My daughter wore this to a date. every one telling me she sexually active with this boy y'all think thats true?

[Anonymous]

[ChrisMaster69]

Couple of things, great skills in posting her on to another social media platform for even more people to perv over,

the other bit is her age?

then how many talks with her have you had about the following:

Sexuality - different types, attraction to same sex etc.
sex - everything from masturbation, to toys, to consent etc,
sexual health
birth control options - is she on it,
what guys will say to get in her pants.
what is and is not appropriate behaviour from her
about being adult enough to have communication with you,
about trust and respect,

also why are you as a parent and adult, concerned about what other people have said, enough that you ask the internet rather than sitting your daughter down and asking her,

[Asker]

She 15 Zero :/ And im scared she is and she end up pregnant

[ChrisMaster69]

Well you need to sit down with her and discuss all of that stuff. Mine is 14 and has had that talk and more, They are young adults give them factual information. It often saves them from making bad choices

[Asker]

I talk with her for a bit today she given oral :/

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah well Sit her down and start at A and end at Z You need to talk to her about everything, including risks and the good n bad stuff

[pink_and_inlove]

Yes tell her about birth control pills and condoms as well as STDa

[Asker]

I did :/ i feel like a horrible mom.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ asker. This is something that as a parent is embarrassing but we all need to do, They need facts to survive out in the real world. It is just a case of talking through everything and I would honestly just go through everything in one go, rather than try and do it over couple days.

[Explorer91]

If she understands about contraception she probably won’t end up pregnant. My parents told me absolutely nothing about sex and there was no internet as we know it today until I was about 20. So I went into the dating adult world at 18, from being in an all girls school and knew absolutely nothing about being pregnant. I got a boyfriend at 18 and believed and did everything he said to do about contraception. He even told me to get the morning after pill and it was normal so that he didn’t have to wear a condom. Seriously have a talk with your daughter about proper contraception and she will be fine. Most girls are unaware at 16-20 about safe sex,

[ChrisMaster69]

@Explorer91 yeah it’s shocking how little some parents tell their kids, and then get all grr etc when something happens

[Explorer91]

@chrismaster69 I had the type of parents who thought they were the best parents ever for providing financially but had absolutely no concept of how to actually parent emotionally and give a child what they need to be able to grasp the reality of the world. They taught me nothing practical lol.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Explorer91 sorry to hear, sort of the opposite to me and my ex then lol. Our daughter likely knows tooo much lol But I am a great believer in young adults being given as much factual information as they can

[Explorer91]

Well especially since there is the internet these days, can’t really hide adult things from children like you could back in days

[ChrisMaster69]

@Explorer91 there is that although I would cringe if GaG was used. Some of the levels of nativity and non factual stuff adults on here come out with

[pink_and_inlove]

@Explorer91 yes before my boyfriend I thought that condoms were enough and I didn’t know about birth control my mom claimed that she explained it to me but she didn’t

[ChrisMaster69]

Thank you for SO AI

[Explorer91]

I have no idea what SO AI is. Making me feel old. @chrismaster69

[ChrisMaster69]

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[AmandaYVR]

A "date"? What kind of date? That's a prom dress, isn't it?
That is a very high slit.
How old is she?
There's so much entertainment and gawky media now, girls are looking at so many pictures and supposed ideals of beauty and sexuality. Even toddlers are dressed up sexually and mature now on those stupid pageants.
I don't think this dress means she's having sex. But this is not a regular date outfit, that's for sure.
You should talk to her about it, and birth control, and STDs, and do not let her shut you down or walk away. She's either doing it, or right on the cusp. You're the parent, she's the child, and you need to be a parent here. She can wear the dress (which you bought for her, I presume?), but the pregnancy talk has to be happen. Like, tonight.

[Asker]

She 15 and the dress was bought for her to wear at a 15 she danced at.

[AmandaYVR]

Hmm. I think it's just media's influence. Girls might dress casually generally, but they also like to really glam it up sometimes. Might mean nothing. Maybe next time you should veto the slit being that high though? I strongly disagree with some of the other users who say your daughter is none of your business. That's complete crap.

[Asker]

Ill watch her a little closer or try to :/ its just hard to im a single mom and i work two jobs so its rare for me to spend gime with her

[AmandaYVR]

I'm X Generation and we didn't have helicopter parents so much like there is today. It'll be ok. Just try to make the time you do have with her count and have open communication. She's very pretty. Pretty soon, when she reaches the legal age, some adult guys are also going to be all over her like flies.

[Asker]

I hope not :/

[AmandaYVR]

Pretty sure they're some of the guys that think her sex life is none of your business.

[joeshi]

I honestly hate how people judge younger women on what they are wearing. I’m sorry but she is going to a 15 party! She’s young! Of course she wants to look attractive for that one boy she might like! Doesn’t mean she is having sex just because she knows how to take care of herself 🤷🏽‍♀️. I don't know if it’s a culture thing but I’m Latina and this is nothing compared to the stuff I’ve seen. And with kids online. I think this girl played modest but hottest. She doesn’t have a short dress, she doesn’t have boobies hanging out. She is covered with a slit and if i had a daughter i would be happy if she dressed classy like yours.

