Is anyone here homophobic?

[Anonymous]

No judging, I'm just curious as to why you are?

[Theguyoverthere]

I don't feel I really do. I've technically experimented with 2-3 men in the past and it wasn't for me. They don't do anything that I'd react differently to a girl with. When I messed around it was a long time ago. Outside of that I've only really had 1 awkward moment with someone who I only suspected was gay but I can't confirm it. He approached me in the gym with the weirdest vibes wanting to shake my hand. I swear he fit all the stereotypes but it wasn't a big deal. When in a public place there's never any worry especially.

I find it funny when a guy finds out someone is gay and goes freakishly nuts with the "Well... don't hit on me!" attitude like a homosexual automatically finds all men attractive. It's like they don't realize they have preferences too. Ironically the people with such an attitude tend to not even be attractive themselves.

The only thing I do wish homosexuals/bisexuals would stop doing is messaging me when I use craigslist trying to suck my dick. They have deliberately tried to contact me endlessly ignoring my ad that deliberately states that I don't want them to message me. It's a 100% heterosexual ad. Some have even sent me dick pics stating they're male... like I couldn't figure that out! But they're probably just seeing the photos and ignoring the texts of the ad anyway and spamming away which I'm sure many heterosexual guys are doing with girls who use online dating who state not to message them for a hook up.

[CptAwful]

Not at all. I realise that my sexuality as a straight guy has no baring on what is and is not acceptable. Other consenting adults can do whatever the fuck they please.

I noticed a few answers with a sentiment like 'Is it homophobic to be turned off by gays?'. I just want to weight in there -
No. As a straight person, you are totally allowed, and expected, to find the idea of 2 same sex people kissing, or more, gross. Of course you find it gross, idiot, you're straight and thus, not supposed to like it. It only becomes homophobia when you decide that your status as a straight gives you reason to try to stop same sex couples from doing their thing when it's non of your business.

As for guys who are scared of gays flirting with them. Oh, boo hoo. Someone might, on occasion find you handsome. Poor you.
Besides, as a straight guy, do you have the overwhelming urge to just pounce on every girl you see and start humping wildly? No? That's what I thought. Then what's the issue with a gay guy being around you?
Man, if I had a gay workmate or whatever, and he thought I had a nice butt, I'd be flattered. :P

[CptAwful]

Hooray! Most helpful! It's because I'm so handsome.

[Asker]

I thought you did a great explanation :D

[daniel_honey_boy]

Yup, ur answer was cool. ^ _ ^ Well-deserved MHO.

[CherryCoke89]

Could you be any more of a douchebag. QA, you obviously chose this as ba because it was the "answer you were looking for", he most likely agreed with your beliefs

[ColourExplosion]

>Could you be any more of a douchebag. QA, you obviously chose this as ba because it was the "answer you were looking for" >This. Love this biased hypocrisy.

[CptAwful]

@CherryCoke89 @ColourExplosion I could try. How could I increase my level of douchebaggery? Advice welcome. As for picking MH for giving the answer wanted? Yeah, I quite agree. I do see a lot of that on here. While this Asker is hardly a unique case, I do hope MH wasn't simply given because I agree with her, but because my answer genuinely was the most interesting. I answered the question, and gave an informed retort to the general sentiments of other answers. It's not like I just posted 'Yer fuk all dem queerophobs. Intulurant biggots go fukc urselvs!!1' No, I gave a legit response. What do you want? A cookie for being a homophobe?

[YouAholic]

I think it's homophobic if you're grossed out by two same-sexed people kissing

[CptAwful]

@YouAholic I disagree. I don't expect gay people think much of straight people kissing.

[YouAholic]

Think much of and being disgusted by are different things

[CptAwful]

@YouAholic I'm not going to play word games with you. You knew what I meant.

[Asker]

Yes, we gay people are also disgusted by straight people sex/kissing

[YouAholic]

That's just as bad. Why would you be that? That's just stupid

[Asker]

do you like watching two girls fucking or two guys?

