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Sexual Health Am I overreacting about my boyfriend going to a strip club?
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Last night, my boyfriend's friends dragged him to a strip club for the first time. I was totally fine with the idea at first because I trust him and all. I assumed he'd go out and have a good time with his friends, whats the big deal? At most I thought he'd go to watch or maybe get a lap dance (which he said he wouldn't). Later that night, he was telling me how it went and told me how a stripper was hitting on him and asked for his number, but he said no he has a girlfriend. Then I asked him what else happened, and he said "youre gonna get mad at me." And so i prompted him to tell me. He said, he got a lap dance, and the stripper moved his hands places and pretty much got handsy with him, and that he also got blue balls from it. After that I didn't know what to say because I didn't expect him to be groping women out there getting that turned on about it. I couldn't contain it and got mad at him and he responds to most of it by saying she was just a stripper, thats what she does. Im undeniably hurt and he doesn't seem to realize my perspective. Me sitting at home waiting for him, only to hear he's groping and getting groped by women and getting so turned on about. If I did the same he would be furious, but its nothing when it comes to this because she's "just a stripper and thats what she does" Am I overreacting?
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I'm amazed at people's responses to this, first of all, she's just a stripper, like WTF does that even mean or matter. and you hit the nail on the head when you said about how would he feel or react if you had done the same, and had some hot man having you stroking his cock etc. He's a grown man, and should know better, nobody forced him to do anything, he had a choice, and tries to make out its all ok because, in his words she's just a stripper.
if my girlfriend went to a strip club then i wouldn't want to be with her
because she's viewing other men sexually
if my body is not good enough then id just have to find someone else who thinks it is
The thing about guys is most of us (like 90 out of 100) are easily turned on and in those situations do things we regret. It's ok that your mad at him for doing something he said he wouldn't buy him telling you about shows his regret and a lot about his character. I think you should forgive him.
yes you are sorry
Try this in about 4 months: "He's just the window cleaner, I didn't know he'd be cleaning the window while I was masturbating, anyway, I think I'm getting fat." Feign getting sick in the morning too.
You're sort of overreacting. It's one time. It was his first time & he didn't know what to expect. He's right, she was JUST a stripper. You're his girlfriend. If you went to a male strip club and got teased, you'd get a little turned on too. It's human nature; especially for guys. It's ok.
besides it's good to let guys have a little fun now and then, it just might prevent him from cheating on you.
i would react too
I will drag you to a male strip clup for the first time. And lets do some FaceTime with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend would kill me LOL
tell him you dont want him going again