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Do you think most men are intimidated by SEX TOYS in the bedroom?

Do you think most men are intimidated by SEX TOYS in the bedroom?
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  • Many are. But every mechanic needs to learn how to use his tools correctly. Not all men have an 8 inch wrench. So they may need to improvise. And they may have the tool but have practiced lousy technique for years without correction from their partners. That particular issue is itself a problem and requires a separate discussion although communication is ultimately the answer to both.
    But if your guy is truly interested in satisfying your sexual needs, he will take himself back to school. There's plenty of educational material available that doesn't have pictures. Sorry, porn doesn't count. There's biological info about a female body that needs to be understood then practiced, and unless you stick a camera up there he's got to be able to do it by touch. But once he gets it... easily you will find multiple O's a normal occurrence. And I'm talking double digits of the full body shaking can't think for an hour afterward kind of orgasms.
    Tell him to seek out a master of the 3 Gates. I learned from an old Chinese guy. That's what he called them. One up front, the other just as you enter toward the roof, be sure to apply pressure from above for added effect and the third, way in the back and often completely ignored. Hope this helps

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  • I'm not. lf she likes to pleasure herself, I think it's fine as long as she also loves to fuck. It means that she has a high libido and may be kind of kinky.
    I'm even fascinated by some of sex toys available to women.

    I have no need for sex toys, myself. She's MY sex toy. But she's free to play if she wants too. I even love to watch or help. :-)
    And if she wants her clit vibrated while we have sex, GREAT! I want her to orgasm until she is trembling like jelly and can't walk.

    One thing that I love is sticking a vibrating dildo up her ass while taking her from behind. It feels freaking amazing!

    So GO, girls. Get your freak on!

Most Helpful Girls

  • No, not most.

    I think some are, but they're missing out.

    It's like saying you're not gonna build a canoe with anything but a hammer and chisel. Sure, you can, but your hands will be chafed, you'll probably bleed, and you might get a sense of satisfaction - but you'll have been going for years and she'll have done nothing but lay there thinking of England the whole time.

    My point is, sex with toys is just that: sex with your partner, and extra tools for both of you.

    Try a massage wand, or a vibrating cock ring, or both, or a dildo with a different shape or texture than your usual cock, etc.

    There's fun things to discover, but a portion of misinformed men think sex "doesn't count" unless it's - I don't know - the biblical sex. Where it's dick and pussy and if you get freaky it's "bad".

    Toys are just tools. And men who like tools are sexy.

  • I’ve always had the impression that the ones who are intimated are just insecure bc the toy could bigger than them or help her orgasm when he can’t get her to orgasm.


    I was surprised when I found out my boyfriend encouraged me to get a toy and even wanted to buy me one!


    I declined though because I can’t cum from vibrators. It makes me wet, but I can’t orgasm from it because my clit gets numb from the sensation. So it wouldn’t have mattered to me if my man didn’t like them because they aren’t useful to me.

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  • I can’t say all but a lot of them are. I bought them up to my boyfriend before and he said “why would you need those when you can just have my dick” so basically we won’t ever be bringing those into the bedroom lol that’s okay though it’s not that important

  • I wouldn't be surprised. But i have no interest in ever using them so whoever im with has nothing to worry about. I only want the real thang

    Do you think most men are intimidated by SEX TOYS in the bedroom?

    • @dizzydesii toys are fun but I love me that baby juice 😋

    • @Morgan_99 not baby juice 🤣

    • @dizzydesii haha why not?

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  • There's no greater pleasure in life than shopping for a sex toy with a guy and watching his confidence crumble as you hold up a huge pelvic cracker 2000 and ask the assistant if they've got something bigger.

    • You sure that's confidence crumbling? Sounds more like acute disappointment. Why would a man want to plunge into the depth of some size queens mine shaft?

    • Knowing what I know now, I can't be intimidated by any toy. I know my worth emotionally and sexually and also spiritually. My girl is satisfied with me and no toy. She wouldn't even consider a FMM or MFF. Just her and me. Toys become a must have when people throw out God from their consciousness. That's where all the sexual crazies arise from. When God is in all your thoughts, everything, every touch, all of you is enough for all of her.

    • @Jlegacy That was dripping with cheese.

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  • No I think they are just fine with them. In many cases it's the men who buy the toy in the first place.

    • I did for my wife and I, well vibrators for her. But they weren’t that thrilling so out they went as it was better just one on one body to body.

  • Hell, I've bought toys for my girl, specifically so that I can use them on her.

    Pleasuring my partner is my objective, during sex, and while I can do that perfectly well by myself, adding toys into the mix gives me additional, different ways to do it.

    I can use them in tandem with my own abilities, to ensure that her orgasms aren't always achieved in the same manner. It keeps things interesting. It also doesn't stop us from actually having sex, nor does it diminish her appreciation for what I've got.

    I'm sure a lot of guys are intimidated, but they shouldn't be. Instead of thinking of them as his replacement, he should be thinking of them as another tool in his bag of tricks to make her orgasm.

  • A mature and confident woman will bring her favorite toy with her. If not, I have a small selection of popular options available. Guys, this is an excellent way to repurpose expired condoms. The ladies will appreciate the gesture.

  • Don't know about other guys, but not me!

  • I think a lot probably are, especially when it comes to male orientated toys. Probably a feeling of being emasculated/he's not good enough on his own and such

  • Toys etc add to the fun.

    remember toys is a very broad range of stuff

    • Agree for sure.

  • It really shouldn't matter but I have been with a few guys who didn't want to involve sex toys in the bedroom.

  • Most guys I’ve had in my bedroom are okay with my toys until I bring out the xtra large dildos

    • Well, they are either afraid you will stick that up their ass, or perhaps the extra large dildo is an indicator, of the size of your vagina, and their penis can't match that?

    • Lol just because the dildos are bug doesn’t mean dicks that are smaller aren’t enough lol

    • @spookiebxch I had an ex-girlfriend who did that stuff with large dildos. She stretched her vagina out enough that I couldn't feel enough friction during sex to climax. Be careful, it doesn't "return to normal."

  • Why should they be? A women deserves great orgasms and if toys help her out then why not! My wife has some toys that we like to use on each other... lots of fun!

  • Yes, a lot are until used to the idea. Which is fine. Toys are great for woman as additional fun, but nothing replaces the feel of the real thing.

    • It’s nice to see some sincerity here

  • No idea. My guy buys sex toys for both of us.

    • @mia-wallace which is part of the fun

    • @ChrisMaster69 yeah. 🙇‍♀️

  • No disrespect intended, but you failed to mention the planet you're talking about. Are you talking about Earth or Planet GAG? It's that whole apple/oranges thing.

  • Nope... In fact, I'm the one who normally buys the sex toys to mess around with the wife in the bedroom. I just don't do butt stuff...

  • Intimidated? I actually don’t think so


    I think unfamiliar and uninterested are better terms


    I’m not too familiar with them nor am I extremely interested in their usage.


    I’m open to it though.

  • From my experience many are. They feel inferiority to it... Like if I can't make you cum then nothing can type lol. I love when a guy is super into using toys.

  • They need to stop calling them sex TOYS and start calling them sex TOOLS.

    • I like it.

  • I personally don’t want to use any toys as I feel it takes away from my abilities to pleasure her so she’s resorting to other things (that she can use herself) - which makes me think I’m just not good enough and she’d rather get herself off masturbating.


    Yeah it’s probably anxiety and due to masculinity stereotypes, but that doesn’t mean my feelings aren’t valid.

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