Nope. Killing a baby is never the answer to a situation that might be challenging or unexpected. If you are willing to haves sex, you must realize that babies can be a result of that sex. If the birth font role "fails," then it was meant to happen for a reason. If I, for some reason, just couldn't possibly take care of a baby, then I would allow a couple to adopt it.
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alice_lauraXper 5
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I dont know i am not oposed to it and it is definetly a womens but i dont know if i could do it xxx
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DizzyDesiiEditor
+1 y
Nope. I dont believe in birth control nor abortion
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smalls95Xper 6
+1 y
Of course I would consider it. Would I go through with it though? I wouldn’t know unless I’m in that position. Thankfully I’ve never had to make that choice and have been on birth control since I started being sexually active.
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BlondeandfreeYoda
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Never. As for my religion that is a crime.
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lyssagirlXper 5
+1 y
Not a bit
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Daniela1982Master
+1 y
If both the guy and girl use birth control then the odds of it failing are that much more. I think both should have safe sex, and if that means wearing a condom … oh well! Too many use abortions as their back up plan, just in case birth control fails, which probably wouldn't happen if they both used birth control.
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Jamie05rhs
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You mean the odds of it succeeding are that much more.
Daniela1982
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@Jamie05rhs No the odds of it failing are that much more if you both use birth control
Jamie05rhs
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Huh?
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Daniela1982
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@Jamie05rhs Oops, got that backwards. The odds of getting pregnant are less if both use birth control.
dancing_in_nebulasExplorer
+1 y
I've thought about it. I'm not sure I have the heart to actually do it though if it happens.
I use 3 forms of birth control - 4 if he pulls out - but pills, spermicide, condom, and no sex during ovulation.
I probably dont even have a uterus anymore at this point ha ha - but by the 0.0000009% chance I do get pregnant, that sperm was a real fighter and that baby just meant to be 🤣
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venus1997Xper 4
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Yes, no if, ands or buts.
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Heaz99Xper 2
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Well. My mother had a discussion with me about this. Before I would have said it is 100 percent evil, but she kind've changed my mind on things.
I'm not sexually active, but for those who are and for those who are on the pill, if it fails I (might) consider having an abortion, but it depends.
If you're a teen who got pregnant with some other teen, then I would say no abortion, either take care of the baby yourself, or give it up for adoption.
I'm going to tell you a story that my mother told me about her second child. I know her, we're not biologically related because her father is a different man, a wife beater and he cheated on my mom many times. (She had a difficult life before that)
My sister, who I am not directly related to, had a lot to deal with because her father left and slept with other women. (My mom got pregnant at 16) (she didn't know any better like most teens, on top of that her mother didn't care about her. She let her do whatever she wanted because she had bipolar and neglected the needs of her child)
My mom basically had to learn life the hard way, there was no one to tell her how to do things, no one to guide her, that's what made her so strong. I am grateful she was never an abuser, she has always been there for me and even got me help, that's a story for another time. Anyway, back to the subject, I had a troubled sister who would often get in trouble with the law, smoke and drink. I even recall that she brought me to one of her friend's house and they were all lighting up cigarettes. (I was 5 at the time) My mother once considerred giving her up for adoption to a rich italian family an though she would've been troubled, she probably would have gotten better help for it. (She has bipolar as well)
My mom struggled to take care of herself enough as it was, she was a teen, a baby still. One day, my sister did something terrible and then she got herself a life sentence in prison. Now, she is forever without her mother and family members at least until, she's around 68 years old, if she makes it til then. I can only visit so few times. My mother has severe arthritus and the cold makes it worse. Her knees swell up and become as big as cantaloupes! Yeah, she hasn't had it easy, she even had to deal with me and my bp.
As my mother and I discussed abortion is only nessescary in cases of incest or rape. With incest, the child will most likely have varying health issues. You wouldn't want that poor thing to live their life with that! With rape, the parent will probably have to relive the memory of that trauma everyday and when their child becomes an adult they have to live with that awful realization, that they were born out of rape (this isn't to say they can't become something great, in fact, no matter who you are or what you were born from, you should never give up on life) they might even feel depressed because they see other people with caring fathers, but they won't have one.
