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Guys, how can I get my boyfriend to finger me?
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I'm not trying to force him but I've asked him twice if he could try to go down on me or finger me but he said no each time but we do have sex and I give him bj's,but I'm aiming for a third chance before just accepting it.how can I get him to at least finger me?And how can I get him to enjoy foreplay?because he doesn't like foreplay other than me giving him a bj so I'm never wet when we have sex and it's always painful and he tells me "just a few more seconds" to help me get through the discomfort haha,so what can I do?
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You can stop answering.I don't expect him to go down on me or finger me.I get it,it's nasty,girls pee from there and it's not the best place to be.It's whatever,i'll live
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24 34Apparently he is USING you, your mouth and your pu$$y for his own satisfaction. He seems to be a very selfish SOB. You should not be fcuking him if you are not wet and well lubricated. For one thing it's not a very pleasant experience and for another you may get hurt if he is dry fcuking you. He does not deserve you. Look around and you will do better. There are a lot of guys around willing and able to do what is necessary for you to have comfortable and enjoyable sex.
"You should not be fcuking him if you are not wet and well lubricated. For one thing it's not a very pleasant experience and for another you may get hurt if he is dry fcuking you. " THIS ^ - Seriously its not even safe let alone pleasant. He's an a*shole. " Just a few more seconds- to help YOU? lol no way. there is nothing altruistic about his behavior. Just curious this isn't an attack- Why would you let him get away with that.. Why would you have sex that way, if it hurts & he doesn't care?
Lol, its nasty? Bahahaha
how is that funny?
Umm no it's not. You men don't think it's nasty when you stick your d*** in our vagina, so what the difference if you put your finger in there?
@ rachelwooten you misunderstand my comment. I was laughing that she called it nasty. I think vaginas are beautiful :) Except the ones have been butchered by one too many d***s.
Tell him to read "She Comes First" by Ian kerner or "I <3 Female Orgasm" by Dorian Solo. In fact, every guy needs to read at least one of those books, preferably both. She'll be begging for it more than he will once he knows how to master the female orgasm.
STOP F***ING HIM UNTIL You GET URZ... DUH!
Well, to be perfectly honest, your Boyfriend is pretty unreasonable. Sex is about reciprocating. You give, so should he. if for some lame reason he doenst enjoy foreplay, you probably can't get him to enjoy it, but he should still do it and pretend to enjoy it. Have you asked if he has any kind of fetish? that could help.
If you want him to finger you, just try guiding his hand down there when you are laying in bed. be a little forceful if he doenst get the idea. it won't hurt anything if he still doenst, but if that fails, nothing will likely work. I really liked it when my Girlfriend would guide my hand down there. it signaled me that she was horny, and it got me worked up and I was willing to try most anything.
As for him going down on you, well some guys are into that, and some arnt. You can still try, but I don't really think that is something that should be force. bjs sound gross to me, but going down on a girl is putting my mouth on an internal part of her body that urine passes through. If he really doesn't want to do it, he probably can't be forced. I had a really bad experience with my first time going down on a girl. I'm still not sure if I have en extra sensative sense of taste and smell, but it was extremely unpleasant, and I can't physically force myself to do it due to gaging.
I hope some of this helps, but just to say again, it's pretty abnormal for him to enjoy foreplay. for him to be unwilling is just stupid. if all else fails in that regard, just say "listen betch, if you want me to put out, you better start too!"
You sound dumb.Guys pee through their penises.
Yea, but only a tiny and insignificant hole. but hey I tried to give you advice and you were rude to me.
Because guys pee through their penis and you act like it's so icky when girls do.
I can see where avatarr is coming from to an extent, and unkempt vagina can be revolting. Same with a penis but typically there isn't much other discharge. I do think he might be overreacting regarding the vag though, they're usually pleasant :P I have to agree with avatarr about your boyfriend, he seems like a selfish f***, and an awful lover.
Mine isn't unkempt.Mine is clean and shaven.And guys pee out of the penis,bad logic.suck penis if vagina is so revolting
By the way, mate ... when you "finger" a girl or even go down on her, you don't exactly finger the part she pess through. A lesson in Biology - a girl has two holes, one for urinating and one specifically for sex. Can't believe I'm even explaining. -_-
Dont give him any bj's until he starts munching and fingering you. Tell him that bj's gross you out but you do it anyway so he should return the favor. He's being very selfish.
