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Denied sex because I wasn't shaved down there. Why is a hairy vagina considered such a turn off nowadays?

Am 28 years old married woman. I am a working woman as well as a homemaker. From past one month I have been leading a very busy life and after a long time, me and my husband were about to get intimate last night and he denied me sex saying that my pussy isn't shaved. Am like wth I last shaved it just two weeks back and it's not so hairy and it looks just well trimmed. I know he likes it shaved down there but I can't believe he said that because I usually maintain a good hygiene and wish he could have been bit more understanding considering how busy I was. Am really pissed off by his behavior.
My question is if a hairy private area for women such a big turnoff to an extent that sex should be denied because of it? Has any women experienced a similar situation like me?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It's a preference. Everyone has them. Some women deny men based on various features that they can't control.

    Also, it's because society via the media (I think beginning in the 20s) started pumping out toxic thoughts in which women were shamed for being too hairy in their nether regions and armpits.

    mentalfloss.com/.../selling-shame-40-outrageous-vintage-ads-any-woman-would-find-offensive

    This is why I feel many people have the mentality that if a woman does NOT shave or trim, she is unhygienic. Far from the truth. This is why hairy vaginas are considered turn offs: because society has conditioned people to believe it (just as society has conditioned that bigger women are unattractive as well as skinny men).

    Overall though, I feel it's personal preference (for this particular guy).

    • I agree it's a personal preference but it's not that he is clean shaved over there everytime. I feel so bad for his double standards..

  • Wow, can't believe you married someone like that. That's extremely sad. Even more sad since it wasn't even a full bush either and he reacted that way. I'd be so hurt if that happened to me. I mean, that's also why with my boyfriend, I had sex with him while I was just trimmed to see if he would like my vagina regardless. And he does, so that's good for me. Sorry about that though. Next time he ask for sex, reject him for a stupid reason as well.

    Never happened to me though since I usually wouldn't date someone who would only have sex with me if I shave down there. I find guys like that quite immature.

    • There have been times when I wasn't totally smooth over there but we had sex before we had a kid. This seemed to be a very stupid reason for him to reject sex. I would be off mood for at least a couple of days.

    • Aaaww I'm very sorry that happened! I Agree though, it is a very stupid reason and pretty hurtful as well. It is one thing to not be in the mood but to say you won't have sex with your wife cause she isn't shaved is another thing. That's actually quite immature as well. Ya, I understand. I would be too in your situation.

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  • Whether its shaved or hairy I dont mind I find both attractive, I will admit if it's too hairy around the clit then going down can be a bit annoying so I'd say keeping around the trimmed is the only thing for me but I trim so girls dont have the same problem with me. As he is your husband I think that's a dick move from him he should be more understanding that you've been busy and tired, shaving yourself isn't as important as looking after your family, no man should be so disrespectful to any woman let alone his wife

  • I wouldn’t deny you sex ever. If the hair really bothered me, at most I’d offer to shave you. It can be really hot and erotic.

    • I wish more guys were like this but unfortunately not.

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  • So what to do is shave your pussy toddler smooth. Then get him all hot and bothered then tell him you don't want to have sex because he needs to shave.

    • I don't have any specific preference for his genital area so at times he is not totally smooth over there but I don't bother. I really didn't had the time to shave over there and I wasn't prepared too for sex as he was in the mood and the one who initiated it but then he cited this excuse and went off.

    • @morpheus12 love your style, lol if you have to be toddler smooth then I agree deny him until he is too just out of principal, I admit I love hairless girls but I do return the favor lol

  • He was wrong but he is who he is. I'd make a standing appt to get waxed.

  • That's so trivial. I prefer trimmed myself but honestly that's bullshit. The only reason I'd ask is for shaved is if she asks me to go down on her. If I want head, I'll make sure I'm respectably trimmed there

  • Its just the influance of the internet I've heard in the past it was the opposite but I don't know if its true

    • I don't know if any girls would turn down a guy if he isn't shaved down there. at least I won't..

    • Well yeah i know for somr reason if the guy dosent shave almost all the time it dosent matter but if the girls dosent shave its the oppositd

  • I mean it depends on how untamed it looks. If it’s looking like an amazon forest then some grooming is required. You don’t have to go full shaven just trimmed low enough where we can see the target and work effectively.

