Why do guys like anal sex so much?

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I was talking to this guy who always wanted me to try it with him and I never wanted to because I heard it is very painful! lol

TeresaTiger · Accepted Answer

It is only painful if done wrong. If anal sex is to be enjoyed to it's full potential then it is important that both the man and the woman know a great deal about male and female physiology. It is also important that both are patient and caring. As for why guys like it so much, I'd say that it totally depends on the guy. An experienced and educated male lover will understand far more about everything to love with anal sex and he will be far more able to do it right and make it a true pleasure for the woman. An inexperienced and amateur male partner will most assuredly do everything wrong--go too fast, not use lubrication etc. which will always make it an unpleasant experience for the woman. When these inexperienced amateurs try to perform it, there will be not much real pleasure, which leaves only the psychological stimulation mostly derived from the sense of taboo.

Why is anal sex generally considered taboo? This is not strictly a social "norm" as many people think since many cultures in Europe are far more relaxed about anal sex compared to America. As Dr. Freud discovered, all clinically normal children pass through 5 psychosexual stages between the ages of 0 to 10-13 (puberty). The second stage is the anal stage from age 1 to 2. Most people have heard the term, "That person is so anal." This is short for anal retentive. In psychology, this refers to a condition where the person did not successfully develop and pass through their anal stage of childhood and as a result adopted certain psychological traits that last the rest of their life. These traits are commonly exhibited as an obsession for neatness, order and simplified routines (think Monk from the tv show). These traits can range in severity and it is commonly considered that most people these days are actually anal retentive. Most children these days are poorly raised, especially in the west and more so in America. Lazy parenting and lack of proper "potty training" tend toward a child developing unhealthy connections and feelings about their anus, both as an erogenous zone and as a simple body part that serves to help evacuate waste. This is where the notion of anal sex becomes socially taboo. People grow up to feel ashamed about any pleasure centered around the anus because when they were age 1-2 they were made to feel ashamed for even simply "pooping in their diapers."

It is a medical fact that the anus, rectum and general area around the anus are highly sensitive erogenous zones. A few inches inside the rectum, a male has the Prostate gland and the female has the Skene's gland which both are highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. The anus and just inside the rectum has erogenous nerves in number second only to the Frenulum (male) or Clitoris (female). It has been scientifically proven that both males and females experience far stronger orgasms when additionally stimulated anally/rectally. And yes, of course the rectum is "tighter" than the vagina so this is also a factor.

Trafalgar · Accepted Answer

It is tighter - and I definitely think there is some appeal to getting a girl to do something like that (it's very dominant/primal and the general consensus is that most chicks hate it).

My first experience was very uncomfortable (he took the "surprise! I'm in your butt!" approach). But in my current relationship we've done anal several times and I've actually orgasmed from it.

If you are comfortable with the idea of trying - just remember to go slowly and if at any point you are in pain - STOP! Buying lube is also a good idea.

Also, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to - sexually or otherwise. If this guy cares about you, he will be willing to wait until you are comfortable, or drop it all together if you decide you don't want to go there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

ive tried it just to try it, and it sucks! plus my boyfriend has a p*rnstars cock. I had no idea something that big would even fit into my butt.  you don't even have feeling in your ass the only feeling you get is at the anus entrance and it feels so painful and weird like you need to take a fattt dump. so its not even that pleasurable for women until they get used to it and it feels good at the entrace but yah no feeling inside your but at all. Its mainly for mens pleasure. lol  stick to fingers its much better. of course even that at first doesn't feel that good either. My boyfriend takes an hr to finish so anal isn't something benifical to me at all, no point in destroying your asshole if its not going to quicken his orgasm.

Deathecutioner · Accepted Answer

!Anal is not painful when done correctly!

Guys like it because...

1) It Feels hella good.

