My nephew said he crushed on me and wants to have sex, advice?

I haven't talked to my nephew in law in years. He found me on facebook and now he tells me that he crushed on me for years and he says that I don't want to know the thoughts he has for me. I Skyped with him to see how serious this crush was. He wanted to see my body and proceeded to show me his. He is married and so am I. He checks to see if I have messaged him almost everyday, but I try to keep it rated G. But I have to admit, if I keep up this contact it could turn into something stronger. I don't want to lose my marriage over this, but I don't know if he's just playing games or not. What does it sound like to you?
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Thanks everyone, I have made my decision. I will treat him as though he was one of those jerks that just wants to come in and screw up your life for 10 minutes of useless sex.
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New information, he figured out that he would rather have me as an aunt and not a sex toy! YAY! I had to do something a bit drastic to sort of push him into this decision, but it worked and I have gained a nephew and lost all of the stress! GOD THIS FEELS GOOD!
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  • Sounds like you're tempted to bang your nephew in law.

    Which is your business, not mine.

    If I misconstrued your question, I apologize. If you don't want to bang your nephew in law...then...tell him that.

    If you don't want to f*** up your marriage and consequently his and move to Arkansas...then...be straight up and go,

    "This is inappropriate, we're family, I'm married--your married. I have no interest in having sexual relations with you."

    I think that's pretty straight up.

    Or you could mess up your marriage and bone your nephew in law and move to Arkansas or another southern state that would look kindly upon ya'll.

    • You're funny! I don't want to get into the details with my marriage, and I told my nephew that I wanted to be his aunt not his sex partner. He told me I was strong, but continues up his hopes. I don't message him with anything inappropriate at all. I just want to be his aunt and I don't want to lose him as a nephew. His mother is married to my brother, but they have been separated for 12 years. They have never gotten a divorce but she is seeking one from my brother.

    • I really don't think I'm that funny...if anything, I tend to offend people... In that case, I would say exactly what you just typed here. And if he can't get over that then...that's on him, not on you. I mean, I met my 3rd cousin recently, removed and such or whatever--and yeah he's an attractive guy but--we're...related...however minuscule the relation might be. And being related to someone tends to put a damper on getting it on... Unless you're a hillbilly I guess...

    • See, you are funny! You know you're a redneck if...One of your family members you haven't seen in years contacts you only to tell you he wanted to have sex with you since he was a KID...LOL...

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  • i guess it comes down to what matter more. giving into a guy that desires you or the marriage that I take is not pipping hot at the moment. I don't judge so I'm not going to think bad if you go ahead with it but just weigh the option before you go further

    • So, yea, what matters the most is what will win out. I know what's important. I haven't talked to him in years and now he only wants to talk about sex. That sucks. You would think it would be different when it's in the circle of family, but it isn't. I haven't had this type of situation before. It's a little strange.

    • i think you like the feeling of being wanted.. am I right? and if that is what it is I understand but you could just keep him at a distant but email as I'm sure he flatters you.. nothing wrong with wanting to hear you are sexy from a guy

    • thanks for the help!

Most Helpful Guys

  • It sounds like you don't think much of your marriage if you feel keeping contact could turn into something yet you continue. Also sounds like you don't care about all the disrespect you will probably cause for you with his parents (part of your family). Sounds like YOU are playing games... dangerous games.

    • Perhaps it looks that way. I was so happy when he contacted me, I thought, oh wow, I get to reconnect with a family member! I have been looking for family online and found some of my nieces and we have started up relations again. I don't want to lose him as my nephew, but what do you think he could possibly be thinking? My brother and his mother are no longer together, they have been separated for 12 years now. She seeks a divorce. He won't be my legal nehpew then. Is he having an angle?

    • Thanks for helping

  • It sounds like he's really intrestred in you, I recommend talking to him and laying out what the boundaries between you and him are. Make sure to tell him that what he did is normal but needs to be stoped.

    • I am a little scared because I think I could get a little taken by him...he's in the Navy and a real man's kind of man...

    • well as a mans man he shouldn't touch a woman, if you don't want your marriage to be jeprodized than just skype or cll him and settle it, since your married your husband should understand as long as nothing happens between you and this navy guy

    • Yes, I told him on Skype that I didn't want to do this and he said he understood, and that family was very important to him. I message him once a week to stay in touch. I was so excited at first to be reconnected with family. I don't want to lose him as my nephew. I won't get into details about my marriage.

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  • You're a big girl, I'm sure you know how to let him down easy, "I'm flattered, etc., etc., my marriage, etc., etc., you'll make someone very happy one day, etc., etc." You know how it works.

  • You have mental problems. :)

    • Your comment is unnecessary. This issue has been solved and no one has gotten hurt or ostracized. I am on here for advice, not judgement calls. Thank you.

    • Be honest with yourself do you really want to stop fucking him I think you afraid to admit you want to fuck him but you finding out you want to fuck him more than your husband. During the day and night your pussy gets wet thinking about how good it feel him fucking you. You love the boy cock

  • Stop talking to him. Problem solved.

    • Harsh, but probably what he needs.

    • You have to forgive me. I'm a problem solver. I'm not a philanthropic one. If you had to kill him to do it I'm the one who would tell you to and hand you the gun. I'm a bad person.

  • ew.

  • dude this guy is gooooooood

    high 5 XD

    • why do you say this?

  • so just fuck him

  • If you had kept up with him do you think it could have led to sex? Did you ever have a fantasy of what it would be like?

  • Is he ur brother’s stepson or bio?
    Stepson is good but if ur bro is bio then he’s still ur nephew. Now with that being said u r in control of you and u alone as long as ur grown being 18 or older it is ur life live it as u want to

  • He wants u so bad but it's up to u sweetie and what u want if ur marriage is not good ok I'd go for him

  • Dude let him bang you, don't tell anyone your gonna love it it's ok just don't have any kids cus that be weird. But all in all who we kidding you both wanted it's hot just do it.

  • You're secretly wondering and you always will, what it would have been like to spend some time enjoying what he showed you in those photos. Remember, you WERE considering doing it when you came here... but you chickened out. (according to you... You could actually be boffing his brains out. As long as your careful, who'll ever know?) I'm married to the wrong sister but, for the last 12 years, have been boffing the right one.