My student wants to have sex with me. What should I do?

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Before anything, I've been her college professor for two semester already. I always noticed she kept smiling at me, laughing at every one of my bad jokes, she would get super nervous everytime I came around to check her work. I always want my students to succeed and for that reason I've kept myself professional regardless of the things she would do, she's not so good in math but she's really good in other subjects. 

The problem is that I really like her , she's beautiful, smart, she's successful with her own business. Now she's been stuck in my mind for almost a year. I have refused not only because she's my student, it's against college policy, but also because I'm older than her. Yesterday she arrived before class to ask for help so I sat down infront of her desk to show her how to solve the math problems and she did something unexpected. She placed her foot in between my legs while I was talking. She then said in a low voice that she had always liked me & that she would love tohave sex with me and to forgive her imprudence if she was disturbing me. I could tell she was nervous, she even blushed and confesses her friend had advices her to be straight forward with me. I stood up immediately and pretended that didn't happen, but I can't help it, I really like her and I would love to take her on a date, is just that I don't know if I should. 

Any suggestions or opinions, bad or good I will appreciate! Thanks a lot!

PeachSunset · Accepted Answer

NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.
Nothing against lesbians, God no, its not my life-style, but if its others its none of my business. But not only is that wrongful according to law, its just morally wrong as well. You are her elder, you are supposed to be there to guide her and properly teach her for her future, not fuck her! Not only that but this could totally ruin her reputation and most importantly, could get you fired. If she's under-age that means jail-time as well. She has good life ahead of her, you have a good job.. don't ruin things.

aithe4ngel · Accepted Answer

tell her thats ok and if she wishes to pursue it do it next quarter as a relationship when she's not in her class and ask her not to enroll in your classes anymore so there's noconflict of intrests. It also helps you both learn and show patience and if you have real interest in each other she's waited and im sure you knkow how to weight so make the investment. If you only like it cuse its worn to play with a student then your going to get burned and thats a personal problem and conflict of interest but good lick i dunno...

Blonde401 · Accepted Answer

Terrible idea. Seems like a good one now but it won't end well. What if you want to break it off? Or not sleep with her again? And what if she uses the information to destroy your career? Don't risk it. If she's worth it, wait until she's no longer your student. It's very flattering, I agree and it seems like a good idea but there's a reason there are rules against this. Don't do it, don't risk your job over a night of passion. All these things end eventually, protect yourself.

archiz · Accepted Answer

This will only end up bad to both of you. For a small fling you re gonna damage both of your lifes. Or transfer her in abother class Or change jobs and dste her. She s over 18 right?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well, if you DO do anything, wait until after she's not your student any more. And tell her that you can't do anything while she's your student.

I had a student who was interested in me, less age difference. I would have hooked up with her, but someone else took me on a date a week before the semester ended and we hit it off. Once grades are in... probably morally acceptable, with all the usual caveats of large age differences (make sure you leave them in better shape than you found them ;) )

bryon · Accepted Answer

She is over 18 obviously so the legal a are a mute point here. The only real issue is ethical... She finds you attractive and you reciprocate.. If there are ground rules in place and this meeting were away from anyone that could potentially cause trouble , I say no harm no foul

RansomDraven · Answer

Is it worth losing your wife over? If the answer is yes, there is your answer. If yes then you've already given up on your marriage and regardless of if you pursue this girl or not, your wife deserves out. But also remember that love is only what you both put into it. Is it worth it to pursue your wife and remember why you guys fell in love with eachother? Good luck whatever direction you go.

samhradh_leannan · Answer

a. You're married.
b. She's your student.

If you do this, you will be completely throwing your life away. Is that really what you want?

If it is, at least do the decent thing (or the less despicable thing, anyway) and end your relationship with your wife first. There is no excuse or justification for cheating.

angbelles · Answer

I'm going to say option C: you're married. I could understand for any other reason but you made a commitment to someone, and cheating can destroy someone. If you're not happy with your wife than leave her. If you have thought about finding happiness with someone else your wife deserves that chance as well.

LittleSally · Answer

Wow! You're a college professor and don't know the difference between 'my wife and I' and 'my wife and me'! O. o

Nice!

Either way - is sleeping with a college student worth ruining your whole life potentially over a one night stand?
Or several night stands - which could potentially end in extortion... Or terrible reputation - of you as an 'academic'...

Think hard about this.

ichot · Answer

Stay professional, don't dip (uh.. smear?) into company ink. Keep your profession/career and sex separate.  You handled it well.

Drooogie4 · Answer

You're married. Is a fling worth your marriage?  And either way, it is against policy and your job could be in trouble if she has a loose mouth.

Quacken · Answer

Ok i dont get it she's not that much younger than you if your a 25yr/f like it says, but that being said professionally, morally, and ethically you shphld not go near that. Your asking for trouble. Its also kind of ballsy thag she told you staight up she wanted sex not knowing how you would respond. That type of situation is going to get you in trouble.

askmegirls93 · Answer

dude keep your professional and your personal life on two different sides, you shouldn't be having a relation with her as a professor, but you can maintain a relationship with her as a guy. so go for it and stop hesitating. by the way being in a relationship with a teacher/student is a fantasy i have ever dreamt of but could never fulfill, you can do it on my behalf too :-p.

gamer_guy16 · Answer

Well t goes like this you either have to choose her or your wife if you want her and not your wife then there's your answer but my advice would be that even if you want her then i would wait until she isn't your student anymore because she probably isn't worth your job and i would tell her that she would have to wait until she is no longer your student so you don't lose your job

sean1234 · Answer

Nothing, ignore. Transfer her to another class.

mangue · Answer

How old is she and how old are you?

howzit2015 · Answer

can't you date students?

tortelina · Answer

You would think a teacher would know how to write without so many errors... How do you spell troll?

IamNuts · Answer

WTF you're married and you actually want us to decide if it's okay or not to cheat on her... smh. You're despicable.

bluenose1872 · Answer

You GIRL student wants to have lesbian sex with you. Jesus what a porno that would make. Men fantasise about this stuff. You're making it up surely? Why was I born too early?