Does he want us to live together?

[Anonymous]

Lately, he has been constantly saying that he wants to be in a serious relationship. Two months ago he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend, to see each other more, to go out, I said I didn’t know. He said he could be in a serious relationship with me.
He joked about marriage, how would I get married if I didn't know how to cook. He said I was 21 that I would get married soon, I said that I am young.
He asked me if I love him, I said I love him, he asked me since when, how, how much. He was happy about it. The next time he said he loves me too.
He asked me why I don’t want to be his girlfriend, to travel together to see each other all the time.
Last time he told me he loves me, he wanted to cum inside me, to get pregnant, to be his wife. He asked me if I wanted to be his wife, to be together every day. He asked me several times if I wanted to be his wife, I didn't say anything.
On the way home he told me he is moving to another city (which is about 40min away by car) in 2-3 months. He said he would show me the apartment. In the car he asked me if it would be difficult for me. I laughed.

[rkf_helps_247]

My dear...



You're in your prime age. The time for you to enjoy, explore, have fun and make the most of your life.
From what i read, I feel like he's just pushing you into things rather than asking for your opinions on marriage and kids.

A guy should never put such pressure like marriage, wife, kids, etc on a woman. If he does... then plainly speaking... he's not ready for a relationship. And if he continues with it... the relationship will end up in a very bad way that might leave you both broken.

So my opinion is... Being in a relationship isn't a problem.
But serious things like marriage and kids and sex. One should very much think twice before putting your leg forward in that direction.

Also, don't be afraid to tell him what you're feeling. A relationship requires both sides to be honest. So if you don't want to do something... tell him.

Don't let him force you into things like this.
Who knows... He's a guy.

So you should be careful who you get into your life with.
Maybe he just wants sex. And after you give it to him... He'll soon get bored and cheat on you.

I'm not saying that's the case. Just saying that... You should also show tell him your likes and dislikes. And learn to say NO when needed.

Hope I could be of some help.
Thank you. 🙂

[meetkitty123]

I already told you what to do in the last post
What I didn't realize is that you've been playing around with his emotions
You don't know which direction you're going in
I don't think you should marry him they want to be good for him for you
Already made this suggestions of promissory rings
I don't understand why you keep asking why he's cold if you keep denying him your feelings
He's been asking you to marry him and you say nothing
It tells you he loves you you say nothing
You say you're young not ready to get married
Is quite obvious you guys are not on the same page
You can still save the relationship I simply making an agreement with him to go steady
If you do not want to go study with him then leave him alone
you can't keep going back and forth between I love you I don't love you I love you I don't love you it's not fair
It's like you're picking flowers and picking the petals off like we used to as kids
The dumb game He loves Me He loves Me Not He loves Me He loves Me Not
Stop picking his petals and make up your mind
Going steady in agreeing to not date anyone else isn't a bad thing.
If you really do like him just go steady
If you don't let him go.
You cannot get upset with him for being cold and distant if you keep changing your mind or not answering him

[meetkitty123]

Thanks for the mho

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not trying to be rude. But you keep inviting me to the same questions that are literally asking the same thing, giving the same exact details.
I've answered these questions enough and given my opinion. There's really nothing else to say unless you're asking something new. But you're not... It's just the same thing all the time... Communicate with him...

[19magic]

Your not the first to say that trust me, I think some people don't like seeing responses so keeps posting until someone says what they think

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@19magic but then why keep inviting the SAME people to the SAME question over and over... My answer gonna be the same if the question is word for word the same

[Jjpayne]

This is going to be a double copy paste. Because both of these questions are the same to me...
He sounds way to confusing and bouncy for me... He just sounds like he does not know what he wants to do. He keeps on throwing out these what it's and preferences... DUDE! JUST SAY WHAT YOU WANT!

I would be so frustrated by now if I were you. You seem to be very patient and forgiving with him...

