Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health So I started talking to a guy since late October. Our first date was on New Year's Eve and we had a great time - even though nothing went to plan - but that's another story.
He lives 300 miles away, he drove to London for our date, he booked a hotel to stay the night, it was never planned that I would stay the night with him but *surprise surprise*
That is exactly what happened and we had sex, it was hot and passionate af, but it was only our first date.
And as I write this it sounds very bad and it goes against everything I would normally do, but the relationship we have is special, it doesn't feel like the others, and he's so caring and genuinely loving towards me, which is something I've not experienced before.
Anyway, what are your thoughts on sex on the first date? What do you think of a girl that sleeps with you on the first date?
Would you have sex on the first date?
Katerina_Belle Yoda
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What Girls & Guys Said
21 62This is your first physical date. You've developed a rapport already which speeds things along. The chemistry was right and you feel comfortable with each other, good deal. I hope you have many good years together.
How can you what is chemistry when you meet someone?
If the chemistry is there yes mah girl.
Having sex on the first date isn't intrinsically bad, but the relationship gets more intense after that.
It's better to know the other person well before getting into a role coaster of emotions, as it can lead to misunderstandings or just realising they aren't who you want to be with.
Oh hell yeah girl well done! I ain't spending time and effort on a girl to date her just to get a kiss on my cheek 😂
Loool that is not the right way to think about it!
Not right for you but right for me 😂😂😂
I love it when girls say they're not the type of girl that does x, and then goes out and does x. Any girl is that type of girl for the right guy. And some are that type of girl for almost any guy.
It’s very dangerous... just be careful. Although I must say you did know him pretty well even on the first date.
No I wouldn't and I don't respect any woman that does that on the first date
Never.
I have dated for long periods without falling in love.
And fell in love with a girl at first sight.
It’s not for us to say. If you feel in love you’re in love.
However, I would more likely describe this as emotional transferrsnce rather than love.
Best proof is that you asked it here.
I'm not sure if it's love just yet, a bit too early I suppose... but it did feel right with him
No you’re not in love unfortunately. If it’s love there’s no question.
A part of me is scared to fall in love and admit it because of the things I've been through I'm full of insecurities and he makes them disappear, I've never had that with someone, I don't know what love is but I am scared to experience it because it makes me vulnerable to get hurt...
I used to have insecurities too but I am solving them differently. You are not solving them and they will eventually come back to haunt you.
I don’t know how to solve my insecurities...
You can get Someone to show you. I didn’t know how to either.
@Katerina_Belle could you explain what dk u mean bu it did feel right? What did and how it felt right? Like how can you describe it? What made you feel like it etc
I would have sex on 0th date.
I try not o be judgmental, but am, af, even, as you kids like to say. I do not date. Hate people, so I stay away so I don't have to drive people away. If I were to date, however, and she wanted to have sex on the first date, I'm sorry to say that tells me she's too easy and does it with all the guys she likes. I'm not in the habit of calling easy women whores, but if she wanted to have sex on the first date, what else could a judgmental asshole like myself see her as?
I guess that comes down to trust, he knows me enough to get a good judgement of my character... but like I said it was completely unplanned and we had sex based on our feelings and not only because we got horny.
And that is a key difference between your guy and myself. As I said, I try not to be judgmental, but I have a lot of problems with people that I just cannot get over, making trust a difficult thing to come by. Can't blame people for following their feelings, but sex on the first date is way too fast in my book. You go ahead and do your thing, I can't stop you, but me? I wouldn't even be ready to have sex by the third date.
I have done it.
I'd go for it if we're really into each other.
Yeah actually I prefer to get the sex out of the way as soon as possible. See for me I find that after the sex the real person shows up. Before sex men and women pretend to be what they think the other wants them to be. After it gets real. Sometimes it's bad and yeah you made a mistake but you learned that faster than you would have. I had 3 long term relationships that started with sex on the first date, hell I don't think there was a date for the 1st two we met at parties lol. Them dated a girl for months no sex. After sex I got to really see she wasn't for me. So get it over with so you can get real.
Only if I feel a wrong connection, she wants to and things were going really good.
Strong* not wrong.
We definitely have a connection, we realised this the moment we started talking
@Katerina_Belle could you please elaborate more about the connection? what was your connection? Thanks
I have never had a negative thought about women having sex on the first date. Ik i usually think i hope this relationship lasts (then a few weeks later she dumps me... oh well)
If things are clicking and all feelings are mutual, don't worry about rules and standards, its your life, have fun and live with no regrets
I wouldn't do it the first time around that just doesn't sound right in my mind
I can't trust a woman that is too easy.
boo I wouldn't have sex on 1st date