How many dates should I have before sex?

I've been friends with this guy for almost a year. We just started dating recently. Great chemistry and connection. I was just wondering how long should I wait till sex? Would having sex early in the relationship turn him down faster?
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  • I've always thought the first two dates were interviewing.
    Goodnight kiss on the third. This is the vote of confidence or no confidence.
    After that, a slow-walk the bases on dates 4 through 9 through mutual oral/69.
    Then decide where to do the deed. It can be yes, not yet/ready/until marriage, even never.

  • Oh, stop.
    Really?

    How many dates should I have before sex?
  • That’s up to you and what you feel. You could on the first date or on third or tenth, whatever you want. Just make sure it’s what you want

    • Can you help me figure out a girl?

    • Sure! Message me

  • I usually do it at 1st or 2nd lol

    • You're awesome

    • @Jmmmfi4 hehe thanks

  • Whenever you both are ready.

  • 3 months worth

  • Doesn't matter. We can have sex on first date also or not till last date also. Depends on partner and your mood

  • You should get married first before having sex.

    • Sure. Then you both find you're sexually incompatible and live the good life. Who told you that?

    • @MannySimms I’m a Christian and I’ve learn that people should avoid sexual immorality.

    • There's your problem. Try thinking for yourself and see what happens!

  • If you feel like having it on the first date go for it. Don't give him a BJ on the first date second or third make him wait for that. Having sex on the first date is okay but giving a BJ will make you look like a hoe. You're grown so you do grown people things and if you want to have sex go forward. Just don't be too nasty because believe me we tell our buddies then make him wait a month after

    • "... make him wait for that." Why? Do you enjoy being frustrated?

    • No I'm just saying do be so quick to do that especially if he's wanting deep throat. He will treat you like a girl in a porn video

    • You make it sound like women don't enjoy sex and it's just a reward. That's how things were when I was young.

  • Uh... as many or as few as you want. But if you just tease him and lead him on or whatever without ever putting out or putting out soon enough, he's going to get bored of you.

  • I fund dates give me the runs, so probably best to avoid them.

  • There is no rules when it comes to relationships and sex :)

    • Depends what you mean by "is".

  • All the ones prior to a ring

  • there's no such thing, as 3rd date, 4th date for Sex ! Wait til it feels right, and you're both really ready!

  • I think the idea to wait before having sex is to get to know the person. If you've already known him for a year, then I'd say you're ready now.

  • As many as you feel you need, numbers are just numbers. You'll know when it's time

  • They say, 3. That the third date, is the sex date, but, it's just a GUIDELINE

  • 0? Depends on how you feel.

  • Till marriage

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