I really hope another gager has some good advice for you but I really have no idea what do it other than be very specific with him in terms of questions and forcing him to not give a weak answer.

You can ask all the questions you want based on his behavior but all his behavior is saying is that he is on the fence and does not state clearly what he wants... Make him state clearly what he wants

[AustinMan]

I may be oversimplifying this but it sounds like you need to decide what you want from this poor man and stop torturing him and yourself.

[colivares878]

100% agreed

[AmanoYin]

you should try and get married while young to a sane human.

[VIVANT]

@_lucretia_

I would like to know what you want. Or for you to know. Decide what you want. Once you decide what you want, tell him. If he wants the same great. If not you both know where you stand.

[menina]

It sounds like he wants to be with you for real. I guess he's just trying to find out how do you feel about the idea of being his girlfriend, wife and the mother of his kids.
Maybe he's being cold because you laughed and said nothing. He probably didn't like your reaction.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have become the official drama queen for this site! Every day you want to analyze this relationship, as if mentally dissecting it is more fun than actually having the relationship. That attitude KILLS most relationships. Nobody in their right mind wants to get together all the time and talk about the relationship. This seems to be an obsession with you.

[hahahmm]

And over the next 10 years you will have 300 “boyfriends”. None will want to take you seriously & you will think back about this guy who you played games with.

[On_the_other_hand]

He is cold because when he lets you know he loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of his life... you say NOTHING.

Imagine you put your heart on the line and tell a guy you love and want to marry him and he says nothing.

Imagine you moving away and asking a guy if he will miss you and he just laughs.

Of course he is cold in texts, probably sometimes in person too.

[akshay1998]

Yes, but I think you should tell him to consider this after a month or so. As it doesn't look like he is moving right away.

[TruthBringer]

Yeah, it sounds like the dude got issues. He also is letting his lust for you get the better of him. On top of that, it sounds like you're keeping him on the line. If you love him, then nothing would stop you from being in a relationship with him. So I guess you both are a walking red flag.

[wankiam]

every day you post some new issue you are having with this guy, surely that is the biggest indicator you need to show you that living together would most likely be the biggest mistake of your life so far

[Bhavin2184]

Yes.. So you decide whether you want to be with live with him or not.

[sensible27]

This is just so non conventional or so it seems like, whatever keeps you happy. If you want to sure maybe go ahead. If you don't... Obviously you have to decide and think, don't force yourself and let him force you is all I'm gonna say more I guess...

[Dargil]

I won't try to unravel this. You need to break off with him and let him put 40 minutes between you. Can't you see he is a sociopath?

[JosyJosy]

One day yep

[Sweetener_]

I think things are moving a little bit too fast...

[Titanic1912]

I’m sure he wants to get started with you. He’s ready to start his long life and he wants to share it with you.

[AmeerX]

Because he loves and see you as his wife

[Jamie05rhs]

You don't need to know how to cook to get married. Cooking is not really that high up the ladder of importance. And also, it's something that can be learned over time. You do have to know how to manage money properly, though.

[Jamie05rhs]

But yes, he does want you to live with him?

[Jamie05rhs]

And why would you laugh when he said that? That was kind of rude. ... Were you just nervous?

[Jamie05rhs]

Sorry; ignore the question mark on my first comment.

[Asker]

In the car I was tired and he asked me "Whats wrond?" and I said "I am tired" and he said "It will be hard to you?" and I said "You think that it will be hard for me because you are leaving?" And smiled. And he said "You don't care about me?" I asked what and he said "You don't care about me"

[Jamie05rhs]

That was kind of a mean thing, what you said to him. But maybe you didn't realize that. Or maybe you didn't mean it that way; I don't know.

[Jamie05rhs]

He is being cold to you because you were cold to him.

[OfDeath]

Yes he does

[dudeinohio]

I don't necessarily think he wants you to live with him... He just wants to know, since he's moving away, if it would be difficult for you to see him.