It's a heartbreaking decision to make, but sometimes abortion is necesessary.
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Samantha_17
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Thanks :)
CurlyGirl42Yoda
+1 y
yes, I take birth control exactly not to get pregnant, and it is not bulletproof so I am aware I might get in that situation. I am honestly not sure what I would do, will depend on many factors, but getting an early abortion is for sure something I will consider.
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BensbrieXper 6
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No, because if birth control fails I am responsible for my baby. My baby is a part of me and my husband, and it's not just mine. It's my job to protect my baby. Abortion is not the answer for me. I had a friend who had an abortion that lead to physical and mental problems.. she can't have kids anymore apparently.. soooooo, yea. That's a no for me hon. I couldn't just get rid of my baby like that. I need to take responsibility for my child.
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IssaTunaXper 3
+1 y
I would contemplate an abortion with the other person who is pregnant. Scientifically I don't have any problem with it, morally I really couldn't care less. It's not my decision to make overall. I can have a bit of input but still the decision would be up to the female. I make and have have enough money to pay child support and also support myself. Either way is fine with me
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loves2learnMaster
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I could never and would never abort my baby. It would destroy me. I love all my babies, planned or not.
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wingattebaby16Guru
+1 y
i have had 2 abortions... I dint know i was prego and admit I was very sexually uncontrolled.
If I had to do it again, i would keep the baby
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PBandJ_NerdGuru
+1 y
I would have to. I can't ever keep a baby. I would have only 2 choices: 1. Abort if it's still an egg (baby hasn't formed yet) or 2. Go through the pregnancy, give birth, and then put the baby up for adoption. I wouldn't ever want to do any of these things since it'd hurt me but I'd have to choose if it came in the future.
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Red-BlazeYoda
+1 y
No If it fails ill let it happen How ever I can't give birth so if I had the option I can't really see my self give up on it So I may be a little turned on the matter to be subjective even if I try
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LaurenbabyXper 3
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For my body, depends on circumstance. For others, that's for them to decide as it's their body.
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meninaMaster
+1 y
Probably not. I don't want to have children but if birth control failed I would give the child to adoption. I believe in abortion under certain circumstances, but not in this case.
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Hidden_PGuru
+1 y
Consider, yes.
Assuming it’s a relationship and it’s the birth control failed I think you should tell your partner and decide together. You both should give your reasons for and against, but I think the woman has the edge. Eg, say financially and emotionally the man is fine and there is a home there, if the woman isn’t ready it’s unfair on her and the child. Her body is going to change hugely (a big mental factor) she’s going to go through hormones like mad and the woman has to feed and nurture... that’s after she’s pushed the child out or been sliced open and had major surgery. Being honest, the man had the time of his life in 30seconds and the woman has 9 months of watching her food, drink, exercise, appointments of being prodding and poked, before eventually peeing, pooing, and having many strangers stare at her lady bits. I think women have slightly more say!
Things like rape or a one night stand, it’s really up to the woman, end of. After all; there’s no commitment so it’s her choice if she wants to be a mother.
Generally, people are on birth control for a reason. I’m a firm believer of keeping abortion available to all (I get hate from men for this which I find hilarious) as it should be available if needed.
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Jamie05rhs
+1 y
What if the guy persuades her to abort and then he leaves anyway?
Hidden_P
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@Jamie05rhs then he didn’t want to commit and now she has no ties to him leaving to do what she wants. Overall a good situation.
Jamie05rhs
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Well, I'm just saying women shouldn't be blackmailed into aborting their baby by their boyfriends who may leave them later anyway. Just consider that as a possibility. He could just be no good and be manipulating you.