[Asker]

its just as stupid if you're straight and can't stand two guys or two girls kissing

[Anonymous]

I think being homophobic is like being racist.

Most people don't THINK they're homophobic and nobody will admit they're homophobic, but there are a lot of homophobic people out there.

Homophobes are like Donald Sterling or your racist grandmother lol they can say/do things completely 1000% homophobic, but won't know or realize why what they did is wrong

[Asker]

interesting point!

[smokahontas]

I wouldn't say I am "homophobic" because I do not have a fear of homosexuals. I would probably follow into category of "anti gay" however, I don't have a hatred towards gays, I just don't support them whatsoever and if I see two people of the same sex kissing in public, I get grossed out.

[Asker]

oh ok. I would get confused because it was called homo"phobic", like whats so scary?

[ShaeNielson]

It's not a phobia no, it's just used to describe intolerance.

[cipher42]

The etymology of a word DOES NOT equal its meaning. Do you think haemophilia means the love of blood? Besides, if you're actually going by etymology, homophobia would be the fear of the same. So shut up and stop trying to excuse bigotry.

[ThatGuy98]

smokahontas i love you <3

[CommieDearest]

Homophobes don't usually acknowledge their homophobia instead they just make lame excuses and to why society should cater to their delicate sensitivities.

[SandPlanet]

Whis is further evidence on how homphobia and racism are the same thing in principle, as racists also don't usually acknowledge their racism.

[WhiteSteve]

Shit, I won't even drink pink lemonade.

Kidding, I love the gays.

[Asker]

hahaha!

[Gemstone2411]

There is no such thing as homophobia. Phobia stands for an extreme or an irrational fear over an aversion of something. They aren't afraid of gays, they just don't accept them.

[psychobarbiex]

Dayyum homosexuals..

But no I love the gays. My sisters a lesbian and my uncle is gay.

[Asker]

Awesome! When did your sister come out?

[psychobarbiex]

She came out about 7 years ago. She's been with a her current gf for 3 years, and that girl is like family. When they first got together my mom said it was an abomination but now looks at her gf as her like own kid and said shed be proud to go to their wedding People change. Love changes people, even if its not your own. Its something relatable and beautiful that brings us together. All being gay is, is who you love. Homophobia is about hate so to be homophobic is heartless

[itsallover]

Not in the slightest.

[SandPlanet]

I'm homohobiaphobic.

[Asker]

nice!

[CuddlesWillDie]

I used to be like, a decade ago but it was common in the school I was in at the time. Most of them are good people, I just don't like the sexually aggressive ones or the heterophobic ones (Yes, it is a very real thing these days, gays hating straight people) I can't help it, I love the big bouncy boobies, gays gotta suck it up lol

[Asker]

Oh yeah, well nice for changing your view! It is sort of strange being heterophobic haha, but I suppose it's a way of making fun of homophobes or something? I am not really clear on why a gay person would hate straight people since there probably are a lot in their life

[CuddlesWillDie]

Well straights and gays will be at war with each other as long as they both continue to go about their lives not fully understanding each other, its just human nature to hate/fear the unknown. One time I walked passed a gay club and one of them shouted something obnoxious at me because I was wearing a white shirt and nice shoes, I said to him "What is wrong with you man? Why you hate me because im dressed manly? Hating straight people makes you just as bad as those who hate you for being gay" There's always massive debate on this subject i've noticed lol. Well I have to accept gays anyway because my brother is bisexual and if I began hating my own brother over something he can't help that would be immoral and make me a traitor lol. Im introverted and my bro still likes me (Most people around here are the opposite)

[AJElectric]

I just don't want to be hit on by dudes, thats all.

[AJElectric]

Wow i just got the most vote downs ever, on any comment i have ever made.

[Asker]

hahaha yeah you got quite a few

[AJElectric]

I guess there are some gay people out there that want to hit on me.

[Asker]

gay people don't usually hit on straight guys.

[AJElectric]

Oh yes they do.

[Asker]

and what is the harm if they do? Hmmm? Does it hurt your masculinity?

