me, but lost a bet, or had to because she gets paid for it, or something. That's why I'd never sleep with pseudo-lesbians ("bisexuals"). I hate them. I can't get off being with someone who doesn't desire/want men, or at least masculinity.

  • that be manipulation so the answer is no, it's bad. hopefully can see past it. Isn't that what women seek... honest emotional connection?

  • Can't even imagine having sex with a person i'm not attracted with or don't find attractive. It would totally feel gross. Always wonder how hookers feels about it.

  • Not at all. I don’t think I could ever get sexual with someone who didn’t desire me sexually too.

  • Nope and NOPE.

  • C. Even though i only see sex as a carnal thing anyway. Sex don't equal emotional satisfaction for me, love does.

  • I agree with you, I would totally end that relationship if someone was just having sex with me to get into my wallet. On top of that I would never pay for sex , I never have and I never would that does completely nothing for me to be honest, lately I been asked by girls on Snapchat to pay for their premiums and pay to meet up with them so I can have sex with them and I say no way , if I have to pay you to have sex with me then what is the point ? No connection what so ever, and how people can actually degrade themselves for money is dirty to me and a huge turn off

  • I would feel the same way you do about that scenario.

  • No.
    If she didn't want me and wasn't in love with me then I'd get out of the relationship with her.

    Sex worker? The Earth would be 100% if sex workers and pervert John's didn't even exist. I'd never pay a whore for sex, that is disgusting.

  • Honestly it would be a turn off for me. I believe the whole experance would be different. Something about a woman that gets turned on and wants to pleasure you sexualy compared to someone doing it just for the money.

  • Sex is a pure thing. If there are no emotions then I would rather use a sex toy. I like to have sex with people who want me bad because then they participate actively too, talk dirty with us and it's too fun, like my girlfriend :)

  • I don't know. I suppose it would be better than nothing but obviously I would prefer it if their desire was genuine.

  • as an ace, this is a problem for all my future partners to deal with

  • nope. that example is part of why i have an issue with paying for it.

  • No I wouldn’t

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