Is it weird to ask him to get tested before we have any type of sex?

[Anonymous]

Like for example oral sex without condom can still give you STD’s

[Lliam]

It's not weird at all. It's wise. It should be standard practice.

Simply ask if he would be willing to go with you to get the both of you tested. If he protests, he's doesn't care about you.

I had a girl ask me to do that before she would engage in sex. I willingly agreed. I actually admired that fact that she took care of her body and maintained good health. Plus, it indicated that she didn't go around having sex with just anybody.

I highly recommend that you do this with any new partner. The test is easy and instantaneous.

If you plan to more than just blow jobs, get on the pill.

Don't rely on condoms. They aren't 100% effective and they detract from the sexual experience. They prevent either of you from feeling skin against skin. Condom are lame.
If you are assured that your partner is clean, you can experience unbridled sex without concern.

[Asker]

I am definitely planning on using B. C. Probably IUD or implant

[Lliam]

The question about exclusivity in your update is a good one. I wouldn't bother asking someone to get tested if I didn't know them well enough to think they wanted to be in an exclusive relationship. I'd want to be as certain of that as possible. Although there is no guarantee, it's possible to assess people fairly accurately. All my relationships with girlfriends were monogamous. I can't be 1000% certain that none never cheated, but I can't be 100% certain that there isn't a lost world in the center of the Earth, either. I knew those girls well enough to be certain who they were.

[TheorionMage]

HOW is preserving YOUR health & wellbeing "weird"?
But be prepared to ALSO get tested for HIS peace-of-mind!

My present wife & myself are BOTH divorcee 're-treads" and we BOTH got tested.
Been absolutely horny & faithful since.

[Asker]

I am definitely going to get tested

[TheorionMage]

You can't 'love' anyone else if you DON'T first pragmatically love YOUURSELF <3 Good for you!

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Absolutely not. Get tested. Your health is more important than his ego.

[MTC29]

No, it's not weird. Normally the risk acquiring an STD through oral sex is quite low, but it is possible if you have sores (say canker sores) or cuts in your mouth. To make it easier for him to agree to be tested, I suggest that you also offer to be tested.

[Asker]

Oh of course both of us getting tested. I read the following on the NHS website: “Oral sex is the stimulation of the genitals using the mouth and tongue. It is one of the ways that sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are most frequently passed on.” The last sentence is the reason why I am careful when it comes to oral sex.

[ChrisMaster69]

Not at all, even virgins should get tested.

it’s amazing how various things can spread

[summiter]

It is not weird at all and good for you for asking for it. If he wants sex or bjs and some great orgasms then why would he not want to be tested? Until then stick with giving him handjobs... guys love them!!!

[slatyb]

No, it's normal. If he thinks it's weird them he's not old enough.

[TadCurious]

It's not weird. It's smart.

[Dargil]

When you are ready for wet intimacy, make a date, get tested at a storefront and later celebrate good results.

[RealMarek]

It’s a great idea. One in five people in the US have an STI.

[GermanGuy87]

no , More people should probably ask.

[es20490446e]

It is unlikely to get infections by oral sex, as most infections that can get passed that way are visible beforehand.

Yet you lose nothing by getting tested. If you asked me to do such thing, I would have no problem as long as you did the same thing.

[Schizoaffective]

You should
When I do they get pissed

[NotSureWhereIStand]

No, it's being safe. If he's against it, is this someone you should be getting into bed with?

[TheFlak38]

the usual shit tests every woman gives her beta bucks white knight. once the man of her irrational standards shows up she fucks him dry, no protection, no tests, no bullshit and even gives birth to his child. Another happy single mother.

[Asker]

You have been hurt by women haven’t you? I have seen your comments before. You are often extremely negative about women with your “white knight” bs. Sure, some women are shitty people just like some guys are shitty people but there are enough decent women and men on this earth. Stop being so negative. Trust me, you are only hurting yourself with all this negativity. No hate by the way 🍀

[TheFlak38]

yeah ok. exactly the reply every woman would give. "who hurt you" and all this dumb castration language. Im not saying that some women are shitty people. I say that ALL women are shitty people. Getting into a relationship means by default getting involved in an endless series of shit tests. And let's not talk about the legal slavery of men known as marriage.

[Asker]

Don’t tar with the same brush. There is no such thing as ‘all women are ….’ because we are all different. You are just too hurt, angry and even toxic to see it. And don’t worry with that attitude you will never be in a relationship.

[TheFlak38]

Yeah let me know better if I'll be in a relationship you dumb bitch. If that's what I wanted I would have turned myself into a pussy-whipped slave long ago and kiss my career goodbye.

[Asker]

You won’t be

[joeldalton]

Are you going to get tested, too?

[Asker]

Yes of course

[joeldalton]

I’d be taken aback, tbh. But some guys put up with that stuff.

[Asker]

You wouldn’t put up with it?

[joeldalton]

Nope.

[Asker]

Why? Not interested in something more serious?

[joeldalton]

Not interested in having to prove I'm clean to anyone.

[Twalli]

Not unless he's a virgin. If he's a virgin he's clean

[ThatNoUVAtYourEyes]

No. Quite smart in fact

[FamilyGuy2020]

It is not weird to be tested for STD'S During a Pandemic

[Luckycharms12]

Nothing wrong with that

[Guardian45]

NOT weird or prudish. It's SMART!

[dragoblack]

Its not weird at all and honestly should be normalize, but people are impatient and feel offended like they were accused of having an STD or STI

[Starman5]

If there is no marriage, it is good to have prior knowledge of sexual health when having sex with someone. so it would be correct to ask the partner for a test

[jogor20]

No, if he has a lot of sex partners.

[MasterKS]

its smartness!

[Anonymous]

No, with over 53% of adults in America with an STD; it would be dumb not to get tested.

[Opinion Owner]

Assume nothing. You need to discuss this or you are inviting problems

[Anonymous]

Very prudent and highly recommended. He should thank you since you will also be getting tested for his peace of mind.

[Opinion Owner]

Your other question: Quite the opposite. I would think asking me to get tested indicates that you are sensible and intelligent. It says nothing beyond that. You might be hinting at that but equally you might be taking sensible precaution to enable you to continue enjoying the company of multiple partners.

[Anonymous]

Not really but most guys probably won’t want to just because of the hassle of getting it done

[Asker]

I don’t understand why guys think it is a hassle when all you have to do is pee in a cup

[Opinion Owner]

That’s not how it works because you need to get a blood test and they don’t do a urine test for stds

[Opinion Owner]

I had a full panel blood test done to make sure I didn’t have any STDs and it was two vials of blood and no urine test involved for that , luckily I didn’t have any STDs

[Asker]

In my country it is a urine test

[Opinion Owner]

Not very extensive with a urine test you won’t be able to find out enough things through just urine

[Opinion Owner]

It does indirectly state that you guys are exclusive because if he is having sex somewhere else then what if they have an std then he get it even though he got tested for you so hopefully he is loyal

[Anonymous]

If you're too shy to tell him to wear a condom or to get tested you're not ready for sex!
NEVER gamble your (sexual) health on an orgasm. It's not worth it!