He uses much prettier women to get off to?

[Anonymous]

So I hadn't been seeing him because I work a lot. But we had sex twice amd we both came a lot. Then I noticed on hos phone he had several images of girls on a site called imagefap and I guess he was looking at it before we fucked. Why am I not hot enough? He used these images before we fucked, I guess because it turned him on more than me?

[EricSummer]

You had not seen each other for a while so he may have been under so much pressure that he would have come instantly which he could find embarrassing. Even for a young man it would not be best to jerk off just before sex, but rather a bit earlier.

The important thing is that he should be able to separate fantasy and reality. Those are just images, so it's clear that the women should be as sexually hot as possible to have an effect. With a real woman it is always much better and she is naturally hot enough for her guy.

For example, some man enjoy looking at rather extreme body types to jerk off to, but they can have a much better balanced taste in real life. It's not the same thing.

[Asker]

He was looking at these pictures while I was in the shower at his place... if he can't get turned on by me alone then what's the point? Why does he need a dozen pictures of a skinny blonde with big tits to fuck me?

[Asker]

It's like he needed these images to be able to fuck me.. he didn't jerk off and cum. I think he just looked at them to be turned on enough to fuck, which is a problem in my book

[Asker]

Like why would he need help from other women to get turned on by his real life girlfriend? I mean, maybe I'm too fat or something?

[EricSummer]

This does not sound familiar or normal to me. While a man may enjoy a bit of visual stimulation for masturbation, I agree that he can get all the stimulation from you when you are there. Best talk about it with him and about how it makes you feel. It seems overblown to end a relationship of six years for this, but it is an issue to be resolved, not ignored. I do not think it has got anything to do with you, though. He would behave like this with any girlfriend.

[Asker]

Are you sure he would act like this with other women? Or could the issue be with my body? Perhaps he wouldn't do this if I were a skinny blonde with big tits that he has to look at before being intimate with me...

[Asker]

Like, are these women the only reason he got hard and fucked me? We were already planning on having sex but I guess he needed hotter women to get in the mood?

[EricSummer]

Is it always like that for him? If he always needs to look at big-breasted women first to get aroused then it is some sort of fetish he cannot do without. On the other hand, you do have sex with each other, and that would not really be possible if he always needed big breasts. It is more likely that this is a thing that is sure to get him in the right mood quickly, but then he is still completely with you and no longer thinks about those nude models. The key question is really if he always does this or just occasionally. Talk to him or maybe see a sex therapist, too.

[Asker]

And he's got my nudes in his phone and they were taken by a professional photographer, so why wouldn't he look at my nudes if he's horny instead of dumb bimbos online... I feel like maybe I'm not good enough for him sexually

[BoopBoopBeep]

I mean this kindly, but you're overthinking it, and the fact that it's caused you this much distress is a far greater turnoff to 90% of the men out there than what you look like.

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep yeah the fact that I'm not good enough sexually or hot enough for my man and it hurts me, then it gets turned around on me being the bad guy. Yeah, that's fucked up tbh.

[Dargil]

It's not a preference. It is a visual aid/inducement. It's a means of making sure he's there for you.
I like Yandex. as well.

[Asker]

It feels like he was looking at these images to get himself turned on by me. I see this as a problem. Like maybe he's not into me or. my body very much...

[Asker]

He was looking at these pictures while I was in the shower at his place... if he can't get turned on by me alone then what's the point? Why does he need a dozen pictures of a skinny blonde with big tits to fuck me?

[Asker]

Do you look at porn before you fuck your girlfriend too?

[Dargil]

Not in the same setting. I use it as a reminder between sessions.

[Asker]

Damn. I wonder what's wrong with me that makes him use porn in the same setting. :(

[Asker]

Really wish I was good enough for him, but every time I see porn on his phone, I'm reminded that I am not. :(

[Dargil]

It may be his problem and not any inadequacy on your part.

[Dargil]

Not good to snoop in his phone. It can reduce his feelings for you.

[Asker]

He already doesn't like me very much clearly. I think he's so into porn because I'm inadequate. What else could it be? What other guy in his 20s looks at porn and naked women this much if their girlfriend is hot and having sex with them all the time? I must not be hot enough..

[Asker]

Or least I must not be too good in bed?

[Dargil]

Seems like you may be doing all you can. Maybe it's time to change partners to get a better Tango.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sometimes yeah, when we're watching a movie together i'm not sitting there with my eyes closed FFS.

[BoopBoopBeep]

before her, with her, after her...

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep okay, a movie with a naked girl in it is one thing. But are you actively searching for naked women on porn or whatever like my man does?

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm talking about actual porn, yes. Whatever we're watching off xvideo or xnxx or whatever... get some ideas for later, critique technique and what have you "ooh i like what he/she's doing there"

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep and you get hard for these other women in front of your girlfriend too?

[Asker]

Do you watch porn on your own as well?

[Asker]

I'm just curious

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep do you watch porn on your own as well?

[Apple1996]

Men that watch porn are trash

[Venymal]

What about women that read erotica?

