Why do guys like anal sex so much?

I was talking to this guy who always wanted me to try it with him and I never wanted to because I heard it is very painful! lol
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  • It is only painful if done wrong. If anal sex is to be enjoyed to it's full potential then it is important that both the man and the woman know a great deal about male and female physiology. It is also important that both are patient and caring. As for why guys like it so much, I'd say that it totally depends on the guy. An experienced and educated male lover will understand far more about everything to love with anal sex and he will be far more able to do it right and make it a true pleasure for the woman. An inexperienced and amateur male partner will most assuredly do everything wrong--go too fast, not use lubrication etc. which will always make it an unpleasant experience for the woman. When these inexperienced amateurs try to perform it, there will be not much real pleasure, which leaves only the psychological stimulation mostly derived from the sense of taboo.

    Why is anal sex generally considered taboo? This is not strictly a social "norm" as many people think since many cultures in Europe are far more relaxed about anal sex compared to America. As Dr. Freud discovered, all clinically normal children pass through 5 psychosexual stages between the ages of 0 to 10-13 (puberty). The second stage is the anal stage from age 1 to 2. Most people have heard the term, "That person is so anal." This is short for anal retentive. In psychology, this refers to a condition where the person did not successfully develop and pass through their anal stage of childhood and as a result adopted certain psychological traits that last the rest of their life. These traits are commonly exhibited as an obsession for neatness, order and simplified routines (think Monk from the tv show). These traits can range in severity and it is commonly considered that most people these days are actually anal retentive. Most children these days are poorly raised, especially in the west and more so in America. Lazy parenting and lack of proper "potty training" tend toward a child developing unhealthy connections and feelings about their anus, both as an erogenous zone and as a simple body part that serves to help evacuate waste. This is where the notion of anal sex becomes socially taboo. People grow up to feel ashamed about any pleasure centered around the anus because when they were age 1-2 they were made to feel ashamed for even simply "pooping in their diapers."

    It is a medical fact that the anus, rectum and general area around the anus are highly sensitive erogenous zones. A few inches inside the rectum, a male has the Prostate gland and the female has the Skene's gland which both are highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. The anus and just inside the rectum has erogenous nerves in number second only to the Frenulum (male) or Clitoris (female). It has been scientifically proven that both males and females experience far stronger orgasms when additionally stimulated anally/rectally. And yes, of course the rectum is "tighter" than the vagina so this is also a factor.

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  • It is tighter - and I definitely think there is some appeal to getting a girl to do something like that (it's very dominant/primal and the general consensus is that most chicks hate it).

    My first experience was very uncomfortable (he took the "surprise! I'm in your butt!" approach). But in my current relationship we've done anal several times and I've actually orgasmed from it.

    If you are comfortable with the idea of trying - just remember to go slowly and if at any point you are in pain - STOP! Buying lube is also a good idea.

    Also, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to - sexually or otherwise. If this guy cares about you, he will be willing to wait until you are comfortable, or drop it all together if you decide you don't want to go there.

  • ive tried it just to try it, and it sucks! plus my boyfriend has a p*rnstars cock. I had no idea something that big would even fit into my butt. you don't even have feeling in your ass the only feeling you get is at the anus entrance and it feels so painful and weird like you need to take a fattt dump. so its not even that pleasurable for women until they get used to it and it feels good at the entrace but yah no feeling inside your but at all. Its mainly for mens pleasure. lol stick to fingers its much better. of course even that at first doesn't feel that good either. My boyfriend takes an hr to finish so anal isn't something benifical to me at all, no point in destroying your asshole if its not going to quicken his orgasm.

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  • !Anal is not painful when done correctly!

    Guys like it because...

    1) It Feels hella good.

    2) It's tight

    3) it's Taboo

    4) It's Dominating

    5) It's Different

    Anal sex feel great for both men and women. Everyone Think anal's bad because it was givin' a bad rep because some guys, are assholes(no pun intended), and aren't doing it right/are only doing it for there satisfaction. For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. With lots of trust,lube and patience anal sex can be a wonderful experience. Anal intercourse increases the pleasure of orgasms, because there a millions of nerve ending in the anus, and only about 8000 in the clitoris.

    And is not just for women. heterosexual couples also do this in a reverse fashion. This is becoming more increasingly popular.(It's called pegging) One of the reasons its becoming popular is because its the only way to get to the male g-spot, which give as much pleasure to males as the female g-spot does fro girls.

  • Not all men are into the idea. Frankly, as a biologist...I know of all the dark and evil things that lurk up there. I would never, ever, consider such a thing. Although as others said, the reason a guy likes or wants anything in sex is because of one thing: it feels good. If it feels good, they want it, unless they are rational enough to think and discharge the idea as foolish.

    If you aren't comfortable with something, you are not ever obligated to do it: especially in sex.

    -Count D.

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  • No, it's not painful if you are really well lubricated and the guy takes it real slow. We like it so much because the anus is so tight that it fits our cocks like a trap and feels incredibly intense. That part of your body doesn't expand like your vagina, so it stay super tight all the time. Like I say, it won't hurt if the guy does it slow and follows your lead - you've got to exercise some control and tell him when to put it in deeper, when he can thrust faster, etc. Try it, you won't be sorry!

    • Lloooolllll man you explained that like you were doin it when you wrote the comment :D

    • It can be expanded, and even torn, if not done properly.

  • Guys like different things for different reasons. That's all I have to say about that.

    As far as it being painful goes... laxatives the day before and lube, lots of it, during the process helps. Honestly, the first few times are a bit uncomfortable and shocking but it becomes easier and more fun. I like anal, but to each her own.

    • Shocking in what way? Have You ever considred an enema? Too many laxatives can't be a good thing, but I love the commitment!

    • Shocking in like that 'woah' *deer in headlights* look. It takes a bit to get used to the feeling of something being shoved in and out of your ass, lol. Oh, and yeah, I've used enemas before- I forgot to mention that. (Also, it's best never to use a saline enema- warm water is better...in case anyone is reading this.)

  • Well I have always had this theory that a man wants to do anal because he gets tired of banging the same old va jay jay all the time...or maybe that girls va jay jay is not tight anymore...My theory is ill resort to anal when my pooosey isn't tight anymore...I made that deal with my ex that when my thing isn't tight lemme know and I'll gladly let ya do me anally

    • Thank you for answer 1 there I was wondering why no one said it.

    • I think your boyfriend is a lucky guy...especially If that's your ass in the pic.

  • As you can see below ,there are so many different reasons and answers - depending upon the person. But some people like it , some don't. Remember it is your butt - if you want to try it so be it , if not he will just have to deal. But I like the suggestion of trying it on him first ... that is a great idea.

  • It will hurt you the first couple of times, after that, ull love it.