[joeshi]

As a mother i can understand why i would be worried letting my daughter go out like this.. but i think you need to handle problems at the source and not use other things like this dress when there is an actual underlying meaning to this. You think your daughter is sexually active, and i think you should have that conversation before it feels too late.

[ZackBan]

Come on you're 30 to 35 that means you were her age in the early 2000's you tell me does this prove anything? I doubt it does.
She could be sexually active and she could not be but I can tell you one thing is for sure whoever she's seeing wants it there is simply no way he doesn't.

But normally girls open up to their mothers about these things because when they first happen fear sets in and she has more questions than answers, maybe try to open up the subject with her in a friendly manner she might tell you everything. Or lie to you, but it's worth a shot

[DKierrvey]

What does her dress have to do with her being sexually active? This just feels like you’re slut-shaming your daughter and thats kind of weird. Maybe instead of asking a bunch of random people on the internet, just ask your daughter? If you play it cool maybe she’ll be honest with you.

[TrulyPink28]

Her makeup alone says it all. The dress can be worn by anyone.

[Asker]

Really?

[Explorer91]

Not necessarily. 90 percent of girls 16-22 dress sluttish even when a virgin. It’s how all the other girls dress, it’s not cool at 18 to dress like a modest church girl.

[purplepoppy]

The real question is why she's happy to talk about it to everyone bar her mother.

[scentoflavender]

Well clothes don't tell us about her sexual activeness. You need to sit her down and talk to her. Make sure she's on some form of birth control, and understands there more to sex than just fucking. It may uncomfortable, but you're the parent. That's your job.

[SnakeBoop]

Firstly if she's of legal age, it has nothing to do with you if she is.
Secondly, lets not endorse the whole "dress like this to get this label" shite. Because those same people would then say one leg showing means she was desperate to get raped. Tell them its not of their concern, and that clothing does not correlate to broadcasting sexual activity. AND they should remove their heads out of the gutter trying to tell you if your daughter is sexually active due to clothing. Creeps.

[Asker]

Okay. thanks.

[TheorionMage]

If she isn't... he's GAY!
The dress is modestly 'inspirational' unless she's chosen to go 'commando'!
I'd be running first my fingers... then my tongue... along the INSIDE of her thigh
and making her 'wet' & purrrr!

[Asker]

Its too revealing?

[Ukrainianbuddafly]

I don't think the outfit with dark makeup is age appropriate but that doesn't mean they are sleeping together. That's hard to guess based on outfit alone.

[nevernevernever]

why are you sharing pics of your daughter online?

[ushagomez]

We can only know by asking her. What she wears has no bearing upon what she does. It’s a great dress and she looks lovely

[rachel776]

she could wear a dress like that whether she is or not

[TonyV]

That looks like a pretty tame dress to me, that dress dosent prove anything

[Asker]

Okay thanks.

[TommyMountainFigure]

She may or may not be sexually active, but wearing that dress alone? doesn't tell me she is!

[Mofunfour20]

How can anybody substantiate that by analyzing a photo of her? You really believe we can help you figure that out? Ask those friggin people since you want to know so bad. Jesus Christ

[modeve]

How old is she?

[slatyb]

How old is she and what business is it of theirs?

[Asker]

15 and none?

[slatyb]

Exactly. You might talk to your daughter about getting on birth control before she becomes sexually active.

[fantasticass]

What type of date was it? Did they go to a formal event where long dresses were the attire, or did she wear the dress to go to the local burger shop? Having sex has nothing to do with that dress. That's a whole different issue.✌

[Asker]

A 15 bday papery

[Dargil]

Everyone is telling you?

[scuff1986]

The dress looks fine and let's face it there are plenty of other outfits that can show off a lot more. If she is sexually active we'll that's her choice. As long as she's sensible and safe then there isn't really any issue

[Asker]

I feel like i should be able to have a say in it.

[scuff1986]

Did anyone have a say when you first started being sexually active? Know my parents did care as long as I was willing to accept the consequences of my actions

[Asker]

No but when I became pregnant i got kicked out.

[scuff1986]

If no one had a say in when you started, then you shouldn't have a say when she is. All you could do is talk to her and warn her not control it

[Asker]

I guess.

[scuff1986]

How would you of felt if your mom told you who you could and couldn't fuck? Most would of rebel against that. Just give her warning and let her have fun like you probably did before falling pregnant

[Asker]

I still have fun now.

[scuff1986]

You may do, but when you were her age, if your parents started telling you who and when you could fuck. You wouldn't of listened

[Asker]

Ya h :/

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

I don't see how you could tell if a girl is having sex because she is dressing up like Jessica Rabbit.