2) It's tight

3) it's Taboo

4) It's Dominating

5) It's Different

Anal sex feel great for both men and women. Everyone Think anal's bad because it was givin' a bad rep because some guys, are assholes(no pun intended), and aren't doing it right/are only doing it for there satisfaction. For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. With lots of trust,lube and patience anal sex can be a wonderful experience. Anal intercourse increases the pleasure of orgasms, because there a millions of nerve ending in the anus, and only about 8000 in the clitoris.

And is not just for women. heterosexual couples also do this in a reverse fashion. This is becoming more increasingly popular.(It's called pegging) One of the reasons its becoming popular is because its the only way to get to the male g-spot, which give as much pleasure to males as the female g-spot does fro girls.

CountDove · Accepted Answer

Not all men are into the idea. Frankly, as a biologist...I know of all the dark and evil things that lurk up there. I would never, ever, consider such a thing. Although as others said, the reason a guy likes or wants anything in sex is because of one thing: it feels good. If it feels good, they want it, unless they are rational enough to think and discharge the idea as foolish.

If you aren't comfortable with something, you are not ever obligated to do it: especially in sex.

-Count D.

ericblair · Answer

No, it's not painful if you are really well lubricated and the guy takes it real slow.  We like it so much because the anus is so tight that it fits our cocks like a trap and feels incredibly intense.  That part of your body doesn't expand like your vagina, so it stay super tight all the time.  Like I say, it won't hurt if the guy does it slow and follows your lead - you've got to exercise some control and tell him when to put it in deeper, when he can thrust faster, etc.  Try it, you won't be sorry!

lace_and_leather · Answer

Guys like different things for different reasons. That's all I have to say about that.

As far as it being painful goes... laxatives the day before and lube, lots of it, during the process helps. Honestly, the first few times are a bit uncomfortable and shocking but it becomes easier and more fun. I like anal, but to each her own.

flchickypoo · Answer

Well I have always had this theory that  a man wants to do anal because he gets tired of banging the same old va jay jay all the time...or maybe that girls va jay jay is not tight anymore...My theory is ill resort to anal when my pooosey isn't tight anymore...I made that deal with my ex that when my thing isn't tight lemme know and I'll gladly let ya do me anally

fiesty2009 · Answer

As you can see below ,there are so many different reasons and answers - depending upon the person.  But some people like it , some don't.  Remember it is your butt - if you want to try it so be it , if not he will just have to deal.  But I like the suggestion of trying it on him first ... that is a great idea.

mshaker · Answer

It will hurt you the first couple of times, after that, ull love it.

gravygirl · Answer

They like feeling like they have a big penis.  Fucking a girl's ass does that for them.  It feels tight to them and it often hurts the woman.  It's f***ed up, but I think that hearing us cry out in pain upon insertion actually makes men feel good about themselves.  Even if they feel bad for hurting us, I think they like the idea that their penis is big enough to cause us pain.

Marshall33 · Answer

Not to be too graphic but its because its forbidden in a way which is stimulating mentally, is an area that communicates to a man that a woman is willing to go out of her way to please him which is emotionally satisfying and physically its tight and feels great...for the guy unfortunately more than the woman most of the time.

Subotai · Answer

To try something new.  To explore and claim your body.  Because it's dirty.  It's sort of a self esteem/ego boost for a girl to allow a guy to try something that seems sort of kinky or advanced sexually.  A lot of guys really like their girls butt I know I do.  I have never done it but I am curious.  I mean when I want a woman bad enough I want her in every way.  I want to f you c k your ass damn that sounds hot.  But actually doing it is probably not that great and I hear it can be difficult and painful and takes a lot of patience, it is certainly not vital.  If I get married I would like my wife to be open to trying it like you know letting me have her ass would be a nice non monetary birthday gift at least once but really more for the novelty unless she really liked it if she found it painful that would really make me not want to do it again

Undetermined · Answer

i don't like it.and I wouldn't do it.

