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Before we dated he used an escort once and I’m so disgusted. Thoughts?
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12 29What if it was another girl that wasn't paid for sdx?
He has both types
I am wondering if it's that he paid for sex, or that he's had sex that bothers you more?
The fuck?
Do you care that he had sex or who he had sex with?
It’s because he PAID for it!!
So he helped fund the oldest business
And that’s not a business that I clearly am fond of lol
Before? Doesn't count.
Are you disgusted by the kind of girl he was with or the fact he paid for it?
The fact that he paid
Yeah thats what i figured. Is he pretty well off? Some guys just dont give a shit anymore if they have enough money they dont even notice the cost. Personally i think its morally wrong to pay a woman for any kind of sexual service but a lot of guys dont think that.
I do agree absolutely that it’s wrong. He makes good money now, but I don’t know how much he made then
The past is the past amirite?
Past is past, nothing you can do about it. Either breakup or move on. Should be fine as long as he doesn't have an std. A lot of young guys choose an escort for their first time, it's normal
He wasn’t a virgin when he booked her lol
Ohh. Anyway. Either u like & take him for what he is or leave. Your choice
Tell him to get tested. If he's negative, then forget it. EVERYONE has a past and has made a mistake.
EVERYONE has been STUPID ONCE! "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." - John 8:7
Not Christian. Thanks
Neither am I. You don't have to be.
Then why did you paste that? lol
Well it was before you would I ever go with escort no but everyone different
It’s his past. Why do you care about it?
Because it’s information I didn’t have when I decided to date him as my partner.
Why do you feel disgusted? Not saying you shouldn't, but elaborate on the why.
Because I consider myself “traditional” and that sort of thing isn’t.
And as far as I knew, he was too, but apparently it’s not so?
Hum... Could you elaborate what you mean by traditional in this context? "Traditional" is usually motivated by a mode of thinking and can mean a lot of things for any issue, it's just an umbrella term.
I won’t bother explaining to you the word. Everyone knows what it is.
And he isn’t!!
Nope, because it's different for every traditional person and every issue. Some traditionals dislike it because it's a "human life" and therefore it's icky, others see it as a slippery slope, others feel it takes away the weight of responsibility, other feels it encourages promiscuity. You have to figure out what it's for you, and what it's for him and if it isn't him just biting the bullet.
Everybody need sex and if you don't have a partner then it's an option. Its neither right or wrong. It's what he needed at the time. Now he has you. What people do before they know you is not anything they can change. You can either accept that he has a past and move forward or leave. The choice is yours. You have a past and he has to accept what you did before. Maybe you did something that he thinks is disgusting but you do not. If he is with you then he is choosing to accept what's in the past and focus on what you have now since you met.
I didn’t even do anything like that!!
Just get tested
Well everyone got their needs, and before you he must have used to satisfy his needs nothing more, not it depends on you what u think about it
Yea my opinion is important.
You will never get over this. Every single time you're together you will remember it and it will eat away at you. Then you will resent him more over time. The question is why are you not enforcing your boundaries by leaving him?
That's attractive to women sexually active men and cheater are attractive. Enjoy it
He was probably on a very long dry spell, we all have needs and those urges are only human, part of me doesn't blame him at all for that
He should then have picked up a girl and not paid for it
A lot of guys just want to go for a quick easy route that requires no game or courtship or seduction
Makes him such a weird guy in my eyes
How long have you been with him now and are you thinking about breaking up with him over that?
2 years and probably not
My guess is, you and him both met each other while in your 20s
No we met at 29
Both of you are the same age?
My feelings have softened a lot towards paying for sex, even though I've never done that, I feel I'm only for it under certain circumstances
Yes roughly!!
*same age a few months apart
If the guy is either a virgin or going through a very long dryspell, then I see nothing wrong with that
Still weird
A lot of guys just like the social skills to get a girlfriend so that's why they go down that route
*lack the social-skills and social abilities to get a girlfriend, so that's why they do that
Then IMPROVE
Yeah for men it's either improve or get nothing, it doesn't look that way so much the other way around though, probably because it seems men and women only need to improve in different ways in order to attract a mate
Yess!!
I bet your boyfriend was the one who pursued you or hit on you
You should probably check to make sure you aren't a whore yourself before you get bent out of shape about it.
Its far more common than you like to admit.
Sorry?
One of the main criteria by which women judge men is by what they have. Sometimes euphemistic words are used, such as ambition.
Piss off
Truth hurts i guess.
Weird fuck
You’re so ugly!!
i olso did, i just never told them just because they will think like you.
Personal i can't waith for sex from a girl when i want so i go to an escort who accept money and then start the sex.
If i don't get sex from a girl i get to arousted, norvos, agresiv and i don't have any activity that can consume that energy (and i go to gym for 2-3 hours for training)
My limit is 1 week of waithing for sex afther i need an escort.
Sounds as though you have a problem and need some form of therapy
Or why not get a partner
if i have a problem i don't want to fix it, i like to be this sensitive horny around the girls, it feel good, but when i feel it becoming to much i go to an escort. I want to get a partener, i succed in the past but we brake up, but not because of sex or my desire for it (3 relationship i had). Is dificul for me to stay relax for long time when i'm around girls, so if i become more friendly and close to a girl i directly ask afther a small number of days "when do you want o come to my place (when can we have sex)"
I don’t know what to tell you. It’s not the issue I’m having, because it’s something about past mistakes!!
You say your boyfriend go to an escort, so he must be back then very horny to handle himself
He has such a high sex drive
me as well
Well
well what?
Well idc