19 and Im Still A Virgin?

[Anonymous]

yes ladies and gentlemen i haven't laid a girl out in my 19 years of existence. its sad and even sadder if you were me. My friends like to laugh at me because i dont get any. its annoying because i want to but i dont know how to? yea you heard right. I know its not as simple as saying "hey do you mind if i stick my **** in your ****? you see im not sure how to talk to a completly random beautiful girl? some say use pick up lines but then what after theyre not exactly magic words. My friends have threesomes and fuck girls i crush on pritty often which hurt me. i dont have any female friends ever since i went to a religious school that seperated me from talking to girls in my first year of highschool ever since then i wasn't the same. I've forgotten how to make friends with either guys or girls. Im not going to buy a escort either. When we go clubbing my friends are dancing and hooking up with girls and im outside cold and lonely waiting to be noticed. Im not good looking but then do looks really get you sex? i dont know but im tired of jerking. In my mind i respect girls but now a days 99% of girls seam to not have the strength to not hook up with guys at parties then have sex with them later. i see this at parties girls getting felt on making out ass grabbing and all with random guys like friends and all. And it seams like the only way a man can get love and affection is if he's a player like that. I've kinda lost hope girls give in so easily too so much players. So what can i do to lose my v-card what do i do/say. I dont have my own place.

[EvenstarOfRivendell]

Girls are worth more than just sex. We're people too! Being a virgin is perfectly ok, there's nothing wrong with it. Wait until you're in a worthwhile, meaningful relationship, because trust me- those players get karma back at them. Girls aren't slot machines that you put kindness coins in until sex falls out. We want to be liked for who we are, not for the size of our boobs. So instead of trying to play a girl until you get into her pants, how about getting to know someone who's company you really enjoy and take it from there? If you're standing outside waiting to be noticed all the time, you're never going to find your special somebody. Why not try talking first?

[Asker]

Girl you ain't hearing me. i wanna know how to woo a girl how to build attraction how to. build a relationship. I was born without a dad i have no idea about these things. I want to make a girl mine you know. Hug and watch a movie over a bon fire all snuggled up and close on a cold winter night thats the kinda guy i am

[Anonymous]

My best friend didn't lose his virginity until he was 26 and my brother is almost 23 and I know for certain he hasn't had any type of thing with a girl.

And honestly, if you really want to lose your "v-card" THAT bad just fuck a random, easy, girl. Who cares if she's ugly. Who cares if she's fat. Make her like you or something, if she's desperate she'll give it up. Join a hookup site or something. You'll lose your virginity and then you can stop crying about it. Man up.

[Asker]

Im not crying its not all sex. I want to have a loving girl i want to kbow atteact girl i want to have more female freinds. I just dont have those skills cause i dont have those experiences. Like i said above i dont want to hire an escort cause i want to learn the right. Trust and believe im not like other guys.

[Aud_Queen]

I've seen 28 year old virgins soo this is nothing. Just be glad you still have college to mess around if you want to. If you want a girlfriend, focus on getting her. Not just sleeping with her.

You sound like your caught up in the party scene. And yes, at parties/clubs both guys and girls lose their senses. that doesn't mean all girls are like that.

Fyi. I'm part of the 1% :P we exist. You just won't find us at clubs. Don't give up hope, just look elsewhere.

[Phoenix98]

Why is it sad that your 19 and haven't had sex? I'm 21 and completely fine with having never done it and no one gives me crap about it lol. If people do give you crap then simply don't care and really you should work on your social skills first before anything else being able to talk and communicate with men and women comfortable like you've known em for years it makes it easier for dating and other aspects of life.

[Asker]

i dont care but its embarrasing on my behalf. imagine feeling secluded in the club your friends having a good time your on the line. i want to work on social skills but where and how i do i start building friendships after hey how are you, im frozen i dont know what to say next. then i think why doesn't he/she continue the conversation always why dont they ask me something. then i assume they dint care.

[Phoenix98]

you tell them how you are lol then you go from their and try to find common ground something you both are interested in, have in common anything like that.

[Scrambled]

Dude... religion and women are a terrible concoction. If you come from a religious family, you are in trouble. Don't see it as losing the V card. Rather try up your social skills and go out your way to approach and meet women. Try fail with women on the road to learning a lot with them. Also do fun things

[Scrambled]

Friend, listen to me. I have been there. There is a rule with alpha males, NEVER listen to women advice regarding the v-Card. I can type a thesis for you academically but if you want a quick intervention, do this... its the two greatest books for guys like us ever written. Spend money on these books and really digest what they are saying. The Game by Neil Strauss. Its a fascinating account of a guy who at 30 hardly got laid and went finding answers. Its absolutely amazing what happened to him. Then there is a book called No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover. Its another brilliant book written by a psychologist who deals with men who suffer from nice guy syndrome and how to get out of it. Then do the following, ask your friends how they do it? Show some vulnerability and you will be surprised how much help you can get.