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Hidden_P
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@Jamie05rhs no. They shouldn’t. Just like they shouldn’t be pressed to keeping it. At the end of the day, regardless religiously or abortion stance, the woman does 90% of the work in a pregnancy. The man has his seconds of fun and a woman has to watch her diet, exercise, etc etc. In a committed relationship I’d like to think the man will help her off the sofa, out the bath and in the later days help her wash and keep clean (many of my friends have said how they physically can’t reach their legs to wash). If a woman wants to keep the child that’s, within reason, her choice. Eg, she may have accidentally become pregnant but spent years unable. She may have a countdown on her head. Wherever possible a conversation should be had but really I think women have the swinging say in this matter. That doesn’t mean a woman should blackmail a man “I have your baby support it” because that’s completely unfair.
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295 53Nope. Killing a baby is never the answer to a situation that might be challenging or unexpected. If you are willing to haves sex, you must realize that babies can be a result of that sex. If the birth font role "fails," then it was meant to happen for a reason. If I, for some reason, just couldn't possibly take care of a baby, then I would allow a couple to adopt it.
I dont know i am not oposed to it and it is definetly a womens but i dont know if i could do it xxx
Nope. I dont believe in birth control nor abortion
Of course I would consider it. Would I go through with it though? I wouldn’t know unless I’m in that position. Thankfully I’ve never had to make that choice and have been on birth control since I started being sexually active.
Never. As for my religion that is a crime.
Not a bit
If both the guy and girl use birth control then the odds of it failing are that much more. I think both should have safe sex, and if that means wearing a condom … oh well! Too many use abortions as their back up plan, just in case birth control fails, which probably wouldn't happen if they both used birth control.
You mean the odds of it succeeding are that much more.
@Jamie05rhs No the odds of it failing are that much more if you both use birth control
Huh?
@Jamie05rhs Oops, got that backwards. The odds of getting pregnant are less if both use birth control.
I've thought about it. I'm not sure I have the heart to actually do it though if it happens.
I use 3 forms of birth control - 4 if he pulls out - but pills, spermicide, condom, and no sex during ovulation.
I probably dont even have a uterus anymore at this point ha ha - but by the 0.0000009% chance I do get pregnant, that sperm was a real fighter and that baby just meant to be 🤣
Yes, no if, ands or buts.
Well. My mother had a discussion with me about this. Before I would have said it is 100 percent evil, but she kind've changed my mind on things.
I'm not sexually active, but for those who are and for those who are on the pill, if it fails I (might) consider having an abortion, but it depends.
If you're a teen who got pregnant with some other teen, then I would say no abortion, either take care of the baby yourself, or give it up for adoption.
I'm going to tell you a story that my mother told me about her second child. I know her, we're not biologically related because her father is a different man, a wife beater and he cheated on my mom many times. (She had a difficult life before that)
My sister, who I am not directly related to, had a lot to deal with because her father left and slept with other women. (My mom got pregnant at 16) (she didn't know any better like most teens, on top of that her mother didn't care about her. She let her do whatever she wanted because she had bipolar and neglected the needs of her child)
My mom basically had to learn life the hard way, there was no one to tell her how to do things, no one to guide her, that's what made her so strong. I am grateful she was never an abuser, she has always been there for me and even got me help, that's a story for another time. Anyway, back to the subject, I had a troubled sister who would often get in trouble with the law, smoke and drink. I even recall that she brought me to one of her friend's house and they were all lighting up cigarettes. (I was 5 at the time) My mother once considerred giving her up for adoption to a rich italian family an though she would've been troubled, she probably would have gotten better help for it. (She has bipolar as well)
My mom struggled to take care of herself enough as it was, she was a teen, a baby still. One day, my sister did something terrible and then she got herself a life sentence in prison. Now, she is forever without her mother and family members at least until, she's around 68 years old, if she makes it til then. I can only visit so few times. My mother has severe arthritus and the cold makes it worse. Her knees swell up and become as big as cantaloupes! Yeah, she hasn't had it easy, she even had to deal with me and my bp.
As my mother and I discussed abortion is only nessescary in cases of incest or rape. With incest, the child will most likely have varying health issues. You wouldn't want that poor thing to live their life with that! With rape, the parent will probably have to relive the memory of that trauma everyday and when their child becomes an adult they have to live with that awful realization, that they were born out of rape (this isn't to say they can't become something great, in fact, no matter who you are or what you were born from, you should never give up on life) they might even feel depressed because they see other people with caring fathers, but they won't have one.
