Is jerking off to porn considered cheating?

[coachTanthony]

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't think it's cheating... UNLESS, jerking off or flicking the bean to strangers when someone has some free time where the other partner can't be involved is part of the agreement to be cheated. Cheating is just not playing by the rules of the game... a basic understanding.

Now I hear that a lot of fat non-showered chicks are complaining their man jerks it all day to chicks on the computer while she's probably eating more food. Then complain because the dude can't even get hard for her. I say... that's the chick's fault. She has him trapped in a relationshit and decided to just get fat and start to smell bad. He's trapped like a guy in jail so you can't blame the guy for bopping the weasel and pulling on his hotdog every chance he gets to be alone. I'll put it like this, I jerk off all day... I don't have an issue getting a boner for some sex. BUT... I have been with a chick where... I just wasn't hard for that bullshit. I had more fun bopping the weasel and pulling on my hotdog to midgets online.

[Anonymous]

No I wouldn’t consider it “cheating”.

However it can be indicative of much bigger problem. I personally have struggled with porn for over 20 years now. When I was younger I thought it was no big deal. I thought I would one day “grow out of it”. Instead I became dependent on it and without a doubt it has impacted my brain chemistry and relationships.

One thing I’ve noticed about porn is that you are never satisfied. What turned me on 10 years ago didn’t turn me on 5 years ago. What turned me on 5 years ago doesn’t turn me on 2 years ago. What turned me on 2 years ago doesn’t turn me on 6 months ago. What turned me on 6 months ago doesn’t turn me on today.

You are constantly looking for a new stimulus. A new image, video, etc. And what you are looking at is almost impossible to replicate in real life. For example I only look at lesbian porn Very rare to see that in real life (for free) at my age. Even when I was younger it was rare

I was lucky to have an old friends with benefits visit me on my bday a few days ago. We had sex but I couldn’t finish. Part of the problem is she really isn’t that attractive. But the other problem is without a doubt porn.

I really want to quit this for good. It’s been 5 days. But it’s so hard.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Unless it's an addiction or they are preferencing it over the real thing than no.

It can on one hand be a good outlet to get steam out, it can also perpetuate unrealistic comparisons and expectations on your partner particularly if one partner is more 'pushy' about their sexual needs than the other.

[erandal]

I really hope not or I'm a serial cheater !!

[Still-alive]

hehe excellent

[vj0090]

What an answer.. Haha

[Guy__]

How is that excellent, is potential cheating praiseworthy?

[Andres77]

@erandal You hussy! 😉

[Angela_S]

I would say not. My b/f isn't into porn as such, but does get turned-on by certain actresses, singers in pop videos etc, and will jerk off in front of the TV to them sometimes. I guess that's kind of the same question?

He has a WAY higher sex drive than me, and even though we have great sex many times a week, he still needs to get off in addition to that. Sometimes I'll give him a hand job. It takes minutes, I don't have to be in the mood at all. But other times he'll sort himself out, and we kind of have a "jokey" rule in our house... if he's got a hard-on because of someone else other than me, then it's up to HIM to sort it out himself. So that's what he does. Far from thinking its cheating, I find it quite funny, particularly when he's right in the "zone" whacking off, and seemingly unable, in any other respect, to function normally as a human being till he's finished. lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Of course not.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Only if they are against it and would you rather do it with them... like those guys that would rather jerk off to porn than do me, yeah I thought they were cheating.

[shanshu]

I think it depends really, no guy would pass up sex with his partner to jerk off to porn. I think the only exception they would jerk off to porn is if she isn't around, she's not in the mood a lot or he wants to do something that their partner doesn't want to do like a fetish of some kind so they look and jerk of to the fantasy on the porn site like anal or Dom/sub for example

[Aerissa_Jade]

@shanshu I've literally been naked on the bed, masturbating and saying come here and he says no, the computer and porn is better.

[shanshu]

I still wouldn't call it cheating but this is a concern that needs to be addressed, you need to find the route of why he won't be intimate with you and rather jerk to porn instead. You need to talk about it

[Aerissa_Jade]

@shanshu This was an ex, not a current... and when I did he said, jerking was easier. Too much work to do foreplay and have sex, is what he said.

[shanshu]

Yeah sounded like he just wanted to bang and cum without any effort involved

[Aerissa_Jade]

@shanshu and I'm totally, don't care about porn... don't do nothing but I'm all for 3D porn... like live action. So if a couple is doing stuff in a room, I'd say grab a seat and lets watch... oh and if there is a crowd, grab him and say, lets do it and let them watch.