gtskier · Answer

The anus is much tighter than the vagina and feels great for the man, if done right can feel good for the woman as well. The visual stimulation is also amazing for the man.  It can be painful if not done right. Shouldn't rush into it.  You need to be very relaxed about it.  Most people say to start by having him stimulate lightly with a fingertip while doing oral sex on you.  That might be all you do the first time. Later on, work up to insertion of a finger very slowly massage and with good lubrication.  It may take a few sessions of anal play for you to loosen up enough to allow several fingers in, then he can slowly insert his penis (lots of lubrication). Have him stop and wait if you tense up or feel any pain.  If you relax the pain will subside and you will get used to it being inside you.  Once he is inside a few inches and you are used to the size, make sure everything is still well lubricated and he can start slowly moving in and out. Slow in and a little faster out. If you are afraid and want more control, you can lay on your side with legs bent and have him behind you in a spoons position.  Other positions with you in control are the cowgirl  (you straddle him like riding a horse) either facing or reverse, whichever angle seems appropriate.  Once you have done it a few times you might try the "doggy style" position or lying on your stomach.  Some women like the missionary position but with legs brought way up by your shoulders.  It's worth a try but the man has to be patient and not just "shove it in".

CuriousEd · Answer

Are we talking about giving or receiving? A girl with a strap-on can be very sexy...

ArizonaRX · Answer

Deathecutioner really said it best. Very valid points and right on the money. Give me a woman that has never tried it and is nervous and I'll turn her into an avid anal fan.

abra_b · Answer

Depends on the guy:

For some, its just something new and taboo and exciting.

Some just like the tighter feeling.

Some like it because they see it as degrading the woman and they get off on that.

It can be VERY painful if the guy isn't a considerate lover. He needs to go slow and not just ram away as if he were having vaginal sex. Too many young men lose sight of sex being a shared experience rather than a one-way route to their own physial and mental pleasure. If you feel like this guy is one of those types, don't try it with him.

If you are in a respecful physical relationship with him (there can even be respect between two partners who aren't dating), then he will try to make the experience appealing and exciting for you as well. Going slow, using lube, stopping if he starts to hurt you ... all of these can make it less painful. If you don't trust him, though, this isn't an activity you want to try out.

msbossy · Answer

cause there really gay jk idk

Yossarion · Answer

As an celebrated and money making astrophysicist, I have to include what I do for a living in every post to tell people how cool I am.

Despite my knowledge of the as, and its physicist qualities, anal sex does not turn me on.

It does turn on many of my friends though. My best friend gets his wife drunk and does it up her bum when she is passed out.

Don't forget, I am an astrophysicist. ;-)

JackOslan · Answer

Because we're all sleazy perverts. Is that what you wanted to hear? Lots of guys and girls like lots of different things...many way stranger than anal sex. My last Girlfriend loved anal sex and I loved having it with her. Felt fantastic...what other qualification should you give a sexual act to justify it other than it feels good?

bankysega · Answer

It doesn't hurt if you know what you are doing. As the clitoris only has 8000 nerve endings and the anus has over a million you can have much deeper orgasms from anal than from vaginal sex, but you kind of have to be willing to explore that.

ryanontario · Answer

not all guys like it , myself I like checking out girls butts to be honest but never had anal sex with any of those girls or do I really have fanasies about such sex acts . but if a girl with a nice butt offered I wouldn't turn this down at this time either .

aggregate · Answer

The anus has a high number of nerves around it, so it can make you experience a new level of pleasure you haven't felt before. As for why guy's like it, its extremely tight which means more stimulation on our equipment. Most guys also see it as a guaranteed way to make sure the girl doesn't get pregnant. Personally I see it as a way to get extremely intimate with your partner.

katiesmuff · Answer

It gives them that feeling of domination to the guy.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

Apparently it feels good because its tight. Ummm but I hope guys do realize that sexy little gay guys have anal sex and if they like anal so much they might be/will become gay.

p.s gay guys are awesome I love them so nothing against gay ppl!

lefthand · Answer

The anus is second only to the clitoris in nerve concentration. It can feel remarkably good if done right. Remember to always use lube.

