No "other".
If I were a virgin girl just starting out, should want to condition her vagina at her pace and on her terms before any visitation, to reduce possible trauma and discomfort. And these hide in plain sight.
Despite the disinformation, length is not so much the issue as width. Always use very ample lube or lotion.
*She might start out with a sharpie pen.
It is only about 1/2" in diameter and very smooth with any kind of lube or lotion. This would pinch for girls who can't use a tampon, but one has to start somewhere and the discomfort would be manageable..
Then she might graduate to the inevitable round hair brush handle.
It is only moderately wider, tapered to 1" but would permit more vigorous play, which could dilate her vagina beyond its width.
A last stop would be an English cucumber. They come snugly pre-wrapped, which eliminates that bother.
They are very close to a typical boner in dimensions and this is where she could explore how to manage greater depth.
"English" cucumber, eh? I didn't know there was such a thing.
No I wouldn‘t. You should lose your virginity to a man, not to a vibrator.
Virginity, by definition, refers to having sex with a partner. A vibrator is not a person & therefore not a partner. Have you ever masturbated? Then by your logic, you're not a virgin because you received a handjob. Also you're gay for giving a handjob.
I basically agree with him on this one though. Masturbation is something that becomes avoidance for real sexual intimacy and I think you probably are already aware of that. You could also end up preferring your sex toys to the real thing which is a death sentence for a sex life. I honestly wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you really wanted to just feel pleasure short term. I basically did the same thing at your age with a male sex toy and I lost all incentive to find a real girl. It felt amazing but the end result isn’t the best.
I agree with all of you.
100% recommend. Understand your body, what feels good and what doesn't. If you genuinely want to have good emotionally satisfying sex you need to know what pleasure feels like instead of just "how much pain do I endure until I tell him to slow Down or stop." Thats not sex positive, thats how trust issues, resentment, and not feeling understood happen.
I'll give you a heads, most men can not comprehend how sex could hurt because their experience of sex is 100% different than yours. There are ljterally some angles that will hurt you, and cause him more pleasure due to how our bodies feel things differently. Learn how to touch yourself, and Learn that your sexuality is NOT tied to boys inability to pleasure you. I cannot tell you how many girls get stuck in this.
i mostly agree but it's not possible to fully know your body before having sex. it's a different experience than on your own
Save yourself for your husband. Stay pure.
Haha that 2nd picture cracked me up! Best thing I seen for a while lol
Well, I personally don't mind if a girl masturbates. But I respect you for your convictions.
"not for ringing the devil's doorbell" I already do that all the time tho :/
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!That's really your choice but I personally wouldn't do that.. But I did finger myself when I was a virgin but didn't want to go that far of using a dildo because I wanted a penis to be the first one to stretch me out. Not a toy. But that's just me. Your choice. Won't really do much. Just help you learn more about your body.
Yes, you can take your time that way without having to worry about making it awkward or being pressured.
I have never had sex with a virgin so I don't have a direct answer to the question but I do think that everyone should know how their body responds sexually before they begin having sex with other people.
If it mentally eases you, sure.
i didn't, but would suggest doing so if you want to be prepared. My first guy had a massive dick and it hurt like a bitch going in so if your man is thick then i reckon shove something up there first so you know what you're getting into.
How do you know whats big or small if its your first penis
@beancheese inches exist, dumbass.
Sorry if this is crude, but you have a hole, you've been on this earth for a good number of years, isn't there a temptation to put something up there in all that time? Including fingers etc? Okay, maybe just forget it...
Whatever feels right for you
Let it happen naturally, part of the experience
You need to get familiar with your body before you let someone else in there.
I always say masturbation is a good way of learning to understand yourself and using toys is a natural progression.
We are in an age where masturbation should not be seen as a taboo especially for women as it has been historically. Also all the myths about masturbation have been proven wrong now.
So feel free to play I'm off to shave my palms now
No because it’s different in my opinion. When you’re in the heat of the moment with a man it makes any pain experienced more bearable than trying to get a toy up yourself.
This will be a bad idea to use a sex toy before. I feel like the guy should be able to take all of it and break the hymen. 😇
@beancheese I believe in waiting until marriage to experience penetration with a partner. So only one penis size for me
It's a lame way to torn a hymen, it's a bad idea unless the girl have a vaginismus.
I don't have a vagina, but I would definitely recommend it.
You don't risk stress or tension making the experience painful, and you will ensure that when you do finally get to be sexually active, your physiology won't get in the way of the experience.
If I was I woman, I would stick things up myself the moment I would find out you can do that.
I always found people who overdramatize the process a little silly.
The amount of people saying you're losing your virginity by using a toy is too damn high... lol
Virginity has nothing to do with hymen.
Its the first penis-vegina penetration
For the answer, I'm myself a virgin but I never penetrated myself with anything.
Never been penetrated by a penis and seriously hope I never do. As for the question should you put a sex toy inside you I think that’s a personal decision and not one that any one person can tell you.
She should use her fingers first and then transition to a relatively average size penetrative toy.
I feel that is best route for younger female virgins to go who want to have sex.
That way they can get the pain and the bleeding over with (if any) without having to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable in the presence of someone else. Also, they will have a better chance at enjoying their first time because they will have some clue as to what they like or how they want to feel when the time comes.
I vote E and G
You should be familiar with yourself before allowing anyone else in there.
off my feed please
That’s up to her, but she should definitely get to a point that multiple fingers feel good, unless she has a fetish for painful first time sex.
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