How do you feel about your partner initiating sex while you’re asleep?

[Kerryk88]

Woke up last night being fingered and it led to some great sex but is it a bit weird?

[Finchie40]

It’s only weird if it was happening from someone that you didn’t want to have sex with, so the fact that you didn’t stop him is sexy as fuck , He s lucky to have a girl like you cuz that’s something most guys love and appreciate about their partner , they love having a girl that doesn’t deny him intimacy and affection , when intimacy and affection starts to fade in a relationship that’s when the relationship starts to fade , I love when a girl wakes me up with sex as well , it’s such a turn on when she initiates it as well , never let your relationship go one sided , and remove selfishness for each other and wear each others shoes before making decisions you will see love grow between you both. Intimacy and affection is very important in a relationship so keep the spark alive or your relationship will turn to dirt, and resentments will come into play , and more than likely affairs as well , so don’t allow that to happen, Sex is important to most men , that’s how a man expresses his love for her and wants to be close to her , if she constantly denies him sex he will eventually look for it elsewhere and find a girl that doesn’t want to deny him sex and affection

[Leapfrog00]

Every relationship is different. That's a communication thing there. I If you're OK with it, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Now, if you didn't like a guy touching you without your permission, it would be awkward obviously.

If a girl did that to me, I get hard in the middle of the night anyway, so I wouldn't mind. I don't know if all girls get wet in the middle of the night, but my ex-girlfriend, when we fell asleep, she used to like it when I fell asleep with my hand in her panties. She'd get wet and liked when I rubbed her pussy in the middle of the night.

Usually, it would lead to me eating her out and then having sex with her. The sex felt so good in the middle of the night.

[Poppymarie]

I don’t think it’s weird within the context of a relationship. If you and your partner have a comfortable relationship where consent is implied until otherwise stated, then waking up to sex can be a nice treat. I’ve woken him up many times, and the sex is usually especially good. If the person is not your partner though, it would definitely be weird in my opinion. Consent needs to be a lot more clearly communicated in this context.

[Anemone978]

No I think it is normal my partner used to do that... the only time it was bad and I felt violated is when he did it to me when we were broken up and we hadn't had sex in like 3 months but were still living together.. I cried after he did it...

[ShellyB]

This happens to me pretty often like I would say maybe every two weeks (we have discussed and it is clear that it is OK with me) and every time, I am terrified for about a second until I realize what is happening and then I am OK with it.

[mommymommymommy]

It's date rape

[OlderAndWiser]

I wish she would!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I told my ex I was down to that. It was my initiative. So, I am fine as long as consensual.

[mommymommymommy]

But it's not. You can't assume it's ALWAYS consensual. Trust me on this. Every time he did it to you, without asking, it was date rape

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@mommymommymommy I asked him to do that. As it’s my fetish.

[mommymommymommy]

It doesn't matter, it's still date rape

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@mommymommymommy It doesn’t matter what you think, that was my wish and he did what I asked him to do.

[mommymommymommy]

It was rape

[Paige90]

@mommymommymommy Is that your favorite word?

[mommymommymommy]

@Paige90 lol, no

[BrookeS]

@lafemmefatale_1 i agree with you on this. It is a fun fetish to have isn't it!

[Sour-rose]

Won't be my partner for long if they did that. :) Hell they would be finding a new partner that night.

[Samantha36]

I love it. I'm a deep sleeper and iv often been woken up with my boyfriend inside me.

Also, if I fall asleep when my boyfriend is horny, Iv given him permission to jack off over my face or boobs while I'm asleep. He thinks that's abit weird but the thought of it turns me on.

[BrookeS]

@samantha36 just reading this turns me on!

[AmyHew1tt]

I think it's something a couple needs to make boundaries on beforehand and decide whether that's something they're both okay with or not.

Here's where I think it gets weird. When one 'has sex' with their partner for themselves, like going straight into penetration while the other is sleeping, instead of waking their partner up intentionally in a sexual way to make love to them, or make them feel good.

[integrale77]

Way I see it if I have a boner in the middle of the night and my fiancé feels horny then she doesn't have to let it go to waste.

Not happened yet I can only dream!

[CrypticMoon]

I realized after the relationship ended that I didn't consent and was actually quite scared when I was forcefully woken up for sex. He was so rough with me. I don't want to experience that ever again.

[Apple1996]

I love being woken up that way. Only issue is that sometimes my husband fucks me when he's sleepwalking in the middle of the night then doesn't remember it the next day. 😂

[pickles77]

What lol

[Apple1996]

@pickles77 he forgets doing it lol

[SamIam96]

I wish! Asleep, awake, come for it...

Seriously. It'd be hot.

I can imagine a cool hand on my cock and her breath against my neck while I struggle to wake into consciousness. I'd roll onto my back wondering if I'm dreaming. I can feel her climb on top of me, laying low against my chest and kissing the side of my neck. grinding against me. her breasts glancing over my skin.

As I wake, my hands would cup her bottom. I'd rock fore and back.

Well... anyway, that's how I'd feel...

[Berethor]

It's sexy in theory but I have some sleeping problems so I prefer if she would let me sleep.

[Gochogirl]

Just about your level of comfort with the situation. If you can foresee situations where it would upset you, just communicate that. Personally I love being woken up already being touched by my boyfriend, but it's not for everyone.

[BrookeS]

Agree with you

[mommymommymommy]

It's date rape. I know what I'm talking about, I work for a place where consent is always given, not assumed. Consent is ALWAYS given, no matter what. It is date rape what he's doing to you

[BrookeS]

@mommymommymommy how do you know she didn't consent

[mommymommymommy]

@BrookeS Because consents not assumed

[Paige90]

@mommymommymommy No it isn't!

[richardcory]

Should be discussed in advance. Some people are fine with it, others would feel violated. Personally I'd be 100% fine with it but I know there are people who would not, and that's fine too.

[Truthatanycost]

With any behavior, ask yourself this simple question. is it high vibrational or low vibrational...

[OfMiceandMen]

Not at all weird, I think it is great to indulge in some play time in the middle of the night, it's out of the ordinary and brings a little creativity to the drawing board.

[EmmaMary]

Definitely, providing it's been consensual beforehand.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've routinely been used like a piece of meat while I sleep. I admire salami. Go for it ladies.

[AlexisDiani]

No I have to be awake. Don’t even like the thought of anyone doing stuff to me while I’m asleep.

[mommymommymommy]

Since it's date rape, if you don't

[Summeroflove]

Could be considered rape. Also just rude

[Paige90]

It's normal and I don't care. Sometimes I wake up and sometimes I don't