Sour_Diesel · Answer

guys that like anal sex are homos that are afraid to come out of the closet. period.

Kasady · Answer

My boyfriend says that its because he knows I won't get pregnant, so he won't have to wear a condom, and it feels about the same as regular.lol

Snorkledorf · Answer

It's never been a priority for me. If I found someone who liked it I'd happily give it a try, but at the same time if I died without ever having done it, it wouldn't be on my list of regrets.

There's a book by Tristan Taormino called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" (Amazon link that I've heard good things about. As I said though, I haven't tried it. Or read the book. And I'm not a woman... :)

SkinnerOne · Answer

One thing that nobody ever realized is that a man can have a number of different types of orgasms. If you wrap your thumb and forefinger around the shaft of the penis and stroke up and down varying the tightness of your grip and NEVER progressing to the glans, concentrating only on the shaft and massaging the muscles eventually you will cause an orgasm that feels FAR different than one where you only stimulate the glans. Likewise, If you concentrate on massaging just the underside of the penis right where the glans and the shaft meet yet another intensity of orgasm can be attained.

In my first example the feeling of the sphincter muscle is most closely replicated and the intensity of this muscle orgasm is very strong. However in my personal case it takes a very long time to achieve.

Then there is the whole taboo thing to consider too. The more off limits something is the more a person desires it.

wraite · Answer

I for one don,t think much of the idea I,ve heard some guys say there,s something different about a girl who does anal with some guys it,s an ego boost,some like the idea of degrating a woman(SICK!) and others well because it feels good,but hey my love I,m cool without it.

MrTinker · Answer

Eh, I don't even like the concept of anal. Sorry but mister willy as a entrance only policy :\

MadHatterni · Answer

tightness

iformshadears · Answer

its only painful if the guy has no idea what he is doing, or if he has a 45 inch penis.

I love anal sex because it is tight, and just because it is naughty,., its something different.

Also.. I have a bit of a fetish for p**** juice, and the best way to make a girl soaking wet without touching her p**** is to bang he in the dirt trap. then when your nuts are empty you can flip her over and lick up her undisturbed wetness.

For beginners, I suggest licking her ass for a while so she relaxes and loosens a little, then lube her up and lube yourself up too. Let her go ontop so she can gently slide herself down at her own pace, when she realises it doesn't hurt and that it actually feels very goog, you can put her on her knees and go to town... not too rough though, and when you pull out, do it slowly, the pulling out sensation is the most uncomfertable part.

To the girls:: If I can have my girlfriend put large cucumbers and vibrators in my ass, and like it very very much then I'm sure you can manage a little 6 inch d*** inside you right?

JoaHelp · Answer

LOL I don't know why guys like it so much.. I have had anal befor and  can say yes it hurts... I don't understand why guys would want it though.. lol the other hole is much more pleasurable for a gal and plus the guys penis will just smell like crap! haha I wouldn't advise having anal but some people like to explore... hope that helps -JoaHelp

Littletad · Answer

Not all guys like anal sex. I would never try it.

crrazaylove · Answer

One word... TIGHTER.

Trinity04 · Answer

Most guys are just looking for another tight hole. Some find anal very arousing. Personally, I just find it disgusting.

The_Box · Answer

I don't get it either. There's another hole with a lot less sh*t in it.

normalice · Answer

to fuck is to mate. To identify the difference in our genders and mash them together, because it feels good. We are animals, and that's what we do. It goes back in our over-evolved psyche to the time of the first mammal.

