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I hate my vagina?

Growing up I always hated my vagina. It's really puffy and I have long labia small clit not visible from the outside.. I used to get made fun of for having a fat vagina so since then I never wear bikinis. I'm a virgin.. never had sex.. really self conscious and don't think any guy would find me sexually attractive. Now that I have gotten older and gained weight I noticed my vagina look kind of different. It looks as if I have 3 labias instead of two. It looks as if it's growing on my right labia and it goes up by my clit as well. This is embarrassing to even write about. Cause of this I don't like being sexual with a guy in any way. I don't like watching porn cause during and afterwards I think "I'll never measure up or look as good as these girls unless I get cosmetic surgery" and that's something I'm not able to afford. Any girl have similar issues? Guys have you ever had experience or know a girl with this issue?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, don't compare yourself to porn stars. The only reason their vulvas look like that is because they've had their labia minora sliced off. Secondly, there's nothing wrong with yours in the first place. A lot of guys love the "plump" look. The new appearance is most likely due to your labia minora becoming more stretched out from time and possibly wear (rubbing against clothing can have something of an effect), which is perfectly natural since skin slowly loses elasticity with age. You could also still be growing, which is very likely considering your age range. Nothing to worry about.

  • The size of labia and clit has no influence on the pleasure you get by sex. Due to my job, I've seen many vaginas and they differ in color and form. There's no standard shape of it. No beautiful and ugly vagina. So just accept what you have and be happy with it. Cuz I think labia plasty is one of the most stupid plastic surgeries one can undergo. No one is going to see down there. Its just you and your partner and based on what guys already said, they don't care about how it looks. If a guy wants to leave you because of the form of your vagina, he better do it sooner. Haters gonna hate!

  • I have a 'puffy' vagina too and I'm self-conscious about it but honestly... it's just a vagina. vaginas aren't attractive at all, even the ones in porn - men don't care if its lop-sided, it's still a vagina. Get out there girl, be confident.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Hi, a couple issues here;
    First, you are waaay over thinking your vagina. I am sure to most men, it is just wonderful and they would be happy to be able to enjoy your charms.
    Second, you seem to have a real low self esteem. Gaining weight is a good sign. I would suggest making a plan to get your self esteem back (counseling helps), lose weight, get in shape, eat healthy, and in a year, you will probably feel great about yourself and what you see in the mirror.
    Then take a look at your vagina, and be proud of it, no matter if it is puffy or not, it is still a treasure.
    Good luck.

    • Thanks for the MHO. I hope you are re-thinking things and moving in the right direction.

  • I find it hard to imagine any guy is going to make fun of your vagina. All vaginas are different. Why is a big labia bad? Why is a small labia bad? They're just different.
    I've seen many vaginas, and never one I though was bad or weird. Doesn't even cross my mind.
    Big labia? Oh cool, I get to suck it gently. Yum yum. Small labia? Let's see, i'll french kiss it. It's all enjoyable to me.

    Reminds me of this lady who put up a wall of vagina plaster casts from dozens of women. Her point was that they're all different, no two are exactly alike.

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  • Women sit around and look for things to be self-conscious about. Most guys are not going to care.

  • Puffy is easier to plow into, “more cushion for the pushin” lol. I hate looking at ANY vagina but love how they feel. The same way women feel about our private. there's a reason they call sex, “bumping uglies”. ALL crotches are ugly, but feel AMAZING!

  • Fat ones are the best. a

  • If said this before but I'll say this again no man has ever been in the act looked at a pussy and said damn that's ugly

  • I hate my penis. I want to chop it off😂😂😂

    • 😂😂😂😂 you're goofy heheh3

    • That’s not a good idea

    • i want to do the same lol with me

  • Guys for the most part really don't care as long as you are clean.

    We care more about you not being overweight than we do the shape of your vagina.

    Also if you are really that worried about it, you can always have anal instead and inisit that he leaves your front door alone.

    That is up to you.

    Really though, most guys are never even going to notice.

    Just take good care of yourself. That is all you really need.

    Oh, and as for the people who teased you, they are just shitty human beings, don't put any stock in what they said to you, you are more than your lady bits.

  • Yeah it sounds like you just don't like the look of your vagina; genitals are super weird looking as a rule anyway!
    If it bothers you that much there are surgical options to resculpt your labia. A smaller clit could actually benefit you if you discover that you like to have long and involved sex though.

  • growing up you always hated it. because you always cared about it. and I suggest you to watch less or (if you can) no porn. and I suggest you not to care about it anymore. leave it alone, okay? and tell her to leave you alone. you can do exercises so maybe she will look nicer to you. my opinion the look of a vay jj is not important. the inside of it is important.

  • why do you want a bigger Clit?

  • Sounds good to me - people are always hardest on themselves.

  • Seen all types, u sound fine.. its a non issue

  • I have. You need to accept that you can not change, what you can't change. Stop worrying about it. I guarantee that you can find a guy that doesn't care what it looks like. Have fun, play with it, let others play with it, but HAVE FUN, lol

  • Yeah I love a fat😻 infact I'm getting a stiffy just thinking about you

  • It's ok , your vagina is beautiful as are all vaginas.
    No matter what shape , color or how they look they're all beautiful.
    Personality is more important than how the woman's vagina looks.

  • Find the best superglue/tape and just remove it :^)

  • If it was legal or if i was of legal age and we were dating or if i met you id be fine with it and id happily do that stuff with you trust me there will be guys that will like you

  • Well all vaginas nice yours is nice too so appreciate it. I am glad I have girl I love and she's awesome.

  • You should be proud no matter what gender you are

  • I got a girlfriend with meaty labia and small clit, and another one with puffy vagina and small clit as well. Having sex was awesome, and the clit whatever the dimension had its role. Don't bother about the look of your vagina, try more to find a boy you like and enjoy sex together. Sex is more about sensations than appearance. If you want more support, contact me in pvt

  • Girl I had the same problem. But vaginas are ugly on a whole. None of them are beautiful and no man will ever say oh no I can't have sex with her because her lips are too big, mine are big too and look weird but my boyfriend loves a fat 😺 so don't worry about it.

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