    • It wasn't kind of a bush down there, just looked like well trimmed because i shaved it two weeks back and it wasn't much of a hair growth to look untamed.

    • Then it sounds like he might think it’s too much for him. If it’s trimmed then that’s on him. Some guys really like shaven and most are okay with neat trimmed hair.

  • He is your husband so I assume every other time you have had sex he didn’t deny you. Understanding you are busy, didn’t you already know this was a requirement of his? It’s hard for me to believe you are married to him and this denial comes as a surprise.

  • I like hair down there. he's just a loser. He should be glad you let him down there.. Move on sista. Fak him

  • Nowadays? When has a hairy vagina ever been attractive? We have to shave too you know. Don't be so lazy.

    • It's not about being lazy. TBH I wasn't really prepared for the sex otherwise I would have done it somehow. It was he who initiated it and it's not as hairy as what you think. It was to the point of neatly trimmed as I shaved it recently.

    • Don't be so immature but I don't blame you because you are actually immature

    • 25-29 years old and that childishly sensitive. "Don't be so immature but I don't blame you because you are actually immature" Grand use of language there. If he still finds it too hairy then just trim it some more.

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  • First of all... your husband. Bit of an arsehole for doing what he did. He cudve said it in a more tactful way AFTER sex cos from what uve described your pussy was neither a rainforest nor a sheet of sandpaper. Soz but he's a twat. Ok... your pussy...80% of men want it hairless and i can tell you the two main reasons... it looks so sexy and feels soft n smooth. Hygene is in there too but further down the list. However... its your minge and you keep it how you prefer it. he's entitled to his opinion yes but its your lady garden.

    • My 2 week unshaved pubic region looked like a neatly trimmed one. My hood and the labia weren't covered with hair and whatever new hair growth was there it was there above the vulva region. I really don't understand why he gave such a stupid excuse for denying sex when he was the one who really wanted it and initiated with the foreplay.

  • People are dumb.

    • It was such an insult tbh. I feel so low on confidence just because of this instance.

    • Aww dont

  • He's cheating on you

    • That's the same thing I was thinking. A month is a very long time to go without, especially for a guy. And then to turn it down when the chance came up... seems like he might be getting it from somewhere else.

    • @Flower7 He was the one who wanted to have sex and started to have foreplay with me. So I don't think he is cheating on me because he wanted it in the first place.

  • it is a turnoff, but i wouldn't deny sex. if it was to long i would deny oral tho

  • It's not a problem for me. Your husband was probably just not in the mood for sex

    • I don't think he wasn't in the mood. If he wasn't he wouldn't have initiated the foreplay.

    • Is there anything other than the hair? what's your height/weight? I honestly don't think a trimmed pussy is gonna stop a man from having sex with his wife after a long period of no sex, I'd be so horny I would just bend my girlfriend over the kitchen counter lol hair or no hair

    • I am 174 cms tall and weigh 135 lbs. I maintain a healthy lifestyle too.

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  • That sounds like a jerk, it seems like he thinks of you as a sex toy & not a wife.

    • I just felt like a mere sex object when he did that which pisses me off even more.

    • That is a bad marriage. Do you have kids? Do you want to stay in the marriage?

    • I have a 4 year old daughter with him. I want to stay because however he is I love him.

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  • guys suck sometimes, pm this happened to me once

  • You are never too busy to maintain your hygiene. I would have done the same. Nasty!

    • Just because it's nearly trimmed there doesn't mean am unhygienic.

    • Guys have become so immature and influenced by porn nowadays that they can't really distinguish what's hygienic and what's not. A completely shaved pussy doesn't mean it won't transmit STDs. TBH I pity guys like you.

    • It´s not "neatly trimmed" if you have just let it go for several weeks!

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  • You really need to be talking to him about it. Our opinions don't mean snit either way. Maybe there is more to it than whether you shaved or not

  • Hair down there really isn't a big deal.

  • Obviously you chose poorly... maybe if you chose him for something other than looks? no pity here

    • I chose him because he loved me but never thought that he would reject having sex with me just because of hair which is completely natural.

  • Not always but I understand why you felt insecure

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