[Asker]

Scramble Thank you are a great legend sir!!! The way you speak your mind in these comments. I need to learn to be able to express my self too how you do that? i feel that in its self is something women value highly.

[Scrambled]

Thanks man. I just speak with confidence. Here is a little trick. Have you ever seen the most stupid guys be very confident? What is that thing that makes it look confident? Its just that they are dead sure their view is right. Some Canadian dude I met in a pub was chatting to a girl with confidence that there is a Canadian Adder (snake) that is supposed to be the most poisonous snake in the world. He said it with conviction. He was right and the girl was interested... until I told him he was speaking crap because that is 100% not true. The point is, you must believe that all your life experiences and learning makes your opinion just as strong as anybody else's. That's why its important to work on your strengths and be confident there. for example, I am a musician so I don't care if some guy knows more about finances than me. I know more about music than him and will flaunt it.

[LegendaryKioshi]

Soooo basically you want to have sex asap because your friends think being a virgin is something to laugh at? Jesus. Grow a pair and do things for YOU and not other people. "19 years old" please.

[Asker]

i hope you can understand that its not all about sex. you see im not sure How would i be able to communicate in a party scene or how to build attraction or how to build relationships eithe.

[Prettygurl12]

Get over it. Seriously. Being a virgin is NOT a bad thing.

[XNicholeMariex3]

It really isn't! :)

[Asker]

not being able to form a loving relationship is. It sucks that after 19 years i haven't gotten to that point. Im at my peak sexually yet i get none its something i want to change. Can you help me?

[Prettygurl12]

I don't know how to lol 19 is just a baby. Hell, I'm 21 and still feel like a baby in the grand scheme of things. You can start worrying about this when you're like 25. Until then just live and let live. No worries.

[Asker]

girl, you see i want change now then later. I'd be your friend but i wouldn't know how to bond with you after hey how are you?

[Prettygurl12]

Lol they say fine and ask how you are and you respond and then ask them if they go to school/work and they respond and then you respond and then you ask if they enjoy their schooling/work and they respond and then they ask the same and then you answer and then you ask what their favorite color is or something and they answer and you just get to know them...

[Neko_Chan]

Don't use pick up lines, please. Have you tried any online dating sites?

[XNicholeMariex3]

Pick up lines are stupid.

[Scrambled]

Dating sites are also hard and is not going to help the guy.

[Neko_Chan]

The only way he can gain confidence is with experience. Going to clubs is just going to add to his anxiety and the pressure to have sex. If he tries dating, he'll become more comfortable with who he is. Asker, you shouldn't put pressure on yourself to have sex. Everyone's different, and being a virgin is completely fine. Added stressors like that will just make talking to girls harder.

[Asker]

naa and honestly i dont intend to either. I need to feel comfortable talking to girls upfront face to face. its just that after hey how are you im stuck?

[Neko_Chan]

You meet people face to face with dating sites. Confidence comes with experience.

[p0rtis26]

Did you invent the airplane? Cause you seem Wright for me. =D @Neko_Chan

[p0rtis26]

@XNixholeMariex3 Do you know what my shirt is made of? Boyfriend material!!! =)))

[p0rtis26]

@XNicholeMariex3

[XNicholeMariex3]

Ew no! it burnsssss

[justbanANNAz]

what a disaster. it's the end of the world. you'll b like that 40 year old virgin dude.
in ur mind u respect girls? what a load of bullshit.

[Asker]

girl you gotta see where im speaking from. I have nothing but respect for every new person i meet. But the party life shows to get girls you have to play your cards right and sometimes the girls you know are down aren't all that gf material so you can't hold them in such an honour as them 1% of girls im looking for. I grew up without a dad so i have to find a way of dealing with this.

[justbanANNAz]

I don't know man. look I'm sorry about ur lack of a father figure around but u make it sound like it's a shame to be a virgin, and i dislike it when people make it seem that way.

[Asker]

thank you specially for understanding. i want you to know i dont really care about the sex. its a weird feeling i guess i just want to feel intimate close and love because i feel im stressed and dont have much people around in my life who care about me even my family. not having a manly figure i can only assume where to go. i get depressed sometimes just thinking about it. i guess i just want someone to call mine and see eye to eye at least before i die.

[justbanANNAz]

you will. you're 19. u do realise ur not old, right? you have your best years ahead of you. embrace them, and dont tie yourself up with finding a woman that it eats at u. just relax, enjoy time with your friends, your family, love yourself. then and only then i believe you will find someone else.