[AJElectric]

Makes me feel uncomfortable.

[AJElectric]

I usually shy as it is. Plus i don't do good at rejecting people. So i just there looking for an exit strategy

[chocolatedragon]

I don't understand homophobes really. Like why get so worked up over someone else's lifestyle?
I never made any gay friends, mostly because there weren't a lot in my school lol, but I couldn't care less about their orieintation lol. Who am I to dictate what they're allowed to be attracted to or not lol?

My father is super homophobic and my mom is somewhat tolerant. I'm just indifferent to it all lol.

[been_waiting]

Homophobes don't admit it
they just say homosexuality is unnatural and wrong.

[Asker]

which is kind of the definition of a homophobe isn't it?

[been_waiting]

I guess but they don't call themselves that

[zombiebabe]

nope at all!!! i respect the sexual orientation of anyone

[KBob93]

Nah, my mom is pro-gay.

[JackKerouac77]

I hate homo sapiens and prefer homo erectus.

Unfortunately, evolution has decided for me which species lives and dies.

DAMN YOU, MOTHER EARTH!!!

[Asker]

hahaha!

[CommieKiller]

Nope. Gay guys are easy to defend against.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kV1j2VYi7ho

[Asker]

I love that movie! Hahaha

[Zango91]

I'm not homophobic. I'm just straight.

[Asker]

there's a large difference with that, haha. You can be gay and homophobic because you're scared to face your feelings, too. Just because someone is straight doesn't mean they will be homophobic of course!

[Zango91]

Yes. Exactly. I'm not gay. But I don't hate gays. I respect their sexual preference. So I'm not homophobic.

[Eugene]

Term "homophobia" is made up to look homosexual community less bad (and to actually blame those who don't accept them) and incorrect (something that majority due to lack of education don't care about).

"Phobia" stands for fear. A good example is arachnophobia (a fear of spiders): a person can freak out and gets scared easily as soon as he sees the spider. Or hemophobia (fear of blood): a person can faint as soon as he sees blood out of fear.

Now those people who are wrongly called by this badly made up term "homophobic" do not posses fear towards homosexuals. They are disgusted by homosexuality and that is completely different feeling than fear. "Disgust" and "fear" and 2 very different things.

So please, stop using this word.

[Asker]

pho·bi·a ˈfōbēə/Submit noun an extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something. "he had a phobia about being under water" synonyms: fear, irrational fear, obsessive fear, dread, horror, terror, hatred, loathing, disgust, detestation, aversion, antipathy, revulsion, repulsion it can also mean that you are disgusted by it, so I will continue using that word :)

[Eugene]

Using the same logic if you're disgusted by olives, people can start calling you "olivephobic". Main definition is "fear", rest are synonyms. Synonyms are not always the same thing, such as "kind" and "good" are close, yet still different.

[Asker]

Alrighty-o

[cipher42]

So then do you think haemophilia means the love of blood?

[cipher42]

And by the way, every word was made up by someone at some point. So shut the hell up and stop trying to excuse your bigotry. Because actually, most people who are educated would recognize that the meaning of words is not determined purely by etymology. If it were, the English language would be significantly different.

[ColourExplosion]

shots fired #rekt by logic. Downvoted because truth hurts, I'm loving it

[Asker]

I already said "alrighty-o" as in whatever. Go away

[Eugene]

@cipher42 Whoa, you sound angry.

[cipher42]

Yes, I'm irritated. I'm irritated because I am sick and tired of people using that idiotic definition. And good job not countering the argument.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 What to counter? I know my opinion is right at the end of the day, so why would I bother getting into demagoguery?

[cipher42]

You know, that whole thing where according to the dictionary, you're wrong? And you never answered my question about what you think hemophilia means.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 Hemophilia, sometimes called "A Royal Disease" derives from "blood" and "affection". It received such name due to fact that in a past royal family member would marry each other (so they wouldn't have to marry someone who's not from the royal bloodline), basically "affection of the same blood" (incest). "Philia" in it does not represent love towards blood in a direct sense, but rather the cause of this disease. If you would bother to do a little bit of research, you wouldn't be asking this question. Consider this as a reference towards what I said earlier about education. This is a legitimate answer?