But quick question how long have you been together. Do you get around and if you do, does he know that you get around prior to the relationship because some friends of mine will never go down on a girl if they know she is really "loose" since if grosses them out. to know they might be munching on some other guy's "residue "
No I don't get around moron
he is using you for what you got... tell him you ain't going to satisfy him and his bj needs unless he starts makeing you happy...ask him what his problem is
Tell him he's an asshole. He's not paying attention to your needs, just his. Tell him if he wants action, then he better do what you want! Guy sounds like a bird, dump him.
Agreed
AGREED +10 & Stop f***ing him & And for sure stop blowing him,
yeah agreed, leave him.
I now pity dis dude..;-(
kinda off topic. but the penis is much more "germie" than the vagina. its internal. we have hair to protect the inside from germs(unless you shave. than you are more vonurable to infections,etc.). penis is external, and Very prone to infections(yet people suck them..ahem anyway)
But going by what you posted...This is not someone who's going to be there forever. I seem like you letting him get aways with way too much. Women ALWAYS have the keys to a relationship in their hands. You are giving him the keys by leting him be the one..and only one who enjoys sex...What is that?! what are you doing? just laying there taking pain? You sound like a young girl who's having sex, and you haven't learned that it's meant to be for the both of you. more you than him. If you are the REAL woman in the relationship
I'm not sure where you read that a man's penis is more germie and prone to infection than the vagina. Miss a day of cleansing and you girls can start to smell. A guy can go much longer than that. Soldiers on the field us cloth to clean themselves, then put back on the same stinky underware, and they don't necessarily get infections. A man's genital is more exposed to air than a woman's so I think you got your facts all wrong.
How the hell does hair prevent germs from entering your vagina? yeah... Besides sticking penises in other vaginas, really how does the penis accumulate more germs than vaginas? This is so bogus. I've heard of yeast infections for vaginas, so what are common penis infections? Anyway as for the rest of your answer I am in agreement with it and think that QA should be a real woman.
how old are you?. lovep? its sad that you 26 and have yet to realize this lmao. you are obviously a male. who knows nothing about women. oh well. I can't teach you everything in a day. moving on
Yeah, that's not cool. You're giving him everything he wants, and he gives nothing in return? Not fair at all. At the very least he could finger you, which avoids the problem of hygiene (if that's his hesitation) My opinion? Dump him. drastic, yeah, but from what I'm hearing, he doesn't sound like a good guy. It sounds like he's using you for sex and on top of that, treating you for the most part like an inanimate object. Any decent guy would at least try it once.
Also, no foreplay=no romance. Just sex. Which is just dumb on so many levels.
Also? the thing you're sucking? pee comes out of that too. If he can't man up and be a good guy, dump him.
you don't pee from your vagina, you pee from a different, very small whole on top of it, I think... anyone else know?
Here is a pic. It's called the Urethra link
thanks, I knew they didn't pee out of their vaginas.
leave him, if he doesn't make you happy, even if you get married, you'll either end up cheating or unhappy in the long run.
but if you just don't want to leave him, tell him that if he doesn't finger you, you won't have sex with him at all. what can he do, rape you?
wow OMG if a girl wanted me to finger her and touch her amazing p ussy she would fullfill one of my biggest fantasies ; ) ... that guy that's not wanting to is weird
He really get want he wants(bj) and sex,y won't you get what you want,just make sure when gvn him bj,tell him that you want he's finger in u,b4 you v sex,make sure he fingers you or you delay him and see ho mad he s gonna get...hahaha
I do NOT understand how any guy who claims not to be gay doesn't love vagina's... I LOVE going down on girls, its one of the best things to do!
Honestly, the ONLY guys I have ever met who thought vaginas were disgusting were raging homosexuals... I'm just saying...
Take it from a guy. If you don't want to end the relationship, stop giving him head. He is a selfish F***STICK! I'm sure you smell and taste good, but, even if you don't he should do it for no other reason than to give you pleasure.
I take it you blow him until he cums? He should give you a few multiples once in a while. Tell him to message me if he needs a few pointers!
He probably sucks at foreplay
Sounds like a fag, dump him.
Your boyfriend is stupid. untill your partner not setisfy from you , how can you say its a good relationship. I love to give any pleasure whatever my girl expect from me. anything she want I will give her. if he can take bj from you den its his responsbility to give the same for you. convince him and if he again not agree to give tha same to you den you also stop yourself to give bj him ;)
this guy sounds like he is borderline raping you...
+10 Agreed,