It's a heartbreaking decision to make, but sometimes abortion is necesessary.
Thanks :)
yes, I take birth control exactly not to get pregnant, and it is not bulletproof so I am aware I might get in that situation. I am honestly not sure what I would do, will depend on many factors, but getting an early abortion is for sure something I will consider.
No, because if birth control fails I am responsible for my baby. My baby is a part of me and my husband, and it's not just mine. It's my job to protect my baby. Abortion is not the answer for me. I had a friend who had an abortion that lead to physical and mental problems.. she can't have kids anymore apparently.. soooooo, yea. That's a no for me hon. I couldn't just get rid of my baby like that. I need to take responsibility for my child.
I would contemplate an abortion with the other person who is pregnant. Scientifically I don't have any problem with it, morally I really couldn't care less. It's not my decision to make overall. I can have a bit of input but still the decision would be up to the female. I make and have have enough money to pay child support and also support myself. Either way is fine with me
I could never and would never abort my baby. It would destroy me. I love all my babies, planned or not.
i have had 2 abortions... I dint know i was prego and admit I was very sexually uncontrolled.
If I had to do it again, i would keep the baby
I would have to. I can't ever keep a baby. I would have only 2 choices: 1. Abort if it's still an egg (baby hasn't formed yet) or 2. Go through the pregnancy, give birth, and then put the baby up for adoption. I wouldn't ever want to do any of these things since it'd hurt me but I'd have to choose if it came in the future.
No
If it fails ill let it happen
How ever I can't give birth so if I had the option I can't really see my self give up on it
So I may be a little turned on the matter to be subjective even if I try
For my body, depends on circumstance. For others, that's for them to decide as it's their body.
Probably not. I don't want to have children but if birth control failed I would give the child to adoption.
I believe in abortion under certain circumstances, but not in this case.
Consider, yes.
Assuming it’s a relationship and it’s the birth control failed I think you should tell your partner and decide together. You both should give your reasons for and against, but I think the woman has the edge. Eg, say financially and emotionally the man is fine and there is a home there, if the woman isn’t ready it’s unfair on her and the child. Her body is going to change hugely (a big mental factor) she’s going to go through hormones like mad and the woman has to feed and nurture... that’s after she’s pushed the child out or been sliced open and had major surgery. Being honest, the man had the time of his life in 30seconds and the woman has 9 months of watching her food, drink, exercise, appointments of being prodding and poked, before eventually peeing, pooing, and having many strangers stare at her lady bits. I think women have slightly more say!
Things like rape or a one night stand, it’s really up to the woman, end of. After all; there’s no commitment so it’s her choice if she wants to be a mother.
Generally, people are on birth control for a reason. I’m a firm believer of keeping abortion available to all (I get hate from men for this which I find hilarious) as it should be available if needed.
What if the guy persuades her to abort and then he leaves anyway?
@Jamie05rhs then he didn’t want to commit and now she has no ties to him leaving to do what she wants. Overall a good situation.
Well, I'm just saying women shouldn't be blackmailed into aborting their baby by their boyfriends who may leave them later anyway. Just consider that as a possibility. He could just be no good and be manipulating you.
@Jamie05rhs no. They shouldn’t. Just like they shouldn’t be pressed to keeping it. At the end of the day, regardless religiously or abortion stance, the woman does 90% of the work in a pregnancy. The man has his seconds of fun and a woman has to watch her diet, exercise, etc etc. In a committed relationship I’d like to think the man will help her off the sofa, out the bath and in the later days help her wash and keep clean (many of my friends have said how they physically can’t reach their legs to wash). If a woman wants to keep the child that’s, within reason, her choice. Eg, she may have accidentally become pregnant but spent years unable. She may have a countdown on her head. Wherever possible a conversation should be had but really I think women have the swinging say in this matter. That doesn’t mean a woman should blackmail a man “I have your baby support it” because that’s completely unfair.