Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Guys, when should a girl you are going out with tell you she doesn't want to get too sexual too soon?
Porcelaine Yoda
Let's say I like a guy that I just started dating, I don't mind and enjoy kissing him, touching him, and I do plan on having sex with him eventually, but I simply enjoy getting to know him, and all the innocent and simple things that come before sex becomes part of our relationship. I hate when guys get too sexual too soon, it's quite rare to find a guy who also wants to hold off sex until later and isn't just doing it because the girls wants it that way. So how soon would you like for a girl to tell you she doesn't like getting physical early in the relationship? Or is this something that shouldn't even be discussed, since I believe decent respecful guys won't mind waiting and won't try to rush me, if they dont want to wait and expect it right away they are free to leave.
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1 63Told her I don't want sex, after seven years she says to me, "Thanks for wasting my time"
what?
Haven't had sex since 1993. I've had 4 relationships all ending the same way. One lasted 7 years, ended in a huge fight! Social media got involved friends, strangers, relatives. I had to bring my exes in on it. To explain, " I don't have sex " SHAZAM! The only girl who won't smile for me is the girl who accuses me of, " wasting her time " Nope! Never! But I never say no, just a very busy guy. Shopping, maintenance, work, entertainment. Intimacy scares me specifically the naked truth.
well if you tell them from the start you're not gonna have sex with them then it's not a waste of time, if they agree to this they can't complain. but you shouldn't stay away from something so pleasurable just because it scares you, that's not a good reason
I find pleasure in noise, music, motors, tools, even the sound of bicycle tires going over terrain. It's a short story to why I choose abstinence, at first we agree to waiting. After awhile she becomes ready an I still want to wait. My first relationship after I chose to stop, was rather quick because I reminded her of not wanting sex. After coming to the conclusion of never again, will I? I then realized choosing women who don't want sex right away was easier to form friendships with. I've helped a woman become a CEO, also a dancer go to Vegas. And a woman to conquer her fear of body issues, she now looks great and in the best shape of her life. Only the model got mad at me, for reasons yet to my understanding, for not wanting to travel the world with her? Not really sure? She hasn't blocked me, but she deletes anything I comment on.
Let us know sooner than later, we aren't mind readers.
First date , that’s when I would tell her
Man in my opinion, just wait till she's ready! 😂😂 I mean just get to know her first, become more comfortable with her and then when she's feeling it give her some of your love nectar bro. But real talk, I'd wait about 7 to 9 months before even asking that question
That's quite a patience you got, people get married and divorced in that time lol
I just like waiting till she's ready
Good. A real man. Not pushing the girl just to satisfy himself. Just don't wait too long. Make sure she is not only ready but actually wants to get close and you are not waiting in vain
It’s a good question, i think she should talk about when she is ready
Sex is another part of relationships with others
ASAP to avoid wrong expectations ;)
I think the first date
As long as you don't come right out with it during the first date.
Yes, sex is very intimate!
I'll tell her to give me a call when she's done playing the silly games and is ready to spread her legs.
That is really effective
I hope you actually do tell that so I can avoid guys like this
It would be too late for you because at that moment you are already involved😉
@dbr1987 me or him? I wouldn't get involved with a guy like that, the warning signs would be all there so I wouldn't get close enough
I hope you don't. Chances are he is very Nice in the beginning
@dbr1987 I'm quite good at reading people but thanks. And this is the exact reason why I want to wait. Some guys are nice in the beginning, but it's just an act, so the guy who is truly nice is actually gonna stick around
Sluts ruined it for you. I respect your behaviour but easy girls fucked normal ways up. Some girls have fucked it up so bad that guys will think you will play them
@dbr1987 well I can also blame guy players for thinking they will play me if I give it up too soon, there are bad examples of both men and women there is no point in arguing there. even though people here do everyday just look at the feed lol. but still for me the idea of getting to know the guy and finding a connection before getting physical is very appealing, I believe that way sex can be even better after all that buildup... when you have sex before all that it's easy to get confused is the bond you have from intimacy or is there something real between us two
Amen😉
Put out or get out.
🤣🤣🤣
Put out or get out? Something a guy will never say to me since I don't mess around with fuckboys like this lol
I can pretty much guarantee that, if I wanted you, I would be fucking you within an hour of our first meeting.
I heard a lot of that from boys, never actually happened. Within an hour they wouldn't even get my number
Keep telling yourself that, Sugar-tits,
Asap
I can still wait for marriage
When all chemistry is there. It's very hard to fight off. If it's that strong. It should be super explosive and enjoyable long-lasting and probably going to be a long-term thing.
That sounds like lust, which is awesome but you need more than that for it to last long term
I waited a month before I tried and my girl who I've been with for 10 years now. Was very happy. That I even waited that long. she said every other guy tried like after three dates, and she didn't want to rush.
Nothing like that. it depends on ur partner. And better be yourself then pretending to be someone else or restricting yourself
Honesty and openness has never payed off negatively to form a successful relationship. I hate being lied at. :-(
what? who's pretending? I don't think you understand the question or the reason behind it at all
@Porcelaine Pretending is not good, it gives a false view on your personality. I'm open and honest when it comes to sex but I respect other cultures which might find it offensive talking about sex to soon. Like my African girlfriend told me, it is not common there to talk about sex (in their community).
@roland77 again what does this have to do with the topic or what I said. noone is pretending here
@Porcelaine "Nothing like that. it depends on ur partner. And better be yourself then pretending to be someone else or restricting yourself" There he wrote it. I don't pretend being someone else, if I pretend to want no sex it would hurt me a lot as my sex-drive is very high.
Whenever she wants to tell me , she can , it's up to her , when she is comfortable about it.
Not interested in moving at speed. I'll take things casually.
Because it is only fair. If you keep rushing into something it won't be worth it. You want the special moment the last switching every time. Take the time to learn about each other.
It won't hurt either one of you. As a matter of fact, in most cases, you'll find out that it is going to be more satisfying. Take your time to love. Let it build up. If it doesn't happen it doesn't happen.
Tell him immediately and save yourself heartache and him money.
what money, I am not charging him
dating is hugely expensive
Depends on where you date. Hiltons' restaurant or just a simple cafe? ;-) James Bond surely would agree with you.
Girls who say this usually have had a history of quick fucking random guys and just say this as a caveat so they can pretend they have morals while they decide if he is going to do enough or give her enough to deserve pussy. Then when she gives it up within the first few dates or even minutes... she can say “Like, Omg, I never do this” which is an instant indication that she has fucked more random cock than a whore on nickel night.
wtf :DDDDDD you sad sad man if you really believe this
meh, your petty shaming tactics don’t stop the truth from being true.
it's truth for you only, does not make it truth for the rest of us
Sure sure.
It's not necessary. It would be shown through body signals
The only reason to say it, would be if you felt it was necessary
If I get to date number 5 or 6 and she’s still giving me the dreaded “take things slow” speech every time I make a move, it’s not going to work. I’m out.
Feels like waiting through a tar pit.