[shanshu]

Well hope your new partner or future partner is more appreciative with you physically

[Andres77]

@aerissa_jade Who the hell would have done that? That's just mean.

[Aerissa_Jade]

@Andres77 Jerk off addicts who think actual sex is too much work I guess.

[Andres77]

And that’s how the term “lazy fuck” was born

[Guy13]

Jerking off to another woman, whether it be in person or video, is cheating. Turn your phone off and beat off Legally. Do Not Pass Go.. Do Not Collect 200.00

GO TO JAIL CARD... where you can write the song entitled, "Just Me And My Hand"

[Jakelyr]

it depends, you're going to have to ask your partner. most people seem pretty alright with it, but i know there are those who can't help feeling like it's wrong.

it might seem silly to most of us and they may even think it's silly too, but that doesn't mean they can push away that feeling of betrayal.

[19magic]

While I don't class it as cheating, I mean I'm not going to stop if it impacts any of our together time than I think a week or two off is in order

[RobT312]

I don’t consider masturbation cheating ( with or without porn )

[hhadeshatesme]

No it’s not and people who claim it is are next level insecure. Is he suppose to also cover his eyes when a sex scene happens in a movie/show. The only scenario that validates not wanting your partner watching porn is if he’s leaning toward addicted and it’s negatively impacting your sex life but if you reach that point just throw the whole relationship out.

[Berethor]

It's just a movie, it not cheating, just like watching romance movies is not cheating.

[RagnarRedbeard]

I don’t know, but when you think about it jerking off is kind of gay. You’re getting a handjob from a man, while giving a man a handjob.

[NathanDavis]

I've never cared if a girlfriend watches porn (not like they all did it or did it a lot, but still...)

unless it were to be something really weird... lol, I would have other concerns but I would not consider it cheating

[Bug99]

It definitely is not cheating

[NathanDavis]

@Bug99 everyone has a different approach to it, so it is about perspective if a person sees it wrong for their partner to do it, then the partner should not do it because, why would you want to make them feel bad? that is being careless personally, I don't mind it... but I am still caring of others and their own feelings

[trumpets310]

No, but you also shouldn't hide that you watch porn from your partner. As long as you're honest then it's fine

[Kacey811980]

@coachtanthony not at all I do it all the time

[bananathunder]

fuck yeah... same here :P

[Kacey811980]

@bananathunder my fiance and I watch it together all the time when she fucks me

[bananathunder]

nice! that's hot af

[Kacey811980]

@bananathunder we both are also bi sexual very open relationship

[bananathunder]

sounds like you guys know what you like

[Kacey811980]

@bananathunder sure do I have fucked plenty of guys in my time

[bananathunder]

nice! no shame in that... get it girl!

[Kacey811980]

@bananathunder thank you and yeah my point was if I didn't by now I should.💖 I am also a huge cum addict

[bananathunder]

haha I love it... message me if you ever want to chat

[Kacey811980]

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[bananathunder]

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[Kacey811980]

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[Finchie40]

Only if you have a good sex life with your partner , if your sex life sucks with her then no it’s not cheating and you just means you have a higher sex drive than her which could lead to resentments, in a relationship watching porn shouldn’t be something you really need to do, if you love your partner and have great sex life with her then resorting to porn can be disrespectful to your partner If I have to resort to masturbating and porn a lot while in a relationship then that tells me that I am not being fulfilled in my relationship and it’s probably best to move on and find someone that loves sex as much as you do. Me personally would focus on making porn with my partner over watching someone else getting off

[Chazmatazz269]

Hail naw!
If you’re with someone who feels that way, do both of you a favor and dump the psycho! Ell oh ell!

[Msputiton]

Lmao naw.

I rather he please himself when I'm not around instead of him finding another person to do it.

[AviatorTom]

Most guys say No, it's not cheating, yet I've known some women who say it is.

[coachTanthony]

Me too

[JDavid25]

Nah, I wouldn't say it's cheating, but I wouldn't see the point unless either party is holding out.. I personally rather not watch p0rn at all..

[HighValue]

No. It is the same as watching a sex scene in a movie. there is no interaction between them and the other person. It is observational, not interactive.

Sexting with someone while in a relationship is cheating, if a stripper grinds on someone they are cheating on their SO if they have one and the person being grinded on is cheating too if they have an SO. There is interaction on those situations. Flirting with someone to get free food or drinks while in a relationship is cheating too.

[leighbee]

No it isn't. My boyfriend had a really bad porn addiction at one point but it is not cheating. I would class cheating if they send nudes and sext with anyone who is not the partner unless they are in an open relationship but everyone is different