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My student wants to have sex with me. What should I do?

Before anything, I've been her college professor for two semester already. I always noticed she kept smiling at me, laughing at every one of my bad jokes, she would get super nervous everytime I came around to check her work. I always want my students to succeed and for that reason I've kept myself professional regardless of the things she would do, she's not so good in math but she's really good in other subjects. The problem is that I really like her , she's beautiful, smart, she's successful with her own business. Now she's been stuck in my mind for almost a year. I have refused not only because she's my student, it's against college policy, but also because I'm older than her. Yesterday she arrived before class to ask for help so I sat down infront of her desk to show her how to solve the math problems and she did something unexpected. She placed her foot in between my legs while I was talking. She then said in a low voice that she had always liked me & that she would love tohave sex with me and to forgive her imprudence if she was disturbing me. I could tell she was nervous, she even blushed and confesses her friend had advices her to be straight forward with me. I stood up immediately and pretended that didn't happen, but I can't help it, I really like her and I would love to take her on a date, is just that I don't know if I should. Any suggestions or opinions, bad or good I will appreciate! Thanks a lot!
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  • NO, NO, NO, NO, NO.
    Nothing against lesbians, God no, its not my life-style, but if its others its none of my business. But not only is that wrongful according to law, its just morally wrong as well. You are her elder, you are supposed to be there to guide her and properly teach her for her future, not fuck her! Not only that but this could totally ruin her reputation and most importantly, could get you fired. If she's under-age that means jail-time as well. She has good life ahead of her, you have a good job.. don't ruin things.

  • tell her thats ok and if she wishes to pursue it do it next quarter as a relationship when she's not in her class and ask her not to enroll in your classes anymore so there's noconflict of intrests. It also helps you both learn and show patience and if you have real interest in each other she's waited and im sure you knkow how to weight so make the investment. If you only like it cuse its worn to play with a student then your going to get burned and thats a personal problem and conflict of interest but good lick i dunno...

    • gosh there's a lot of typos sorry y'all someone needs to go to sleep good luck lady

  • Terrible idea. Seems like a good one now but it won't end well. What if you want to break it off? Or not sleep with her again? And what if she uses the information to destroy your career? Don't risk it. If she's worth it, wait until she's no longer your student. It's very flattering, I agree and it seems like a good idea but there's a reason there are rules against this. Don't do it, don't risk your job over a night of passion. All these things end eventually, protect yourself.

  • This will only end up bad to both of you.
    For a small fling you re gonna damage both of your lifes.
    Or transfer her in abother class
    Or change jobs and dste her.
    She s over 18 right?

Most Helpful Guys

  • Well, if you DO do anything, wait until after she's not your student any more. And tell her that you can't do anything while she's your student.

    I had a student who was interested in me, less age difference. I would have hooked up with her, but someone else took me on a date a week before the semester ended and we hit it off. Once grades are in... probably morally acceptable, with all the usual caveats of large age differences (make sure you leave them in better shape than you found them ;) )

  • She is over 18 obviously so the legal a are a mute point here. The only real issue is ethical... She finds you attractive and you reciprocate.. If there are ground rules in place and this meeting were away from anyone that could potentially cause trouble , I say no harm no foul

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  • Is it worth losing your wife over? If the answer is yes, there is your answer. If yes then you've already given up on your marriage and regardless of if you pursue this girl or not, your wife deserves out. But also remember that love is only what you both put into it. Is it worth it to pursue your wife and remember why you guys fell in love with eachother? Good luck whatever direction you go.

  • a. You're married.
    b. She's your student.

    If you do this, you will be completely throwing your life away. Is that really what you want?

    If it is, at least do the decent thing (or the less despicable thing, anyway) and end your relationship with your wife first. There is no excuse or justification for cheating.

  • I'm going to say option C: you're married. I could understand for any other reason but you made a commitment to someone, and cheating can destroy someone. If you're not happy with your wife than leave her. If you have thought about finding happiness with someone else your wife deserves that chance as well.

  • Wow! You're a college professor and don't know the difference between 'my wife and I' and 'my wife and me'! O. o

    Nice!

    Either way - is sleeping with a college student worth ruining your whole life potentially over a one night stand?
    Or several night stands - which could potentially end in extortion... Or terrible reputation - of you as an 'academic'...

    Think hard about this.

  • Stay professional, don't dip (uh.. smear?) into company ink. Keep your profession/career and sex separate.

    You handled it well.

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