[cipher42]

Still not answering the whole problem where the actual thing that we use to determine a word's meaning is disagreeing with you on the meaning of a word. As for the hemophilia comparison: Good job, you know how to use google. But anyhow, basically the word has the roots it does because the disease it names in some cases originated from people loving others who shared their blood. How exactly does that make the word more accurately representative of what it means than "homophobia", which is so named due to an assumed motivation for anti-homosexual discrimination being fear? Basically, "hemophilia" comes from the disease often appearing due to inbreeding, though that isn't always the case. "Homophobia" comes from anti-homosexual discrimination often appearing due to fear of homosexuals, though that also isn't always the case. So why do you think "hemophilia" means what it does, but deny that "homophobia" means what it really does?

[cipher42]

Do you think American football is a game where people kick spheres? Do you think any words where the meaning has changed must retain their original meaning? Also, on something you said earlier. You asked why you should bother getting into demagoguery. You realize that by the way you define words, a demagogue would be a popular leader, or at least one who guides or leads the people.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 I'm so lost in your words that I don't even understand right now what do you call "the problem" to be honest. Anyway, term "homophobia" was created by homos from mostly English-speaking countries that just decided to adopt Greek words to make it sound more "scientific" disregarding the fact that ancient Greek is very different from modern English, but who cares? The trend has started and that all that matters. Basically a "homophobic" would literally mean "fear of the same", which at some point (but not direct) can be understood as a "fear of same gender". None of us fears our own gender. None of us fears those who has sexual relations with same gender. This term is broken and incorrect. It's just made up by homosexuals to try to "defend" themselves, like "there's no problem with us: there's a problem with those who dislike us: they are at some point sick people!". Since majority are too lazy to do a research, they just take it plus liberal media spreads it like a virus.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 And you're one quite good demagogue by the way. You're given answers, yet you still try to bring something irrelevant into the dialogue in attempt to confuse your opponent disregarding the circumstances (such as 2 different languages). If you're indeed under 18, I'm impressed: you have some nice skills in showering people with bullshit in order to confuse them :) This is a genuine compliment. Anyway, insofar I've said everything I had to say about the subject and there's nothing left to discuss and you know that you lost this one. If you're interested into discussing why American football is called American football, you can create a separate question, but to the original question it has no real connection. Good evening.

[cipher42]

Perhaps your not following is an issue with your reading, not my writing. Essentially, if you think "hemophilia" means what the dictionary says it does, you should think the same about "homophobia". And by the way, the term "homophobia" was actually coined by the psychologist George Weinberg, who was heterosexual as far as anyone knows. Talk about lack of education, huh? And I am quite well aware what the root words of homophobia suggest it would mean. But guess what? The root words of a word alone don't determine its meaning. And if you think otherwise, you need to research English a bit better. And thank you. Since you think root words determine definitions, you're saying I'm a good leader of people. So thanks for that. Either you do believe the etymology of a word determines its definition or you don't. You can't have it both ways just because you want an excuse for your bigotry.

[cipher42]

I don't see how exactly I've lost the argument. Being as every dictionary I've ever seen disagrees with you, and dictionaries ARE what we use to determine meaning of a word, I rather think I have the stronger argument. And by the way, you never did answer me on whether you thought that if a word's meaning had changed over time, you would think that the original meaning only would be correct. Stop using evasion.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 This is getting annoying. I've explained why term "homophobic" is wrong and shouldn't be used and I've explained the reason why "homophilia" is called like this. George Weinberg was a pro-homosexual activist even though allegedly he was straight. Pretty much full of shit, just like any other liberal. I'm not saying you're a good leader: I said you're good at confusing people with irrelevant bullshit during conversation, that doesn't defines leadership though. I hope you're not going to jump into discussion about what leadership is, because, well, you're annoying, honestly. When it comes down to English though, if you haven't figured that out already it's not my native language, so I guess this is the only thing where you're actually right.