[XNicholeMariex3]

I'm 20 years old and I have never dated, let alone even romantically hugged a guy.
I beat you!

[sammy_31]

Not a big deal, don't feel bad, lots of people who are like you. It will happen be patient. :)

[Scrambled]

I can't stand advice like this, seriously. I am not trolling but my old man gave me this advice and its the worst advice to give a guy. Bottom line is, he is seeing his friends have fun and he is not. Something is missing and that missing thing is going to screw up his future life to. Problem with patience is that time has no patience. One day you wake up at 30 years old and still find you are a virgin taking "patience" advice.

[sammy_31]

Look, I'm 22, virgin, never been kissed, never had a bf, never even touched a guy. I'm not tripping about it. Well if you don't want to be a virgin then just hook up with someone, it's not that complicated people make it a bigger deal than what it is. You are the only one who can do something about it. Sorry that I was trying to honest.

[sammy_31]

@Scrambled

[Scrambled]

Dont say sorry, I love honesty, that's why I am on GAG. What you women don't get (or maybe you do but don't admit) is that a girl can get laid VERY easily if she chooses to. You want to get laid Sammy? Put a pic up on a dating site and say you want to get laid. I promise you will get over a 100 requests (my female friend got over 200). You will have more partners if you choose in one year than a guy in his whole life. You have that power. Now let a guy do that. He won't get one request (maybe 1 from a desperate girl). Attraction works different for guys and girls. A guy can easily die a virgin if he doesn't get good advice whereas a girl gets hit on all the time, especially if she chooses. The virginity issue isn't around sex (that's easy... I could just get a hooker now), its around social skills, being a man, attracting that girl you truly like. I believe the 60% divorce rate is due to, in part, people not finding the partners they would like.

[sammy_31]

I understand that, I could have lost my virginity at a young age but I didn't. It's MY choice, I know I could easily but I don't seek that right now. MY GOAL is until marriage. @Scrambled

[Scrambled]

Now here is the difference between a girl and a guy: You have that choice, a guy doesn't. That's the dilemma that girls don't seem to see with guys and why they don't understand a guys frustration. Now the reality is, guys can get girls easily and they do, but its only a certain type of guy. Out of my call it 30 close guy friends, 2 of them can sleep with anyone they choose, then about 4 of them are pretty good, the majority go through the usual " a few relationships" then you get the guys who never have anyone. The difference between these 4 generalizations is the level of social skills and confidence they have. Guys need to learn this early on and the V-card is a symptom of a boy that needs man intervention.

[Asker]

god im loving this convo scramble you my friend are a genius. and sammy i have so much reslect for you being a strong girl and stopping players. Lets all be friends :)

[sammy_31]

@Scrambled A guy doesn't have a choice? That's absurd, I don't feel like debating at the moment. Everyone has a choice, EVERYONE! Also everyone needs to be confident and not be insecure or scared but we're all human, it's natural.

[Scrambled]

I worry about you too, because you look gorgeous and here is the thing about waiting. Time doesn't wait. Time has no sympathy for humanity and robs you of your youth and beauty. So get married soon so you can start making the relationship mistakes;)

[sammy_31]

@Scrambled Thanks for the kind words, I don't worry though. It will happen one day & if it doesn't then whatever it is what it is.

[Scrambled]

ok... last thing, when I mean a guy doesn't have a choice, obviously he has a choice but a girl has to give the green light (or its rape) so the guy has to choose to change his personality or amplify his confidence to make that happen. That's why "be patient" doesn't help or some other passive advice. A guy need to man the f up but needs to be shown how. Anyway... yeah, thanks for the chat.

[sammy_31]

@Scrambled Oh okay yeah I see & no problem.

[Scrambled]

@asker thanks man but you better get those books I advised you on below, seriously they are brilliant.

[sammy_31]

@asker Thank you as well for your kind words. :)

[p0rtis26]

I am a little older than you and I am also a virgin. In my personal experience that is the way to go, I have talked to friends that have had meaningless sex. And all of them tell me it was great in the moment, but they wished they had waited for someone who they were in love with or married to. Yes, my opinion is religiously biased but I see so man detrimental effects from promiscuity.

[JustinX]

you are not alone bro we are in the same boat actually... my friends also have good life in their career, relationships and sex. @Scrambled i like way you let everybody understand with your words of wisdom

[Scrambled]

@justinx thanks man.

[JustinX]

welcome

[Anonymous]

I heard a gay loses virginity faster than straight people, so don't worry, you're completely fine!

[XNicholeMariex3]

Was that supposed to be funny? ... zzzzzzz...

[Opinion Owner]

Nope... I think...