How can I force myself to feel sexual desire for another man?

I feel it only for one person. He is not with me. I've tried to pressure myself to go on dates with men I find attractive but when they try to take it to the next level I don't allow them to get closer to me. The idea of being touched makes me sick in the stomach.

I feel enormous and wild urge for one person only whom I love like crazy.

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  • Honestly, value the fact that you don't feel this sexual desire.
    It will be a lot easier to rid the people who don't have the right intentions.
    Of course you might want to be more open, because you are single, but you cannot pressure yourself in being something or someone you aren't for the sake of another person's attention.
    Allow yourself to love this person you're not with, and be open to the possibility of meeting someone who might change that. Just don't force yourself to do so, because it will only work counterproductive.
    If anything, the more you try to consciously forget about someone, the more you'll think about them.
    So my advice: don't force yourself to do anything that doesn't come natural to you, just allow yourself to keep your heart open and your mind critical. You shouldn't be willing to change your desires simply because you're not in a relationship. I think, if you want to change something, do it for the sake of a better relationship, not for a non-existing one.

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  • I know it's harder for us to fall in love with another guy when we are already in love with one guy. In this situation where he is not in your life, you have only two options. First one is try as hard as you can to get back with your first love since he is still in your heart he may be worth a try. If you still can't get back or if he is the most undeserving or cheating guy who cheated on you already, then he doesn't deserve your love and loyalty and you deserve to free yourself from a cheater guy. I know it will be hard for you to move on at starting but after you move on, it will be the best decision you will feel that you made. So trust me, you'll get over a cheater within time if you allow yourself to fall out of love with him and fall in love with some other guy who deserves your heart. To fall in love with another person, you need to find a better person, who is more attractive to you than your first guy. Focus on all the bad qualities that your ex have and all the good and attractive qualities that you actually look for in this new guy and you can't help but will eventually fall in love with this new guy because your heart will make a choice for you and you will free yourself from your toxic and undeserving ex boyfriend.

    • I don't feel desire for other mdn even uf tgey are attractive. They are to me like beautiful women. Both don't arouse me.

    • Then take a break from love and dating for a while and indulge yourself in activities such as hanging out with new friends who can make you forget your pain that your ex gave you. Spend more time with new people. Get to know them, get to know yourself better and consider your unmet needs and understand what is pulling you away from not moving on and work on your limits that you kept while you were in love with your ex. Might be some limits are necessary to break to free yourself from your toxic ex but also evaluate that they should be morally right. Not according to you, but according to scriptures. Work on yourself and make yourself better. Eventually you'll understand that you will deserve better and will start finding other guys attractive and will start treating yourself better

    • And that is brought to "GaG" from our famous Anonymous "Guy pretending to be a girl"... Lmao

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Most Helpful Guys

  • You can't force it. You have to get over the other guy first, or just go be with him if you're not over him. The last thing a guy wants is for his girlfriend or wife to be thinking about somebody else when they are having sex. It's not fair to the new guy if you're still in love with the last guy. No guy wants to be the second choice, don't put him in that position.

  • You can’t force yourself but you can put yourself in a position that allows you to move on. This could mean removing this man from your social media, ceasing contact with him, and even moving far away from him. There is a chance that with time and distance you could get over him.

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  • I would advise you to go at a club, get drunk, get physical with guys by dancing, make out with as many guys you can and take one or more if you like to the toilets and suck their cocks and then you need a good fuck you can go for it

    • I don't like drinking

    • Plus the idea of loveless sex especially gangbangs make me wanna vomit

  • It’s sounds like you’re trynna traumatize yourself. Imagine having flashbacks of that supposedly good time, but keep feeling grossed out and trynna forget instead. Don’t force it, it‘s something that should come natural with someone you’re into.
    Just say no!
    You might need to consider seeing a therapist, this doesn’t sound right to me, why would you feel abide to do this, knowing you don’t really want to..!

    • Therapists will say it's ok. You will love again, date men blah blah

  • I think this is more tied with hang ups over the one who got away. I don’t say that condescendingly. Other men just aren’t “the same” as that one you met

    See a therapist about this. My money is on you having unresolved issues involving that guy.

    • Somehow i feel like this isn't a one who got away scenerio and more of a one you never had and are infatuated with scenerio

  • Interesting

    I imagine this is a mix of things within yourself that are preventing you from moving forward. Culture abs religious attitudes towards sex a b d marriage can greatly influence your own and thereby prevent you from going forward combined with your own mental attitudes and walls

    • Nope. Neither my culture nor religion prevent women from wanting to date or marry again

  • My trying to move on from the person u love or say u love

    • I thought this is not common

    • What do u mean sorry

    • I thought you meant that's you trying to move on after breakup

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  • You can't force yourself. What is it about the mean you desire that makes him?

    • I didn't umderstand your question Can you elaborate?

    • What is about the man you desire that makes him so special?

    • His looks, charisma, voice, humor, touch, passion, etc

  • If it has to be forced, it's undesired.

  • You probably won’t be able to until you get over
    Your ex , especially if you still love him , You are best to just focus on yourself and take your time really getting to know someone without thinking about sex until you really feel ready

  • Don’t go on dates until you’re over this man and ready for a new chapter

  • That's the problem, you haven't moved on properly yet and you are emotionally stuck which might effect your sexual urges, you might have to get over this guy first

  • Well, you can't force yourself. You need to let go of that person first in order to be ready to be with other people.

  • U soul tied baby u met the one and thee only one I hope y'all get back together but don't think it's anything bad that's great u just don't have the urge or want of any man your body is the temple and it only allowed one man in if y'all don't get back together I hope u grow to love someone just the same who is better but don't think nothing wrong of it cause really that fascinating... well to me it is the way this world is now shiddd

  • Stop using these other men, stop forcing yourself to lie to them as if you find them attractive when you don't.

    Wait until you can have a genuine connection. Otherwise you are a liar

  • You can't force it, it just happens. But what can help is finding someone you like and see if something can grow past friendship.

  • You can't force these things. But you can make an effort to be more open to other people.

  • Sounds like a very lucky guy! Why isn’t he on top of you right now?

  • Alpha widow right here. If you can't get over this guy and fix your damage you will die alone. Find a guy who you at least kinda like who would be a good long-term parter and take some MDMA with him.

    • He was my first man

  • You can't... just be honest with yourself.

  • You can’t, really. Something like that comes naturally.

  • Honestly seems like you can't do anything about it.. you can't really control that kinda stuff..

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