[Apple1996]

@Venymal they even worse. Like who still reads anymore? Lol

[BoopBoopBeep]

If Chris Hemsworth runs by shirtless are you not going to look?

[Asker]

Ok but I'm not gonna sit and look it up online right before he fucks me in order to get turned on by him either...

[BoopBoopBeep]

How do you know WHEN he was looking at it? Have you never watched porn together?

[Venymal]

Regardless of his reasons for doing so, if he is looking at porn pics of other girls before being with you, it’s incredibly disrespectful.

[Asker]

Does it mean I'm not hot enough or not good enough in bed for him I guess?

[BryanMoore]

sounds like there's some assumptions being made there, but everyone finds others attractive and fantasize about them. it's natural

[Asker]

Yes but why would he do that while I'm physically present and in the shower about to fuck him in like 15 minutes... kinda seems like he was using better women to be able to be aroused with me...

[In_Trance]

Bruh..

[Asker]

It's like he needed these images to be able to fuck me.. he didn't jerk off and cum. I think he just looked at them to be turned on enough to fuck, which is a problem in my book

[In_Trance]

Read a different book

[Asker]

He was looking at these images while I was in the shower at his place getting ready to fuck him... why would he need help from other women to get turned on by me?

[In_Trance]

This is toxic femininity at it's finest. Everybody looks. You look too.

[BoopBoopBeep]

She asks a question, gets A BUNCH of answers, most of which have nothing to do with her, but she keeps hearing what she wants to hear. You're not hot enough to NEVER look at another woman again and I have no idea what you look like. But there's 8 billion people in the world, some of them are going to be hotter than you. When I go to the museum I'm not trying to steal the paintings for godness sake. I know your personality sure doesn't help because you're dripping "high maintenance." What caliber of man do you expect to get being so disagreeable with so many people here as well as the guy you're currently dating?

[Anonymous]

Pretty normal to do, ugly ones are not going to do it for him and he is with you for more than just looks and obviously you’re not going to always be the best looking woman out there so that’s why but it’s all fantasy in our minds is all

[Asker]

So I'm probably kinda ugly then?

[Asker]

Be honest..

[Opinion Owner]

I doubt it , I had a beautiful wife and still looked at pretty women, it’s just what guys do, we are very visual, so that’s what usually gets us turned on, but we don’t know the woman in the pictures. That’s why we’re with the woman that we are with because we love them for other reasons besides their beauty

[Asker]

So I just don't turn him on as much then?

[Asker]

So I'm good enough for him emotionally, just not sexually then?

[Opinion Owner]

You turn him on but in a different way and it’s not just emotionally since you guys have been together for so long is proof of that

[Asker]

So he's not into me sexually? :(

[Asker]

So what can I do to be better for him sexually? Is it my body? I used to fuck him every single day, multiple times a day, but now I work way too much but I still fuck him as much as I am able to. And I do the things he asks for in bed and I'm enthusiastic and I enjoy it. I give him blowjobs. I orgasm and I'm loud. I guess maybe this is an issue with my body?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you’re doing more than enough, he probably just likes looking at different women, it’s not you, you sound great, maybe you guys need to try new things or role play, I’m sure you have a great body, you’re in your 20s so it’s not your body

[Asker]

I do every single position and even anal when he asks for it. And maybe it is my body, I've gained weight from not taking care of myself and working too much and eating crappy food. :( do you think it could be?

[Asker]

I'm not fat or anything, but I'm a bit chunky now...

[Opinion Owner]

He is just used to you that’s all, guys just like to look at different women, relationships are about commitment, he isn’t bored of you , he just likes to see different things, try doing things that you don’t normally do or try losing some weight and dress differently and see his reactions, you’re definitely doing plenty to keep a guy

[Asker]

Did your wife have a good body and you still looked at other naked women? He says he loves my body with the extra weight, but I don't know if he's just lying or not, especially since he's looking at porn everyday. :(

[Asker]

Please lmk. I'm feeling very down. :(

[BoopBoopBeep]

As much as you're hammering this home, this is likely not the only place you've exhibited this unflattering behavior. You asked a question, you got an answer from a great many men, you don't like the answer so you keep re-asking the question slightly differently phrased. Now granted we're just a bunch of randos on the internet so to hell with our opinion (no offense taken), but ask yourself if you do that with him too. That makes you less hot to your boyfriend every time he sees it.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah she did but I still like looking at women, just because I’m with one doesn’t mean I still don’t appreciate other women’s looks, but it’s just looking, I never did anything else

[Asker]

Likely you looked at naked women on the internet.. or just looked at them in public?

[Asker]

I actually broke up with him earlier because of this. Tired of not being good enough. Not getting in another relationship because of it. He has literally ruined me.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You are neurotic AF, and that makes you way less attractive even if you're a makeup model.

