My 13 year old cousin is sexually active?

Question

She told me not to tell her mum but I'm not sure, she is so young should I tell her mum or what should I tell her? What age did you first have sex?

MudRucker · Accepted Answer

I got my my blowjob at 14. Sex at 15.

As four your 13 year old cousin. It seems she trusts you so don't blow that.

Make sure she has access to condoms and emphasis the need to use them. Talk to her about the guy or guys she is doing it with. Tell her not to let them use her sexually. Tell her it is illegal for guys over a certain age to fuck her.

After she is comfortable talking to you. Tell her you think it is a good idea for her to talk to her mother. Maybe her mother would want to take the extra step and get her on birth control.

But please don't outright tell her mother unless she is being reckless or in danger.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

You need to tell her she needs to talk to her mother, if not then you must.

the other bit is, someone needs to talk to her about risk with sex, health, pregnancy etc.

hopefully everyone can behave like adults about it and not shame her.

Not shaming her over this is really important, that can have real life changing impact.

The Genie is out of the bottle, it ain’t going back in.

The only provision I would make to the above, is if her parents are abusive, ultra religious etc and her mental and physical well being is at risk.

Wildflower8 · Accepted Answer

Talk to her to stop but she probably won't coz once you start that thing its hard to stop. Best solution is to convince her to tell her mom. Or tell the mom and find a way for the mom to have tangible proof that she's sexually active to confront her with so that you're covered. As long you guys dnt make it awkward or be too hard on her she will be fine. She seems like a good kid anyway

Dazed0N0Confused · Accepted Answer

Your cousin is putting a lot of faith in you and you want to go and ruin it by telling your mother? She'll never come back to you for advice again, she'll go to people that are friends of hers, older kids, friends parents, but not you nor other family. That's a lot of trust to just throw to the wayside.

Screenwriter · Answer

I'd tell her mother in a heartbeat. That girl is asking to get pregnant and is so young she's not even considering this. Also, there's STDs.

ushagomez · Answer

It depends a bit on what she is doing I guess. Make sure she understands risks and contraception of course.

EmmaMary · Answer

You need to bring this to the attention of her mother immediately.

Bricealan · Answer

A first cousin had me feeling her asshole when I was probably 5 and she was probably 8 or 9

Dargil · Answer

Cunnilingus, giving, 15. Pussy-lip slide ("outercourse") 18 Intercourse 20.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would sit down and have a talk with her, possibly get her on some type of birth control there are Depo Shots she could go on, she needs to realize that the pull method can still get a girl or woman pregnant

Jenngirl00 · Answer

I lost mine at 15, but I had friends who started at 12

AvacodosRAwesome · Answer

Tell her mom. Asap

Wise4myage · Answer

Telling her mother is the right thing to do. Or perhaps you could tell your mother and get her opinion.

moviedude714 · Answer

I'm jealous of her

swettannie · Answer

is she in danger? is she happy with that?

dray995 · Answer

Unless she’s pregnant or was raped, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

Twalli · Answer

Don't tell her mom, just make sure she uses protection

FireFox001 · Answer

I started when I was 14 when I started. The question is whether you really want to get involved or not...

darkteddy · Answer

My should know at some point. The girl trusted you enough to tell you so some part of her is seeking help. She's probably afraid to tell her mom but wanted to tell someone she trusts. She eventually should let her mom know. I'd say first thing is to make sure she's aware and practicing safe sex and to understand consent. Then let her know that she has to tell her mom. Her mom shouldn't find out she's been having sex and that you knew and didn't tell her earlier. I started at 14 but I paid attention in sex ed. I told my mom weeks after, she did the talk out of obligation, but never bothered me about it cause she knew I was wasn't doing risky stuff.