Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Sometimes when turn down my husband in a night, after asking multiple times, he goes into the bathroom and does it with Jill. It makes me feel betrayed, it's like he's married to his hand.
11 mo
Is a man pleasuring himself basically cheating?
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Wow talk about victim blaming. I should be thankful he isn't cheating?
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18 34Cheating is only being with another physical live human being that you can touch in my opinion.
For one. He's not cheating when he rub one out after you reject him. Sounds like this is a regular thing between you and him. As his significant other you absolutely should be keeping his balls empty.
You are not the victim in this scenario he is. Eventually he's just gonna stop asking for sex. He's either gonna do 1 of 2 things. He's just gonna start taking you whenever he wants or he is going to start screwing someone else that actually likes sex. Then and only then is it cheating. .
So you really need to ask yourself do you want to risk him losing interest and finding someone else to fuck. Or would rather him stay satisfied and you start giving him some pussy whenever wherever he wants. Choice is yours.
He could also just divorce her and screw someone else after as well. At that point its not cheating, its ending one relationship and then starting another afterwards.
@thespacegnome correct he could do that. He also could be holding out hope that his wife might actually start having sex again. I don't know what I'd do in his position. Do you stay or do file for divorce and take the chance she gets the house the car the kids and alimony and child support.
Well me personally I don't want kids, and I only date super horny and affectionate women who share my hobbies and interests, and I certainly won't marry a woman with an income lower than mine, or act as their provider. So I'd never be in that situation to begin with. For him though, I really don't think he should have to do anything about it, she's the one who needs to stop ignoring her husband's needs and then pretending she's a victim. But I'd say divorce if she's going to keep this up.
I agree with you. He's the victim of a frigid self important wife.
Yup. Hopefully she warms up to him sexually, if not the relationship is doomed.
Masterbating is not cheating.
Good grief, No.
Not enough info. How often do you turn him down? Big difference between once in awhile and most of the time.
He needed to cum and you said no. What did you expect
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Don't turn him down, he won't masturbate nearly as much.
Not really. But if you want him to depend on you for his orgasms you may want to talk him into wearing a chastity for you. Thank me later.
i would think if a married woman was more proactive then reactive then a married man wouldn't have to jack off, if a woman uses a dildo while being in a relationship with me I'd be offended
Did you call his hand "Jill"?, Guessing that makes you Jack (should really be the other way around.)
It is abit weird he preferring masturbation over sex, how do you know he's masturbating in the bathroom?
But no it's not cheating, how do you know he's not withholding sex maybe because he's mad at you for something.
Could be that he's turning you down because you prob turn him down so you know how it feels.
No this is normal.
You're out of your mind
After reading through the postings, you may want to asked yourself what is the rational for turning down any sex with your spouse? If tired, have fun earlier in the evening, for example. What would you do if he turned you down?
There is nothing wrong because he is touching himself not anybody else
You should had married to someone that you will rather say yes, every time he asked for sex.
Yes, be thankful he isn't cheating.
Masterbation is not cheating... be lucky that's all he is doing when you shut him down.. a lot of other people men and women will go elsewhere to get it
U mentioned victim blaming, I don’t think he’s a victim, just one of those things, don’t be so hard on yourself.
wrong addiction, you are not doing enough, this is two string reasons.