But anal goes back even further than that. To the time when we were asexual amoebas with a single, all-purpose orifice. By far, our worst attribute. It is decay, corruption, despair, and death, hidden - tucked away between two plump cheeks, beneath layers of expensive clothing, and expected to remain quiet. It is the anchor of a girl's shining imaginary soul to her temporary mortal body. Of course I want to stick my dick in it. To plow the way between her soul and her body, with my dick. And then cum in it. I want to fuck her until she can't tell the difference between shame and elation, because if she can't tell the difference, then it doesn't make a difference. She can writhe in despair over the subhuman treatment and let the orgasm take her by surprise, or enjoy every moment and feel the humiliation later, if she wants. Because my anchor to mortality is my cock. Twisting our anchors together binds us in ways no other method could. I guess that's why I like it, personally. But I can't speak for everyone..

JH5022 · Answer

cause it's amazing

GIntrovert · Answer

I've never understood why a guy would want to put their d*** up there...

Thatguy16 · Answer

The reason why guys like anal sex is because guys have hundreds of thousands of tiny sensitive nerve endings on and around the head of the penis and since the butt is tight the nerve endings get stimulated really well and giving us emense feelings of pleasure.

Hope this helps:P

jnesss68 · Answer

its because the of the social stereotype that all women hate anal. that's why men want to put it in  womens butts, and a mild "im dominating a woman" factor but I can't speak for all dudes, this is what I'm guessing. however I know two guys who will never do a girl in the butt

DanielSan · Answer

Its really really hot.

Very much tighter.

feels so bad and wrong and awesome.

its not painfull once you gt used to it just like reg sex hurts at first when your new to it and can still hurt if the guy f***s you wrong.

dont do it unless you want to or its no fun.

Titi18 · Answer

Not all guys, My boyfriend would never do that.

am1029 · Answer

i would definitely love to f*** there which is more tight,where penetration will not be easy,which can get you girls moan a little bit more,more louder,

thats what we love

its not that we love to give you pain,but we love to hear that sound

Jolyo91 · Answer

because of the tightness. never tried it and never had sex but I know that for a fact.

Telemusik · Answer

tighter

jojodoggs · Answer

tight

elfather4 · Answer

I HEARD GIRLS WHO HAVE ANAL SEX..ARE JUST STRAIGHT UP WHORES LOL...but idc is their lives, and I tried it before, and my girl hated it..hurted she said...im not with her anymore. and its sad that I heard she became a whore lol...so don't try it. its gona hurt you.. or idk.

j0rdanj · Answer

Lots of guys (including myself) Don't like it.  I haven't tried it and I don't plan on it.

mike5150 · Answer

Uhh I think I will pass on anything involving anal.

Birgitta · Answer

I have never tried it before but I want to, I'm just scared if it's going to hurt me (: heh..

faraday · Answer

Well I may be a virgin, but I have the theory that the anal sex is tighter, and has more feeling to it than sex with the vagina. It also reduces risk of pregnancy.

watuneed · Answer

As a guy I'm not fussed at all about anal... but I think the thing is that it is taboo, its something that most girls don't do and so it becomes a challenge for a guy, something that is not normally done... its similar to the reason why man climbed Mt everest...because its there and considered unclimbable... and now people do it because it is a very rare thing to do...

JASONWIZER · Answer

i like fuKing a chiks asshole becuz its nice and tight. and when I put in my monster, it barely can go in, hav to push it in with force and using KY lube. its exotic!

btw Push up ur bo*bs it helps attract atention. guys like big boobs. squeez!

cutebrownbabe · Answer

Ya, I've asked a lot but I never have for the same reason. But I think that guys like it cause it's super tight.

jacquesvol · Answer

I never did feel any urge to try it.

cacapisu · Answer

because it is against the odds :))

matthew88 · Answer

I only did this once. A woman asked me to do it and gave instructions on how she liked it to be done for her to orgasm.

ft_louie · Answer

some don't like it...

bethesda · Answer

ive never tried it so I would know but doesn't sh*t stick to your d***? like fo real dawg isn't that a turn off?

jon123 · Answer

because it is  very pleasurable to guys its a tight hole to f***

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