Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health So.. my bad.. I actually made my girlfriend confess that overall I'm her second best partner in her entire life (she's 28).
I thought that it wouldn't affect me but it does... badly.
I can't even make love to her anymore. It feels so dirty, so bad. I feel like I'm hating myself whenever I'm thinking about making love to her.
Is there any way to fix this? or maybe I should consider breaking up soon?
I love her with all my heart and soul but I can't take it.. I simply can't. It's too hard for me to bear this. I feel weak, the sex would be chaotic. I would feel ashamed of actually having sex with her...
What should I do?
My girlfriend told me that overall I'm not the best partner she ever had and I can't seem to deal with it and can't even make love anymore. What should I do?
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26 48Break it off. If she feels that way, she is comparing you to others. People who TRULY car and love their other won't compare them to others. This girl is obviously trailer park!
Get over it. I understand why it makes you feel weird but all your doing is hurting yourself, her, and your relationship. She said second not worst - second isn't a bad rating. If you really concerned talk to her about what you can do to be better and do that. Communication is key.
Probably not but u brought it on yourself
Your girlfriend is a bit#$
You so beatiful
Yeah break up. Nobody should feel ashamed to have sex with their own partners. :/
Follow his advice.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/DCSwRM1qiXUYour relationship will be uphill at best, with you always having to measure up to an arbitrary standard. It probably has no future.
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Yeah, one thing you shouldn't discuss with your partner is whether or not they are the the best they've had. The second thing you should never discuss with your partner is how many people you've been with. Getting over either of those 2 facts are the most difficult struggles you will ever try to overcome in a relationship. Advice on how to do that successfully, I don't even think the smartest scientists in the world can come up with the answers. Good luck.
Is it out of the question for her to tell you what she wants? I mean there are physical differences surely, but can you not improve with practice and feedback? If you can't you can't, but I if she can coach you into how she likes it you'll be #1. Also... she's with you and not that other guy, must be a reason.
Last thought I have is dont ask questions you don't want to know the answer to. GL man.
Well, you're #2. Better than #10. Once someone gets used to you, it won't be as good in their head usually as the other person they had good sex with.
Sounds like she should have kept her mouth shut or stayed away from you to begin with.
Get better practice makes perfect ask her what areas you're lacking in I mean come on grow up. Something's a challenge and you quit? Get back in there and blow her back out if it's a size issue then go buy a sleeve or an extension and bring it in the mix every now and then. Sex is for grown ups so grow up and handle your business
Firstly, 2nd best is still really good.
"maybe I should consider breaking up soon? I love her with all my heart and soul"
No. that would be a huge mistake
"Is there any way to fix this?"
Yes. Get better at sex. Learn. Try things. Have the right vibes. Make her feel comfortable. Make her feel.
"I can't take it.. I simply can't. It's too hard for me to bear this. I feel weak"
It does sound like a huge blow.. but you're not weak. but you can always be stronger!
"I would feel ashamed of actually having sex with her..."
Yeah I would feel ashamed too, but use that to motivate yourself to improve.
"What should I do?"
Don't give up. View it as a challenge. You can do this! Go fuck her like she's never been fucked before, and if she's been fucked like that, then fuck her even better!! haha
It's your ego. A fragile ego.
1. Understand YOU are with her, not someone else. She chose YOU.
2. Just cuz a guy can make her cum all over the place does not mean he is an ideal partner - a guys value is greater than what his dick does.
3. You are CHOOSING all the whiny emotions you're throwing out here. They are not based in any kind of facts or logic, just your own fragile ego and your feelings are hurt. Get the fuck over yourself.
4. If she's a worthless bitch then dump her ass. If she's the best thing to ever happen in your life then sit down like adults and TELL her how you feel. Give her the opportunity to console you, tell you what REALLY IS important to her.
Sounds like you need to find something new to do in the bedroom. I would also suggest counseling for yourself. Also, if you are even suggesting the thought of breaking up over it, you probably should, as you have deep issues that counseling might not be able to fix in a timely manner.
Yeah... I'd break up I'd my girlfriend told me some bullshit like that.
Well least she's honest. she's maybe hinting for you to move on.
Women often can be hurtful or cold like this with men they dont respect and dont care about, she's probably got another man in the wings and is stringing you along until she gets the slightest commitment from you then your ass is dumped. I suggest you become harder and act colder with her, keep fucking her until your ready to move on.
Then just leave her
Tell her u aren't either, thats not what i saw in you first
Shame i wasted my time
Well she already said you aren't #1, so she gave you #2 probably to make you feel better. Truth be told, you may actually be lower than that. You may not be the best, but you're with her now so live in the moment because you never know when it will end, and if the next one tells you you're #1, it's possible she's lying to make you feel better as well. Nothing against you, just realize you aren't always a winner and it's better to have what you have now than to go through life like some others that never have anyone to love or love them back. If you base the rest of this relationship on the fact that someone in her past tapped that ass better than you did, you may be single soon. Tip: They almost always had better. Relax and get you some.
Don't ask a question if you're not prepared to hear the answer.