Does her partner know about it and is he okay with it?
There is not one prescribed list of acts that are considered cheating. Cheating is whatever two people in a relationship decide is cheating. When you're in a relationship, you should have a conversation about what you consider cheating and what you don't consider cheating to make sure you're on the same page, rather than just assuming that the other person feels the same way that you do.
Additionally, I also follow these rules:
1. If you wouldn't tell your partner partner about it or do it in front of your partner, don't do it (unless he said he's okay with it, but doesn't want to hear about it)
2. If you think it might hurt your partner if he knew about it, don't do it.
3. If you wouldn't want your partner doing the same thing, don't do it.
Most people think that blowjobs ARE sex and would not want their partner giving blowjobs to someone else. That said, some people might be okay with it. The point is, don't do it unless you KNOW your partner is okay with it.
If she's giving other men blowjobs, but keeps it a secret from her boyfriend---that's unethical and I would consider it cheating. If she's talked to him about it and he says its okay, then by all means, have at 'er.
Generally I'd say yes.
Usually anything from kissing onward is considered cheating.
But for them it might not - I mean, different people have different rules and different considerations of what is cheating and what isn't. I mean, some couples are very open sexually and don't see any kind of sex outside a relationship as cheating as long as emotions aren't involved; no matter how long they've been in a relationship.
You're very pretty. I just felt like I should tell you.
Aww thanks :)
Even if it's not "cheating" by her definition... it's absolutely WRONG. For one thing, she could get an STD and pass it on to him because he's assuming that they're monogamous so he's not worried about it. That's very selfish and sneaky.
That is the way I think too. Maybe she doesn't think of it as cheating, but yea I feel its wrong too. Thanks!
Hands on orgasms with those outside a marriage is cheating.
That was easy.
Parsing marriage into "going steady" "on a break" and other terms is really up to those agreeing to these alternate relationships in order to apply "cheating" practices.
Your story says they are not married, so may define their own terms ... and more!
Parsing sex to exclude certain orgasm or methods employed to bring to orgasm may be the privilege of those paring marriage terms but not a privilege of those in a marriage, as more ceremonies contain that definition.
Parsing "hands on" may include cyberchat, cybervideos, etc. that might bring someone outside the "marriage" toward or include orgasm - what then?
'Cheating' does not entail the act of sex in any way, shape, or form. It is a psychological choice to engage in any intimacy either physical or emotional, with a person other than your current partner. Of course this is cheating.
Great answer...Thanks!
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Uhm, yes... In a relationship of 6 years, I'd think that anything making out or more would be considered cheating. Heck, in any labeled relationship, I'd think that the rule still applies.
I feel the same...she and I argue this all the time. Thanks!
I feel that it's cheating.
...I...no
No one can be this stupid. I refuse to believe someone would even have to ask this.
yes
If you're addicted to McDonald's...and need a McRibb all the time...and don't tell your spouse...YOU'RE CHEATING.
I would say its cheating if the other partner doesn't know its happening.
If she feels the need to give bjs maybe she should see if he OK with an open relationship or swinging.
Yes its cheating
Nough said
Deathecutioner
as long as she keeps her eyes closd and doesn't look at the guys face, its not cheating...
OF COURSE ITS CHEATING! this is such a silly question. lol.
Yes, it's cheating. If her guy went down on a girl on a regular basis wouldn't she consider him a cheater?
Easy answer to every "Is it cheating" question: what would their partner think?
P.S.: Blowjobs are sex; you can't really platonically suck a man off. It's why they haven't replaced handshakes.
Wasn't this question answered during the Clinton Administration?
actually yes it was thanks for reminding me! LOL!
Blow jobs are oral sex. There is that word - sex. So yes it is cheating.
Plus if she is not telling her partner, then she knows it is cheating and is hiding it.
Lol, of course it's cheating. I'm gonna go ahead and say that anyone giving someone, who's not their partner, an orgasm is cheating on their partner unless they previously agreed it was OK. I'm also gonna say anything that can result in getting an STD is also cheating.
And your friend is an idiot for thinking BJ's aren't sex. It has sex right in the name. "Oral sex."
I agree with this 100%
Thanks, I agree!
bj also called oral sex. so I can say she is heating.
woah..poor guy, I hope someone tells him. YES its major cheating
No I don't think BJs are cheating.. I gave a BJ to a guy whose girlfriend was like 5 or 6 mths pregnant.. now she DID consider it cheating ha ha but its not because its not real sex so it doesn't count :)
We got a classy lady right here, folks.
Hells yeahhh!! haha
Very classy.
Unless both people agree to an open relationship, yeah, it's cheating.
hell f ackin yess
tell her to ask her main man if he think it is
and I can garuntee he won't be in the picture
like come on
f*** yes it is I can't believe this is a serious question
I only asked because I feel its cheating but she doesn't think so, just wanted to see what the rest of the world thought....so I am Right! Thanks!
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