Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health im a 36 year old man and my girlfriend is 35
we have been together for just over a year now and I love her... a lot. she feels the same way and things have been great. we clicked from day 1 and we've not had a single argument in the year we have been together.
even after a year together we still have sex multiple times a day and i can honestly say its the best sex I've ever had, in fact she wants sex so much i sometimes find it hard to keep up.
things are great.
however, she occasionally gets cold sores and she woke up on boxing day with one... the problem is we had oral sex Christmas day and this morning i noticed a small spot on my penis and a tingling feeling in my lips so im worried she may have given me herpes.
I've never had an STD and have never suffered from cold sores so im hoping im over reacting but Im going to book an appointment at the sexual health clinic in the morning just to be safe, but i can't help but feel a little pissed off.
she said her lips were hurting but she thought it was from the cold weather. She feels terrible about it and i know its an accident but I can't decide how i feel.
the thing is, i also went down on her multiple times so its very likely she will have it too which im beating myself up about even though i wasn't to know.
My girlfriend may have given me an STD. Should I be angry?
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15 27Generally speaking you can't past cold sores unless the person has one forming and it can be past to another person just from sharing a drink sharing food kissing etc. its not the same as the std type but to help treat it they still proscribe for it just like they do for herps and shingles. cold sore is herpe simplex and shingle is a form of herpes same general family but different strains. reason why i know any of this is bc my ex gets cold sores which her nephew gave it to her by sharing a drink. so when she had one there was no kissing etc. stress can bring a out break and there is no cure but there is medication to manage it
no just get your self fixed
Boxing day with a US location?
Why? It wasn't like she didn't tell you she had one when she knows she has one
You have a right
and seems like something you should have asked her before you did it
YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW
Well, it's your fault. You got yourself in this trouble by not making sure beforehand to confirm she's clean. Good luck, hope you recover soon
He never mentioned that he didn’t.
No you shouldn't
If she knowingly have it to you you should be angry?
Who did she catch it from?
How long did she have it?
Sounds like you have a lot to be angry about.
Save it for later and both of you get tested first. Try nit getting in arguments. Step away from her if possible. Let her know. You need to step away.
No you shouldn’t be mad that she and you had some bad luck (maybe)
Yeah I’d be mad. She either didn’t tell you that she had it, wasn’t smart enough to get herself checked, or cheated on you. All options are poor.
What does anger get you? Seh may not have known that she even had it!.
Hell yes you should be pissed off mad
This is very common and if it's gets too painful there are medications that you can take for it to help with outbreaks, try not to worry about it too much just talk with you doctor about it if symptoms continue.
firstly, you also chose to get sexual with her with a cold sore.
herpes doesn't just turn up because of cold sores. she'd have to gotten herpes from somewhere, so unless you're in a open relationship, why would she have it?
please go back and read my original post. she didn't have a cold sore on Christmas day which is when we had oral sex, but she did feel the tingly feeling that comes before any physical symptoms. herpes is still contagious at this point but she didn't mention she might have a cold sore outbreak coming.
Hopefully you still have a very high sex drive or libido over 35
Id get over it.
Stds.
Dont show up right away a lot of times.
I've caught stds, From having unprotected sex with girls i was in a relationship with.
but it still wouldn’t put me off to not have sex with her.
some antibiotics, and a little time, and your good to go.
Dont beat your self up, And. It happens.
Dont let it get between you guys and the relationship. If its a good healthy relationship
If it is only one spot, I can almost certainly guarantee it isn't genital herpes.
It is possible for hsv1 to be passed on to the genistals through oral sex and become hsv2, but believe me, you will know if you get hsv2.