[cipher42]

Yeah, and I've explained why homophobia is just as legitimately named as hemophilia. Both are effectively named after things that were believed to be the cause of the affliction they describe. Can I be much clearer? No, you are saying I'm a good leader. Again, if you think root words determine etymology in one case, you must think the same for all cases, or else you are a hypocrite (by your definiton: a stage actor or pretender). Look, if every decent dictionary disagrees with you on the meaning of a word, then you're wrong. It shouldn't even take me arguing with you to make that clear. You have yourself as a source. I have the books that were written for precisely this purpose. So, I'm sorry, but you are undeniably wrong in this matter. And if you want to quit arguing, fine by me. You quite obviously have no idea how to understand when you're wrong, and being as you are literally disagreeing with the dictionary on word meanings, I don't think anyone could change your mind.

[Eugene]

@cipher42 Honestly, now you're not annoying, but something beyond that. Your explanation was nothing something that we tend to call "lawyers talk": as much terminology as possible while making little to no sense in order to confuse another person. I rely on common sense (and it's my source), you rely on heck knows what. Liberal books/dictionaries that are spread in USA because everything else is "politically incorrect"? I want to quit arguing because I believe I answered all the questions in understandable English, while you're making little to no sense to me (or others reading it). A language is given for people to understand each other, not to confuse each other. And again, in case you can't read in a simple English: I'm not saying you're a good leader. I'm saying you're good at showering people with bullshit in order to confuse them, that's quite different. That can get you a spot in presidents office, but won't make you a good one as you can imagine hopefully.

[Eugene]

nothing but* something

[cipher42]

So then how about you find me a dictionary not written by those damn US liberals, and see what it says? Burden of proof, hon. I have sources, you do not. You are making the claim, you back it up. With reliable sources. And I can read simple English. You apparently cannot. My point is, you insist that "homophobe" means fear of homosexuals or fear of the same because that's what the roots imply. And I am saying that if you insist on defining words by their origins, then a demagogue is a good leader.

[atomique]

I am not. A bit ignorant on their issues but I am learning.

[Asker]

congrats for trying to learn :)

[KhrushBrownies]

I'm not homophobic since I have no fear from homosexuals, I feel hatred towards them nor discriminate against them.. But I don't like the sight of two men kissing.

[Asker]

well I'm pretty sure a gay guy wouldn't like the sight of two women kissing! That's totally acceptable

[Shyguy_1988]

No I am not if I know someone is gay. But gay couples doing PDA can make me uncomfortable honestly. Just being completely honest, and knowing this site I will catch hell for that but hey just looks so unnatural to me it makes me uncomfortable, can't help it.

[QueenofSilentFoxes]

At least you had the balls to be honest!

[Downanddepressed]

I am not homophobic, but I do not believe in the lifestyle

[ShaeNielson]

But it's not a lifestyle. It's like a red haired girl; she doesn't decide to be born with red hair. She can color it, but it will always be red. It's the same.

[Downanddepressed]

But she chooses to act upon it. She can have "feelings" towards the same sex, but acting upon those feelings is a different matter. Regardless, it is a sin.

[ShaeNielson]

It's not a sin. Maybe it is in your religion, but that book was written, I don't know how many years ago. So it's clearly not up to date, and you can't act as if it is. Things have changed, that book doesn't mean anything no more. A homosexual can never be truly happy, in a straight relationship. That would be the same, as if someone forced you to marry a man. If you wan't them never to act upon their feelings, then you condemn then to a life alone. Is that okay? No it's fucking not.

[Downanddepressed]

Time does not dictate whether God's word is still valid or not. Time is just time.

[KBob93]

So is killing yourself... I'm sorry I had to.

[Downanddepressed]

Yeah, I will face the wrath of that

[ThatGuy98]

Completely agree with you bro, and fyi, a lot of people are not born gay, they chose that lifestyle when they are older.

[Lelialia]

Nope not at all