[Asker]

@BoopBoopBeep I don't really care. I dumped him for it. I won't accept it. If that means I have to be alone for the rest of my fucking life, so fucking be it. I'm so fucking tired of other women and not being good enough FUCK EVERYTHING. ILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH SO FUCK IT. If all I have to look forward to is some man looking at naked women literally BEFORE AND AFTER I have sex with him, then I'm not running in this fucking rat race anymore. I'll accept that I'm not good enough and LEAVE EVERYBODY ALONE. FUCK YOU ALL.

[Opinion Owner]

No naked women in public and rarely looked at them on the internet, only sometimes but was never getting sex as often as you were giving him either, every guy looks but doesn’t mean they don’t love you, just normal for guys to look. Nobody is going to be better looking than everyone, you shouldn’t feel insecure about yourself because of that

[Asker]

I just don't know why I wasn't good enough when I was giving him sex every single day

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know why either, especially giving him sex everyday and wouldn’t be bothered looking at porn if I was getting it that much, I’m sure you were more than enough. I wish I had a girlfriend like that but I don’t have anyone at the moment

[Asker]

Maybe my pussy sucked and didn't satisfy him. On top of not being hot enough.

[Opinion Owner]

I doubt that or he would not have sex with you so often

[Asker]

Do you think my weight gain has anything to. do with this? He always reassures me that he still loves my body and he gets hard from just cuddling with me a lot of the time and he fucks me almost everytime I'm available since I work so much now. I'm just concerned about the porn. But we've dated for 6 years and he always watches porn, even when I was thinner and I had more free time and fucked him every single day. Lol so I don't know, maybe its just a bad habit that he can't break?

[Asker]

*he always watched porn

[Asker]

He says he has watched it since he was a young boy, so maybe it's not my fault?

[Opinion Owner]

I never thought it was you because it seems like you’re doing everything right and if your body bothered him then he probably wouldn’t be able to get hard

[Anonymous]

A man jacking off to other girls does not mean that he finds them more attractive than you. The reason he would jack off to other women before you two have sex is so that he lasts longer in bed.

[Asker]

He didn't jack off to cum. I was in the shower getting ready to fuck him and he was just looking at them. Why would he need other women to help him be aroused for me?

[Asker]

Maybe he's not into my body as much anymore?

[Opinion Owner]

Physical attraction does not equal sexual attraction. I've been with girls who I found more physically attractive than others (prettier) but didn't arouse as much as other girls who I've found less physically attractive.

[Opinion Owner]

A girl with a pretty face but an average body can be less sexually arousing than a girl with an average face but has an insane body. Example.

[Asker]

Okay. So he was using the pictured of other girls to get in the mood for me?

[Asker]

So he's possibly not very sexually aroused by my body?

[Opinion Owner]

He could or not. Men just like to look and appreciate the beauty of lots of women. Example a man can like girls with blue eyes, it's his favorite but he also like girls with green eyes, brown eyes etc. Just because blue is his favorite it doesn't mean he won't like to look at others or appreciate the beauty of other women. Once you're doing it 99.9% men don't think about other women they just think about you. Men love to look at different women and appreciate their beauty, it doesn't mean that he prefers them over you.

[Asker]

Why would he look at pictures of naked girls while I was physically present in the house, taking a shower to immediately fuck him afterwards? My shower was literally like 10 or 15 minutes. He couldn't wait that long?

[Asker]

That's why I think he was using the pictures to get himself aroused... perhaps my body isn't that great so he had to look at better bodies to turn himself on?

[Opinion Owner]

His dick wouldn't stay hard long after he stopped looking at pics. That's how dicks work.

[Asker]

And he's got my nudes in his phone and they were taken by a professional photographer, so why wouldn't he look at my nudes if he's horny instead of dumb bimbos online...

[Opinion Owner]

Some guys want to look at other women, maybe for like if you're favorite food is pizza, you don't always want to eat pizza you want to eat a hamburger sometimes.

[Anonymous]

he is just a man, that's all

[Asker]

So it's normal for him to edge to some hot woman talking about how she'd like to. be spanked and her pussy hanging out before he has sex with me? Like am I that bad that he has to get himself worked up to fuck me?

[Opinion Owner]

no it's not your fault, it's just that men are like that.

[Asker]

He was looking at these pictures while I was in the shower at his place... if he can't get turned on by me alone then what's the point? Why does he need a dozen pictures of a skinny blonde with big tits to fuck me?

[RonStone45]

You can have a favorite painting but also like too look at other paintings. Quite normal for a man.

[Asker]

@RonStone45 why would he look at them while I was in the shower right before we fucked tho? Does he need help to get turned on by me? He didn't cum while looking at them, he was just playing with his dick... but I was about to fuck him...

[RonStone45]

He's getting in the mood, didn't want to wait and felt like it. You're making something out of nothing in my opinion.

[Asker]

@RonStone45 did he need help to get aroused by me tho? He was extremely hard for me but I believe it was because he looked at naked girls while I was in the shower...

[RonStone45]

A man's erection won't last by looking at a pics once he has stopped looking at them. You kept his dick hard after. If you can keep his dick hard that means you can also arouse him.