Here's the thing. It is your choice to make and not his. He has the choice to wear a condom and get some or not wear a condom and not get anything. I mean sounds to me like minimal pleasure is better than nothing. Besides, they do make thinner condoms these days that help with the bulletin excuse he is giving you. Yes, condoms in general can desensitize a little bit but it's not that much. The main issue I have with this is his total disrespect for you in this case. He may like it raw and that's fine... pretty sure most everyone prefers it that way... but for safety reasons you have asked him to wear one and he should do it simply because you asked him to. Making excuses for his own selfish pleasure is an action that shows how he truly feels. Actions speak louder than words, and in this case, his actions tell me he doesn't truly care. If he did, he would wear one no questions asked. I think you would be better off without him if he can't have even the simplest respect for you and your body.
First, you are not in a relationship with him, so he's obviously sleeping with someone else or trying to, and if he has this tendency of not using condom then he is not safe to be with without one. If I were in a relationship, I would do it with condom for a while and then start considering about using another method, but first I would have us both tested and see the result for myself (more to know about him because I know I'm clean but I would give him the same courtesy). This guy is not commited to you so you can't expect him to worry about you and he clearly is irresponsible. There are 7 billion people on this planet, trust me getting pregnant or catching a disease isn't worth just not to loose this guy. If you had an unwanted pregnancy you either have an abortion (which is a traumatic experience even if you are pro-choice) or you have an unwanted child and your whole life plans go out the window while still being a kid yourself. And he probably wouldn't take responsability or acompany you through it. You can catch a number of diseases that are horrible and can also ruin your life. He is being sefish and self-centered. Do not give in! If you still want to see him then learn to give good head and hand jobs, but that's it. And make sure he doesn't take out the condom while you are not watching, trust me some guys do that.
Also it is VERY important that you do not fall for the "I won't come, I promise". He will most likely come inside either way, and even if he didn't, they still drip some stuff before coming and that can ge you both pregnant and give you a disease. My advice is drop him, there are tons of guys you can have casual sex with that will still treat you with respect and will care for you, even without a relationship.
If he leaves you because of that he's making you a favor. And wearing condoms is not only about getting pregnant is also about infecting someone with unwanted permanent diseases. It's your body your choice but I wouldn't agree with this if I was in your shoes. I'd rather lose him than risking my own life like this.
Um, if he won't wear a condom... you don't have too many options.
So, if I were you, i would lose the guy. You will find plenty more guys out there that aren't selfish and will wear a condom.
Either that, or expect to get pregnant at 18, I doubt you will make it to 19. Also, if he is an friends with benefits, don't expect him to stick around either. Be smart and think of yourself please.
You have a lot of years ahead of you and getting pregnant now is not a good idea. Lot's of single moms out there not much older than you.
Good Luck.
Thanks for the MHO. :) I hope you do the right thing.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!LEAVE HIM! What are you even asking this question for. He doesn't care about YOU. He cares about SEX WITH YOU and that's all. If he can't respect your need to use condoms, he's not going to respect anything. GET AWAY FROM HIM.
Sounds like he’s about to miss out on some good pussy then 😂😂
Seriously though, don’t risk your health on him. If he says this to you, he says it to EVERYONE. Think about it. But the answer should be “no thank you.”
Then let him leave.
You already said this is a friends with benefits. So why do you care if he leaves?
Just find another friends with benefits.
Do you even have to ask this question? He's only a friend with benefits, so what's this "he will leave me" bullshit? Newsflash: He doesn't care about you, just your pussy. Do you think he will take care of your baby when you have one? Because, make no mistake, you WILL get pregnant if you do it raw, not to mention the possibility of STDs. He's a piece of trash, and you're probably too young, naive, and blinded by hormones to realize it. Take it from those who've had a little more experience in life, if not in sex: He's a total dick
Let him leave you or risk pregnancy. What is more important to you?
He can feel the same without and with the thin ones so if he doesn't want to use one to prevent infections and pregnancy then drop him. Sex is about the pleasure of both of you, not just him being selfish
Then he would have to leave you.. guys need to suck it up and get used to that condom if he wants casual sex.
If he continues to insist then you are better off if he leaves, in fact maybe you should take the lead and tell him to fuck off as you have every right not want to end up pregnant. If a guy really cares about you he would back off and drop the issue.
Then sounds like he won't engage in safe sex and cut and uncut men can feel w a condom, he is just being a douche. Granted of course it feels better w out. Maybe a female condom. Best condom I've tried is kimono, guys have said felt the best. Plus how do u know he is clean? Since he hates condoms?
Tell him to fuck off.
Leave him. Condoms do lower the sensation a little, but certainly not enough to warrant risking pregnancy.
Bye!
Just use Ultra thin condoms? It's the thinest you can get, and if you try it and he doesn't like it, you can either drop him or risk getting pregnant. Abortion is always an option (recommend that you do it before the brain becomes active) if you do get pregnant but, the question is do you have the mentality and the money to press the abort button. Also you never know if he will just run off after the child is born and not pay child support because he is just a sex friend.
And if you can't use pills get the implant I guess? Not the rod but the Y looking thing (can't remember the name).
Then let him leave. Fuck him. He's not worth getting pregnant over.
Ok STOP RIGHT THERE REMEMBER THIS YOUR BODY YOU CARRY THE BABY SO THAT MAKE YOU THE BOSS THE LEADER THE LAW ITS YOUR WAY OR NO. WAY HE doesn't GET A SAY IN IT IM SORRY THATS THE ONLY WAY IT CAN BE ,, I hate saying this bit it's true he gets you pregnant. Be honest is he going to be there is he going to give you money by diapers food ,, you can not take that chance and it's just a matter of time until you would get pregnant
It is something that he has to wear, or no sex. So what if it feels better without it? Why risk pregnancy? He isn't thinking straight.
Tell him no condom means no sex. End of discussion. If he wants sex and a good orgasm he needs a condom every time. You are way too young to be a mommy! If he still complains tell him all he gets is handjobs from now on or he will have to jerk off way more. Consider getting an IUD if pills do not work for you... your thoughts?
So let him leave you then. He has no respect for you or your body. This should have been apparent when he wanted friends with benefits, but I digress. You think if you end up pregnant an asshole like that will stick around? Hell no he won't. You will be a single mom.
Tell him to get the fuck outta here with that shit! Lol
If he can't fuck you with a condom he shouldn't get to fuck you without one. And by the way if this guy isn't in a relationship with you what do you think is gonna happen if he gets you pregnant.
Cuz I've seen this movie before it ends with you chacing a guy for child support who spends all his money on drinking and smoking. Or something else equally stupid
Break up and move on, you will not be able to give the AIDs back but you can always find someone who is hotter and doesn't pretend to not feel anything with a condom on, it is a lie and an unnecessary risk. When we give things up that is bad for us, we always get better stuff, believe me sweety, I know.
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